Re: Pregnant, Having An Abortion But Worried About My Bf... Posted: 06-21-07 17:16pm
hey dont worry aye i was rape by my
boyfrind at the age of thirteen and became
pregenet and had gone thoguht a abortion
at this age it all easy proceedre thats
only 5mins long but youll be asleep for 15
mins and wake up. abortion is 10 times
safer than giving birth youll only get
camps on the night you come home and
should rest and relax. you shoul;d think
about it first though because it not
really good for the body. but nothing bad
has ever happened in a abortion
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nikkimuffin18
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 2 Location: cape cod
Hi Posted: 06-21-07 17:41pm
hey there,
just to let you know i believe doing
everthing you could possible to prevent a
pregnancy is VERY responsible but seeing
as how it happend to you obviously your
fertile mertile! Anywho, Seeing as your
not usuing abortion as a type of birth
control i would say do what you feel. if
ur not ready your not ready. thats all
there is to it. But do it as soon as
possible because at some point youll be
able to here that heartbeat and see its
bloodflow and it will be too hard for you
to carry out. If your bf is really the one
for you he will stick by your side
regardless if he doesnt understand what
you decide to do hes not worth crying
over. Sadly many men are like that. Well
ive said my peace and my prayers are with
you!
p.s. im not very religious and i ...
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Jude-Love
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jun 2007 Posts: 727 Location: Williamstown, Kentucky USA
Posted: 06-21-07 17:55pm
A lot of women choose surgical over
medical because a surgical abortion lasts
one day, once you go home, it's over with.
But with medical, you have to go home and
wait for the fetus to pass. That bothers
some women, which is understandable.
Obviously, you can't control how your
boyfriend feels. Right now, he just might
be scared and feeling kind of cut off from
this whole situation because he's a male
and has no real control over things and
can't know what it's like from your
perspective. However, it isn't really
fair of him to view *you* negatively for
your choice, as he was in this with you
and had a hand in getting you pregnant.
You have only been with him for six
months, so you really shouldn't let him
affect your decision. If you decided
against it because of his "negative" view
of you and then later you two broke up,
you'd be raising that child still.
Good luck, I am sure everything is going
to be fine with your procedure.
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hurthawk
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jun 2007 Posts: 11 Location: United States
Posted: 06-21-07 19:03pm
jenn_smithson
wrote:
Hey Hawk.
Just checking up on you. How are you
doing? Drop us a line and let us know how
you are.
Peace,
Jenn
Hey everyone. Sorry for not getting back
sooner. Today was the day. Well my
appointment was scheduled at 945am... got
there at 9am and didnt get out until
around 4pm. I'm okay... not really
cramping too badly. There were a few
painful moments during the procedure but i
would really more call them incredibly
uncomfortable. My boyfriend was with me
the whole time except during the actual
procedure. The past few days he's been
feeling depressed and i asked him a couple
of days ago if he possibly would want to
take a break to re-evaluate some things.
Within 25 minutes after the procedure was
done he told me he would like to do the
break for a week. He told me he wanted to
tell me that before but thought it might
be insensitive. I'd rather not get into a
lot of the details right now (Im tired
obviously... been up since 7am and it was
just a trying day. But i will post
possibly later tonight or tomorrow. I
guess its pretty easy to feel alone right
now. In my opinion he wasnt terribly
supportive... The timing with the
pregnancy really puts things into
perspective. Im going to just use this
next week as my own fun... hangout with
friends and relax. Im a bit bummed that im
not allowed to exercise since thats
definitely a steam off thing for me. By
the way... i did find out officially how
far along i was today... 10 1/2
weeks...and saw the ultrasound. So it does
look like i conceived within a week or two
of my changing the pills. What rotten
luck...im going to start back on sunday to
the original pill so that should be good.
Thanks for all the good thoughts everyone!
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 06-21-07 19:15pm
hurthawk
wrote:
In my opinion he wasnt terribly
supportive...
I would have to agree with you there.
It's nice that he was honest when he said
he did not know if his feelings would
change, but seriously, what a jerk. He
wanted you to get an abortion, and it
sounds like he would have done the same
thing if he were the pregnant one in the
relationship, so I don't know what his
problem is.
Ah, I guess I should not say anything bad
about him, it's probably a very emotional
thing for him too. Even when people want
an abortion, it can still be very
emotional whether they are the male or the
female.
That's good that you're feeling decent
today. How long before you can start
exercising again?
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sillyakchick
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Joined: 12 Apr 2007 Posts: 2712
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Posted: 06-21-07 21:26pm
I am glad you are doing OK and that things
went pretty well without complications.
Please get some rest and then post back to
let us know how you are doing.
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nightangel73
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Posted: 06-24-07 22:05pm
PurestGreen
wrote:
I sympathise with your
boyfriend but the choice ultimately lies
with you. If you are absolutely 100% sure
that you do not want this baby and you
won't consider adoption then abortion is
the only other option.
Be prepared for your boyfriend to throw
this back in your face at a later date
though. He is powerless and he may well
feel resentful. That's not meant to make
you change your mind or anything btw, I'm
just going on a gut feeling that he isn't
going to be able to accept the abortion of
his 'child' in the same way you are.
I really really hope that everything works
out for the best for you and wish you the
best of luck.
i was thinking the same thing purestgreen.
He would throw it back at her face later,
when he gets angry at her for something.
it's very common that of pregnancies when
switching pills. I too switched to a low
dose pill and didn't use condoms but
nothing happened. I think the pills work
better when you use them but you are not
scared of accidental pregnancy hehe
