I've Been Faking It! What Should I Do Now? Posted: 06-12-07 15:53pm
i am 28 years old and have been married
now for 3 1/2 years. i love my husband, he
is really sexy and feel desire for him.but
even when we first got married (arranged),
i did not climax while having sex with
him. let me clarify. i have the hots for
him, i feel the need to make love with
him, but i come rather infrequently. say
once in a month or even two months. the
rest of the time, i just fake it. it makes
me feel terrible, but i dont know what to
do. i fake it because i feel that lack of
climax on my part would hurt his pride and
our sex life would nose dive. should i
tell him this or not. besides i think he
knows anyway.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 06-12-07 15:55pm
What you can do instead is to begin doing
things during sex that will
make you orgasm. Your man would much
prefer you do than don't. DO you orgasm
when you masturbate? What works when
you're alone? Bring those things into your
sex life. Change is good!
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Llewellyn
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Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 06-12-07 15:57pm
I would be honest about it. I do not
think it is healthy to lie about that sort
of thing in a relationship. Women don't
usually orgasm as easily and as often as
men. That's nothing to be ashamed of.
Also, if you lie about what brings you to
orgasm, your partner will never learn what
really does work for you.
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enoman1
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Joined: 01 Jun 2007 Posts: 8 Location: pakistan
I Know! Posted: 06-12-07 16:15pm
Eiri
wrote:
What you can do instead is
to begin doing things during sex that
will make you orgasm. Your
man would much prefer you do than don't.
DO you orgasm when you masturbate? What
works when you're alone? Bring those
things into your sex life. Change is
good!
i know tat we need to have more sexual
openness between the two of us. i thought
things were fine and due to the decline in
our sexual activities, i was worried that
he wasnt findinmg me desirable anymore.
then i found out that he was frequenting
adult chatting sites where he had profiles
and also displayed photos of himself
without his shirt on. when i asked him why
he did it, he said he needed to explore
his sexuality.
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Tylanas
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Re: I Know! Posted: 06-12-07 17:10pm
enoman1
wrote:
Eiri
wrote:
What you can do instead is
to begin doing things during sex that
will make you orgasm. Your
man would much prefer you do than don't.
DO you orgasm when you masturbate? What
works when you're alone? Bring those
things into your sex life. Change is
good!
i know tat we need to have more sexual
openness between the two of us. i thought
things were fine and due to the decline in
our sexual activities, i was worried that
he wasnt findinmg me desirable anymore.
then i found out that he was frequenting
adult chatting sites where he had profiles
and also displayed photos of himself
without his shirt on. when i asked him why
he did it, he said he needed to explore
his sexuality.
Kick him out onto the couch for a night.
If he needs to explore his sexuality, he
needs to do it with you, or officially go
back out into the world on his own
(without you) to "explore" his sexuality;
doing it behind your back is totally
inappropriate. That's a doorway to
cheating. Either he remains happy with
you, or he needs to start a new life
without you. None of this "in-between"
crap. You'll end up the one hurt, and he
won't be.
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