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CAMAROGIRL42482
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2004
Posts: 98
Location: FENTON
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Need Someone to Talk to Plz
Posted: 02-29-04 17:31pm
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Me and my fiance got into a really big
fight. We were at the mall with some
friends and I asked if I could buy an
outfit so I dont have to wear sweats all
the time. He said no and then later on we
went into this one store and he asked if
he could buy a toy of some kind. And he
got pissed at me. See the thing is he
just spent 500 dollars on some tires for
these rims he bought for his camaro when
he just bought new tires on the old rims
that were on his car. And I got pissed
because I cant even by one outfit to make
me feel good about my self. He then told
me I was selfish and he hated me and I
need to find a new place to live plz help
am I in the wrong here?
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mommabear16
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2004
Posts: 1222
Location: illinois
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Posted: 02-29-04 17:32pm
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You had to ask him if you could buy an
outfit...Skrew him
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sparklypixie12
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003
Posts: 3099
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Posted: 02-29-04 17:36pm
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Oh my gosh! My guy is also obsessed with
cars & rims! You cannot get blokes
away from this stuff!
I think its out of order that he spends so
much & you cant have a new outfit.If
you work for your money then medical
question him-you spend it.Why should he
get something new & you cant.
Dont stand for it huni
liz x
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CAMAROGIRL42482
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2004
Posts: 98
Location: FENTON
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Posted: 02-29-04 17:50pm
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Thx guys, the money we spent was our tax
return. I just dont know what to do, as
soon as we got home he left. I hurt and I
dont know what I should do. I love him.
You know what he said to me he said once I
lose weight then I might be able to get an
outfit.
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mommabear16
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2004
Posts: 1222
Location: illinois
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Posted: 02-29-04 18:03pm
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Can you say..Controlling....You have every
right to buy a new outfit...You need it
more than some stupid car crap.
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sparklypixie12
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003
Posts: 3099
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Posted: 02-29-04 18:07pm
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The cheek of him! How could he say that
you need to loose weight first-that is so
cruel.Guys are so obssessed with cars!
Argh! Dont let him treat you like
that-you're entitled to spend money on
yourself too
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Scarf
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Feb 2004
Posts: 1061
Location: Ontario, Canada
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Posted: 02-29-04 19:26pm
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I, personally, wouldnt take that from a
guy. Hun, he has no right telling you
what you can and cannot buy. Hes a
hypocrite(sp?). If you cant buy something
for yourself then he shouldnt be allowed
to..Atleast what you wanted didnt cost as
much as what he bought..Ugh! I hate men
like that. I dont know what you should
do..And I wont tell you what to do. Its
all up to you and how you feel about him.
Best of luck
shannon
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mumof2
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Feb 2004
Posts: 307
Location: Australia
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Posted: 02-29-04 22:25pm
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All I can say is there are 3 types of
abuse: physical, emotional and finantal
hmmmmmmmmm is he controlling you honey????
Using your weight against you, not
letting you spend.... Maybe you need to
re-evaluate what is important to you, your
happiness, or his....... Write a
list..... See whats good and bad about
the relationship..... Then make a
decision that will make you happy in the
long run..... Its too easy to say leave
him.... I wont.... Just decide if thats
how you want to live....... Ill tell you
though the last person I asked if I could
buy something I needed was my dad, when I
was like 12, if he doesn't have to ask
you to spend the money, why should you
have to ask him, it belongs to both of u
doesnt it???/
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smith8500
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003
Posts: 6623
Location: Louisiana
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Hey
Posted: 02-29-04 22:28pm
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Wow. Sweetie, I am in no position to give
out relationship advice, but, in my
opinion you and him need to have a very
long and serious talk. Posession like
this, that he has over you, only tends to
escelate! You need to draw some
boundaries and soon! If you love him,
and he loves you, ya'll can make it work.
But somethings got to give. And you have
done nothing wrong so he's the one who's
gotta give!
Love,
chanda
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