hi. i am 28 years old , married for 4
years.i am 5-5, auburn hair fair
complexion green eyes. they say i am good
looking. problem is that after one baby,i
carry 190 pounds on my frame which means i
am FAT! i feel depressed, disgusted with
myself. everyone says that i am going to
waste my youth this way if i dont lose it
and then i'll regret it. they are right. i
love my husband who is quite a hunk. he is
also very athletic and well built, on top
of that he is obsessed with slim figures.
i am feeling etremely desperate now u see
about a couple of months ago i found out
he has profiles on adult chat sites. when
i confronted him with it, he said it was
nothing serious and only wanted to explore
his sexuality. since that episode, my sex
drive has nosedived, another strain on are
already mild sex life. he also hinted that
the reason that he doesnt want to make
love much was because i had become obese.
since then i have been making desperate
attempts to lose weight. my efforts work
for a little while and i lost weight but i
stopped exercising when i started getting
depressed. i feel ugly, unattractive and
loathsome. i am desperately trying to lose
weight to some extent i have been
succesful but i habitually binge on
something. afterwards i feel extremely
guilty and unhappy. lately, when i binge
on something sweet or high calorie, i go
into the bathroom and induce vomiting
otherwise i feel too depressed. i have
done it 5-6 times. am i bullimic or
becoming one? what should i do?
sounds like your heading down the pathway
to bulimia, id seek help before it gets
out of hand. Also try working with a
nutritionist to set up meal plans etc. It
doesnt help with your husbands atitude
towards you, i have 2 kids and am not as
skinny as i was when we met but he knows
my past with eating disorders etc , and he
is fine with me how i am but im not fine
with it. But i would def try and get some
sorta help before you wind up with full
blown bulimia. in the sticky are you or
aloved one suffering there are alot of
side affects caused by bulimia that are
worth the read so id check that out as
well.
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No one's life is worth going deeper into a
disorder. You're in time to change that,
by taking some actions and by getting help
- professional help, family help, friends
help.
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bibisim
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Joined: 08 Aug 2007 Posts: 76
Re: Am I Bullimic ? Posted: 08-08-07 06:41am
enoman1
wrote:
hi. i am 28 years old ,
married for 4 years.i am 5-5, auburn hair
fair complexion green eyes. they say i am
good looking. problem is that after one
baby,i carry 190 pounds on my frame which
means i am FAT! i feel depressed,
disgusted with myself. everyone says that
i am going to waste my youth this way if i
dont lose it and then i'll regret it. they
are right. i love my husband who is quite
a hunk. he is also very athletic and well
built, on top of that he is obsessed with
slim figures. i am feeling etremely
desperate now u see about a couple of
months ago i found out he has profiles on
adult chat sites. when i confronted him
with it, he said it was nothing serious
and only wanted to explore his sexuality.
since that episode, my sex drive has
nosedived, another strain on are already
mild sex life. he also hinted that the
reason that he doesnt want to make love
much was because i had become obese. since
then i have been making desperate attempts
to lose weight. my efforts work for a
little while and i lost weight but i
stopped exercising when i started getting
depressed. i feel ugly, unattractive and
loathsome. i am desperately trying to lose
weight to some extent i have been
succesful but i habitually binge on
something. afterwards i feel extremely
guilty and unhappy. lately, when i binge
on something sweet or high calorie, i go
into the bathroom and induce vomiting
otherwise i feel too depressed. i have
done it 5-6 times. am i bullimic or
becoming one? what should i
do?
Hi/ my dear,
would you stop having sex with your
husband if he had gained as much as you
did? if your answer is no, be sure he is a
worse person than you are and dont need to
care much about his attitude.
Now think: are you, apart from your
husband, yourself satisfied with your
body, life? think what would you like to
change in your life, there are many more
challenges out there. If you make yourself
feeling guilty and then force your body
not to eat and exersice I guarantee as a
former anorexbulemica you wont hold on
long. Plan your mentall and other work
goals for a day and by the way think of
getting satisfaction from your meals just
watching you get less food than you would
have if you wished to put on some pounds.
you know i am selebrating my release from
vomoting. 4 months now i am free. i have
binge cravings, but god, thank you for
supporting me on my way out of bulemia.
somehow i shall loose my pounds day by
day. a rapid weight loss is bad for your
skin anyway.
please dont do it, dont start, because you
shall waste your youth in fighting it . no
one is worthy of that sacrifice, your man
as well.
