Me and my boyfriend have been having sex
for about a month now and about the second
week after we got done we were in bed
talking and he asked if he could ask me a
question and i woulden't get mad, he asked
me if I had ever had a orgasm and I told
him I wasn't sure and he said I would
know. Well we came to the conclussion that
I haden't so a couple days later he
started doing different thing to try to
get me to. And for the past two weeks we
have tried so many things from oral sex to
using vibraters and its fun, but I never
have a orgasm, he said my clitoris might
be to small or something, what should I
do?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 06-13-07 12:07pm
Orgasms in the female have nothing to do
with penis size.
DO you masturbate? If not, I'd suggest
that you do a little, so you can find out
what makes you feel good. The important
part is to stimulate your clitoris. That's
what most women orgasm from... and not
vaginal sex! Vaginal sex feels nice and
all, but the majority of women need
clitoral stimulation to orgasm.
Also, don't be discouraged if it takes a
long time (we're talking... 20 minutes) to
come to orgasm.
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 06-13-07 12:30pm
Eiri is right; it has nothing to do with
size since the majority of women do not
orgasm from vaginal stimulation anyway.
We don't have as many sensitive nerve
endings far into our vagina either.
You'll have to explore and tell him what
feels good and what does not. Try
masturbation and oral sex. Most women
find those two to be the easiest to orgasm
from.
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fiona05
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Posted: 06-13-07 17:28pm
if he is stimulating your clitoris with
his fingers, lubricant might help because
it keeps things nice and slippery -
friction on the clitoris isn't nice!
i would suggest that you are probably more
likely to orgasm by yourself first. if you
don't find it easy or indeed possible to
do it manually then maybe you could find a
vibrator.
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so sad
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Please Help :( Posted: 06-13-07 17:43pm
I have not had an orgasm with my husband
since we have been together... 3 years
now. In college, I was able to orgasm,
even multiple times, by always being on
top with my legs completely behind me
staddling my partner. I would control the
motion and use my arms to hold my self up
to do the motioning. My husband says that
hurts him.
I have no clue how to get an orgasm now,
as that is the only way with a partner, or
vibrator, I am able to do so. We use
plenty of lubrication.
Any suggestions? I am desperate, and now I
am starting to feel resentment for sex
altogether.
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Tylanas
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Re: Please Help :( Posted: 06-13-07 21:16pm
so sad
wrote:
I have not had an orgasm
with my husband since we have been
together... 3 years now. In college, I was
able to orgasm, even multiple times, by
always being on top with my legs
completely behind me staddling my partner.
I would control the motion and use my arms
to hold my self up to do the motioning. My
husband says that hurts him.
I have no clue how to get an orgasm now,
as that is the only way with a partner, or
vibrator, I am able to do so. We use
plenty of lubrication.
Any suggestions? I am desperate, and now I
am starting to feel resentment for sex
altogether.
Well, is there any way to mimic that
position in other ways?
The issue is stimulating your clitoris
(normally) so why don't you manually
stimulate it with your fingers during sex?
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so sad
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Joined: 13 Jun 2007 Posts: 2
Posted: 06-14-07 08:48am
any suggestions on positions? we have
tried a lot that don't work. any one else
out there that gets orgasms this way?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 06-14-07 10:24am
I'd suggest the same thing to you:
stimulate your clitoris manually with your
fingers during sex.
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nikoleM
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Posted: 06-15-07 15:45pm
i have a question???? okay me and my
partner have sex for like and hour to like
an hour in a half...and i still can not
climax???? what the hell am i doing
wrong?? also i have been exploring my
body..and i have been using a vibrater
like in the shower and i'm getting closer
to having a clitoral orgasm!!! i like
it!!! also this might sound stupid but
what is friction when having sex????
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Tylanas
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Posted: 06-15-07 17:47pm
nikoleM
wrote:
i have a question???? okay
me and my partner have sex for like and
hour to like an hour in a half...and i
still can not climax???? what the hell am
i doing wrong?? also i have been exploring
my body..and i have been using a vibrater
like in the shower and i'm getting closer
to having a clitoral orgasm!!! i like
it!!! also this might sound stupid but
what is friction when having
sex????
Okay, vaginal penetration honestly has
nothing to do with female orgasm, unless
you're one of the few who only orgasm
vaginally, and it seems unlikely that you
are.
You are not necessarily doing anything
wrong, but you might not be doing enough.
You will probably always have to stimulate
your clitoris during sex in order to
orgasm.
It's good that you're getting closer to
orgasm! Go for it; relax. I've found that
it is very hard to orgasm while standing,
so make sure you're laying in the tub and
nice and relaxed.
Friction is what happens when two objects
rub against each other. During sex,
clearly, the penis and the vagina rub
against each other. This friction during
sex is normally pleasurable.
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