sunshinebabygrl
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Posted: 06-13-07 23:18pm
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Hi everyone my name is tracii and Iam new
to this site and need sum advice...Ok its
like this iam 13 and I have a bf and for a
long time he has been asking me to have
sex but iam not ready for that wouldn't
won't my mom or daddy to find out because
they don't even know that I go out wit him
but he's been saying that he was going to
break up wit me if I didn't do it but then
he says he just playing but sometimes I
believe him and I don't want him to do
that because I really love him. And he
already has a 3month old baby and I don't
want to ever get pregnant I don't no wat
my parents would do if I did or wat I
would do..
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-13-07 23:37pm
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honey listen, you're 13 and if you're not
ready to have sex, do not do it! if
he says he's going to break up with you
then dump him, seriously. if he loved you
then he would want to wait until you wre
ready for sex and not push you into it. im
not saying he doesn't love you, but if
you're not ready, tell him that and tell
him that he better not pressure you into
it because if he loves you then he won't.
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sunshinebabygrl
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Posted: 06-13-07 23:59pm
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I tell him that all the time and that is
what makes him made and he'll be like if u
think I don't love why you still with me
and I don't like when he gets mad at me
and starts yelling and stuff like that.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-14-07 00:02am
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by the sounds of it it doesn't sound real
healthy, if he's going to yell at you
because you don't want to have sex then i
don't think you should be with him. he
shouldn't pressure you to have sex with
him and if you dont want to have sex then
do not give in, you will regret it later
in life if you do it when you're not
ready.
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babyplusmommy
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Posted: 06-14-07 18:12pm
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| HcoBrunette06
wrote: | | by the sounds of it it
doesn't sound real healthy, if he's going
to yell at you because you don't want to
have sex then i don't think you should be
with him. he shouldn't pressure you to
have sex with him and if you dont want to
have sex then do not give in, you will
regret it later in life if you do it when
you're not
ready. |
I agree with her. You shouldn't be having
sex at 13, much less get pressured into
it. I think you should dump him. Not
jumping to conclusions here, just a
though, maybe he's in it for the sex? "I
love you," are three words I would take
VERY lightly in this situation. Don't
have sex with anyone because you love them
or they love you. Make sure you'll be
together forever. I don't have any
regrets, but I had sex at 15 because I
thought I was going to be with someone for
the rest of my life and boom, condom
breaks and I'm pregnant. The night I find
this out I also find out he cheated on me
multiple times and lied to about almost
everything. I'm going to be a single mom,
end of story. So I'd say wait. Possibly
until you're married?
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sunshinebabygrl
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Posted: 06-14-07 23:50pm
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I can't dump him maybe he will stop asking
me about it but I don't think he's with me
just for that because we aren't doing
anything and I do wanna be with him for
the rest of my life and get married when I
get older.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-15-07 02:01am
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i wanted to marry paul walker when i was
13. trust me guys find self confidence
and a high self esteem attractive. if
someone is pressuring you then you deserve
better.. be a strong women!!
think of how many couples you know (adult
couples) who have been together since they
were 13. it doesnt happen often. im not
saying its not possible but i got married
when i was 18 and i still got a divorce
because you change so much as a person as
you get older. dont let any guy make you
feel useless and dont let anyone pressure
you into anything. have respect for
yourself and other people are going to
have respect for you as well.
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babyplusmommy
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Posted: 06-15-07 14:50pm
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| sunshinebabygrl
wrote: | | I can't dump him maybe he
will stop asking me about it but I don't
think he's with me just for that because
we aren't doing anything and I do wanna be
with him for the rest of my life and get
married when I get
older. |
Yes, but he's still pressuring you to have
sex and yelling because you won't?
Obviously he's looking for something. If
you guys break up then maybe you should
find someone close to your age who
RESPECTS you.
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sunshinebabygrl
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Posted: 06-17-07 03:17am
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Yes, but he's still pressuring you to have
sex and yelling because you won't?
Obviously he's looking for something. If
you guys break up then maybe you should
find someone close to your age who
RESPECTS you.[/quote]
Yes ok ill try..
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 06-17-07 09:55am
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Darling you need to do more than try. You
might not like what we're saying but this
guy does not respect you one bit, if he
did he wouldn't give a damn if you ever
had sex with him
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c00kie321
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Posted: 06-20-07 08:30am
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How old is he by the way? You say he has a
3mo old baby already?
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sunshinebabygrl
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Posted: 06-21-07 14:12pm
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| Dannzibelle
wrote: | | Darling you need to do more
than try. You might not like what we're
saying but this guy does not respect you
one bit, if he did he wouldn't give a
bless if you ever had sex with
him |
Its not that I dont like what your saying
I know your just trying to help me but its
hard for me to do because its more to the
situation. I just don't think nobody
understands.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 06-21-07 14:14pm
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Well in that case you have two choices,
have sex with him even though you don't
want to or stand your ground and don't
sleep with him. Only you know what is
right for you and only you know what this
guy is like i'm just saying if it was me i
would be out of there quicker than a
speeding bullet
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sunshinebabygrl
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Posted: 06-21-07 14:23pm
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| c00kie321
wrote: | | How old is he by the way?
You say he has a 3mo old baby
already? |
He 18 that's why I can't let my mom or
daddy know because iam not suppose to be
going out with him..
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-21-07 14:34pm
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well then why don't you tell us the whole
story instead of half of it so we can
understand?
i understand completely, he's 18 and
you're 13 and he's using you for sex. but
you won't give it to him so he's throwing
a fit. plain and simple.
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sunshinebabygrl
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Posted: 06-21-07 14:37pm
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Yes I do know wats right for me and iam
not going to do anything wit him. And
thanks for the advice.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-21-07 14:45pm
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good im proud of you  we wouldnt want u
to do anything you'd regret if you weren't
completely ready, so good for you.
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Posted: 06-21-07 20:25pm
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Sunshinebabygrl, you are either in love
with this boy or infatuated with him. If
he attempts to have you do something you
don't want to do or aren't ready for he
does NOT love you! I am a guy and can
honestly tell you... it seems like all he
wants is sex not you. AND YOU DESERVE
BETTER!
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Posted: 06-21-07 21:52pm
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oh man ive been here
honey when you are 16 you will be saying
"i never loved him" and when your 20 youll
say "you didnt even know what love was at
that age"
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kerryn
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Posted: 06-26-07 17:45pm
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I agree with her, I was 16 and going out
with a 38 year old, it wasnt healthy, and
i know that now but at the time, he was my
world. I wasnt allowed to tell anyone
either, but i stayed with him coz he was
my world. I realised later that all he
wanted me for was sex because i was young,
but he used to pretend that he really
cared about me. I realised that and left
him. I am now with someone that respects
me, doesnt pressure me into doing anything
and is proud to be with me. So proud in
fact that he carried me through a mall and
kissed me in front of everyone. wait for
someone like that before you have sex with
anyone, it makes it more special. And
listen to your body. It will tell you,
along with your heart, when you are ready.
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