Me and my wife just lost our baby boy last
thursday. My wifes due date was June 5th.
On the 7th while getting ready I asked if
the baby was kicking and she said not that
much. She called the nurse and went in to
check and they didn't find a heart beat.
My wife had a doc appointment Monday June
4th and everything was fine. She had to
deliver the baby. He was 7lbs and 21
inches. He was so cute. It wasn't a cord
accident and she received the preliminary
autopsy report today and they didn't find
anything wrong with them. He didn't choke
on his poop or have any heart issues.
We think that the doctors screwed up on
her due date. Her original due date was
May 21 and they bumped it back till June
5th. Would that much time cause the baby
to not get enough oxygen? My wife is very
small framed lady. We just want an answer
to what happened. We were so close to his
birth. My wife asked her doctor to induce
on monday when she was there and the
doctor said no. Has anyone had a still
born this late in a pregnancy?
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Bridget
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Posted: 06-14-07 10:51am
unfortunately i don't have any answers for
you.
i just wanted to say how very sorry i am.
i can't even imagine what you're going
through. i'm almost in tears just thinking
about it.
i'm so so sorry.
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jerry8989
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jun 2007 Posts: 4
Posted: 06-14-07 10:58am
IHeartMyBostonTerrier thank you.
We are still in shock because it was so
out of the blue. Everyone I called to
give the news too thought I was calling to
tell them she had the baby. Then I have
to tell them that the baby died. We want
answers to be honest I don't think we will
ever get them. My brother is a nurologist
and his really close friend is an OBGYN
and she told us that the chance of knowing
what happend are 50/50. Her and my
brother advised us to hire a lawyer to get
the records and have his own doctors look
over them. That way we have an outside
source look and see if there was any
mistakes made. If they say there wasn't
then we will at least know it wasn't the
doctors fault but just life.
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philippa67
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2007 Posts: 1 Location: newcastle
Re: Stillborn Question Posted: 06-19-07 08:25am
jerry8989
wrote:
Me and my wife just lost our
baby boy last thursday. My wifes due date
was June 5th. On the 7th while getting
ready I asked if the baby was kicking and
she said not that much. She called the
nurse and went in to check and they didn't
find a heart beat. My wife had a doc
appointment Monday June 4th and everything
was fine. She had to deliver the baby.
He was 7lbs and 21 inches. He was so
cute. It wasn't a cord accident and she
received the preliminary autopsy report
today and they didn't find anything wrong
with them. He didn't choke on his poop or
have any heart issues. We think that
the doctors screwed up on her due date.
Her original due date was May 21 and they
bumped it back till June 5th. Would that
much time cause the baby to not get enough
oxygen? My wife is very small framed
lady. We just want an answer to what
happened. We were so close to his birth.
My wife asked her doctor to induce on
monday when she was there and the doctor
said no. Has anyone had a still born this
late in a
pregnancy?
I am very sorry to hear
of your loss, I lost my daughter who also
went just over full term 7lbs 11oz, nobody
was ever able to say, which is hard
because you've nothing to focus your anger
at, nothing to hang it on. I have learnt
to accept by telling myself there was a
reason some days that reason is apparent
but equally there are many days where it
seems so wrong. All i can say is that the
reason why the gift of life is so joyous
is because it's nothing short of a
miracle. Time is a great healer it's been
eight years so it's easier for me to say,
but my 16year old son and I talk about our
little girl often. Warmest thoughts.
Philippa
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Snutty
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jun 2007 Posts: 2 Location: Netherlands
Posted: 06-19-07 10:52am
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I hope you will find the answer you are
looking for to help you both deal with
your loss.
My best wishes to you both.
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jerry8989
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jun 2007 Posts: 4
Thank You Posted: 06-19-07 11:30am
Thank You to everyone who has left a post.
I really really appreciate your help
during these hard times. The hard thing
now is waiting for all of my wife's
medical records so we can give them to our
lawyer. Once his experts go though them
and let us know if there was a mistake
made we will start to have closure. If
they say there was no mistake by the
doctors then we will believe it was just
his time to go and that he is an angel in
heaven with Jesus and God.
How long before it really sets in? I
still feel like it's a dream and that my
wife was never pregnant.
Has anyone who had this happen to them
this late in their pregnancy ever had the
doctors give them a specific reason? Has
anyone ever sued?
Me and my wife are both professionals who
make good money so if we sue it's not
about the money but more for the fact that
we want them to pay for their mistake. If
they did make a mistake I wish I could
make them pay in different ways but I
don't want to get in trouble. LOL
