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Q: I'm very messed up

asked by: onmyway_0x on June 17th, 2007

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So my ex called me today Shocked

the psychotic abusive evil one.
He wanted to see how I was, and to wish me a safe and healthy delivery, he said he's been thinking about it a lot and finally worked up the nerve to call.
I was very short with him, but he made it clear he was simply calling to see how things were if I was ok and to say good luck.
He also asked if I would possibly send him picture's of the babe.
I told him I was unsure if I even wanted him to have pictures of her. and he said he understood and he hoped I would send him some anyways.
Then he let me go.

I'm still just in shock. He was nice and I guess the thought was there, but why now. Now I'm all twisted in my head again and I just wish the guy understood that some things are better off left alone.

Sorry for the vent.
I'm just very messed up right now. from one phone call Confused

Replies(4)

stacybaby

replied on June 18th, 2007

Experienced User

hiya,i was kinda in the same situation as you with my first child,my partner and i were together nearly 5years but he was always very carer minded and i stood by him but when i fell pregnant that was it...gone to a new job and i was left all the way pregnant and had to accept that i was gana be on my own... he called a few times but made it clear that he didnt want anything more

and to be honest honey me and my daughter are closer because of it

kaerbear

replied on June 18th, 2007

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well, it was father's day so maybe that got him thinking. some people just have no control over what they do and know that they are wrong but can't seem to help themselves. maybe he regrets the way he treated you, but that doesn't mean you aren't right in separating yourself from him. i had a dad that was abusive to my mom and she left him when i was little. she always explained to me that he had his reasons for being the way he was but that didn't make it right and we were better off without him even though he loved us in his way. he just didn't know how to be a healthy person or a father. i think being a mom requires you to just be really strong and brave for your kids sometimes. i hope you feel better soon.

stacybaby

replied on June 18th, 2007

Experienced User

he has to learn that he cant just call when he feels like it tho,megs dad calls once or twice a year but never sees her,thats his choice tho... he likes people to think hes a great dad and he sees her

i met my current partner when meg was just a year and yeah weve had ups and downs but hes been a fantastic dad and she loves him dearly,she knows her biological dads name but often forgets and she just thinks hes a friend that i hear from now and again

CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd

replied on June 20th, 2007

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I wouldnt send him any pics and i wouldnt put his name on the birthcertificate either.. my 1st child so called dad didnt whant anything to do with us either he found a new toy to play with so i left and just dissappeared with my child i know where he is he just doesnt know where i am and i like it that way. she is better off with out him.

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