I'm 21 and so is my girlfriend. I love
her to death. We have been together for 2
years, taking things slow. Making love
has always been difficult, but not as
tough as right now. Seeing this gorgeous
girl will make me instantly arroused, I
have never seen anyone as sexy as her.
She thinks the same as me. So she says,
her body often says otherwise. Most of
the time when we make love shortly after
she is dry to the touch. She has never
had an orgasm during intercourse but I can
bring her to orgasm through oral in a
minute. She thinks that me using a toy on
her might help the situation. Sounds odd
to me. I am begining to get discouraged.
I'm not very turned on by this idea but I
told her I would give it a try. I think
that maybe the body chemistry might just
not be there. Is this normal for some
people? If it is does anyone know what
might help the situation besides that?
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Willa Weintraub
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Re: Man Seeking a Little Advice Posted: 06-21-07 08:50am
mustangman
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I'm 21 and so is my
girlfriend. I love her to death. We have
been together for 2 years, taking things
slow. Making love has always been
difficult, but not as tough as right now.
Seeing this gorgeous girl will make me
instantly arroused, I have never seen
anyone as sexy as her. She thinks the
same as me. So she says, her body often
says otherwise. Most of the time when we
make love shortly after she is dry to the
touch. She has never had an orgasm during
intercourse but I can bring her to orgasm
through oral in a minute. She thinks that
me using a toy on her might help the
situation. Sounds odd to me. I am
begining to get discouraged. I'm not very
turned on by this idea but I told her I
would give it a try. I think that maybe
the body chemistry might just not be
there. Is this normal for some people?
If it is does anyone know what might help
the situation besides
that?
do not take this the
wrong way! this is very normal.some women
can have lots of vaginal fluid to last
forever some not so much.I get dry after
about 10-15 minutes of sex and then I use
lube.also,most women cannot orgasm from
sex alone,but oral stimulation is the key!
I assure you there is nothing wrong with
you,its nature which means its out of your
control! so don't feel bad!
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Stan
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Posted: 06-21-07 10:28am
Yeah, I agree, totally normal. Guys,
especially those that watch a lot of porn,
not saying that's you, seem to think that
women are always sopping wet all over the
place all of the time. It's just not
true, a variety of things can effect this,
birth control being one of the most
common. Also, many women cannot orgasm
during sex simply because of the placement
of their clitoris. Using a toy to help
stimulate her is nothing odd at all, many
women need this and it's perfectly normal
and healthy, not to mention it works as
far as I've heard.
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 06-21-07 10:44am
My dh used to have a hang up about
introducing a little toy play for clitoral
stim, but he is now quite comfortable with
it. You would be amazed at how some women
respond to this. It's not you, though.
Many women can't orgasm from intercourse
alone. It's not because you are somehow
lacking in size or technique. If she is
asking to do this, then go for it. you
may be quite pleased with the results.
The only other thing that i can think of
is that some women who have been sexually
abused sometimes have sexual hang-ups.
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 06-21-07 12:46pm
Like the others said, she's normal. You
can't feel bad about yourself when that is
just the way the female body sometimes is.
Some women produce enough lubrication on
their own, some don't. That's why they
sell lubricants at the store.
As far as not orgasming during sex, also
normal. A lot of women just don't orgasm
during sex. More women orgasm through
oral sex than any other way.
