My brother has been dating my best friend
for quite some time now (2 years, I
think). They live together and they are
great. She is the best thing that has
ever heppened to him. Now they are
breaking up. Nobody did anything wrong,
she's just not happy. It seems they may
want different things out of life. I feel
completely depressed about this. I will
not will not get in the middle of it, but
I am deeply saddened for him and for her.
They are so great together. She never
really told him anything about why she was
so unhappy until she felt it was too late
to change anything and now that she has
her mind made up, there is not much he can
do to change it. I am just sick. Is
there anything i can do that does not
constitute meddling?
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 06-21-07 10:00am
if she feels that way and has expressed
it,I think there is hardly anything for
you to do to make it better.people just
grow apart sometimes and it's normal.Maybe
after a while of being away she will
realize she misses him and knows she wants
to be with him?Had they ever talked about
marriage?children?maybe you could talk to
her and find out what is going on in her
mind.you are her best
friend,correct?well,best friends talk.All
you can do is be there for the both of
them!
My brother has been dating
my best friend for quite some time now (2
years, I think). They live together and
they are great. She is the best thing
that has ever heppened to him. Now they
are breaking up. Nobody did anything
wrong, she's just not happy. It seems
they may want different things out of
life. I feel completely depressed about
this. I will not will not get in the
middle of it, but I am deeply saddened for
him and for her. They are so great
together. She never really told him
anything about why she was so unhappy
until she felt it was too late to change
anything and now that she has her mind
made up, there is not much he can do to
change it. I am just sick. Is there
anything i can do that does not constitute
meddling?
silly. There isn't anything you can do.
Once someone makes up their mind it is
hard to change it. But in time she might
feel differnt. There might be more behind
it then what she is telling you because he
is your brother. Even though she is your
best firend, she might keep things from
you because he is your brother. I would
just remain her friend and tell her that,
she might open up more with you. I'm
sorry.
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 06-21-07 10:59am
Thank you for your comments. I don't know
why this affects me so badly. I feel like
I am watching a house burn down with two
of my favorite people inside and I am
doing nothing to help them. I have been
crying all morning. What a sap I have
become in my old age...
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 06-21-07 12:18pm
awww sweetie,I hope everything turns out
alright.
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 06-21-07 21:40pm
After much soul searching, I think I have
figured out why this bothers me so much.
My brother is a delicate boy in a hardened
shell. He has very soft innerds, and I
worry how he will come out of this
unscathed, as this is the first person he
has really lowered his guard enough to
love. I feel very protective of him, and
have only ever wanted the best for him. I
took care of him for much of our lives,
and I guess I feel a little "mother
hen-ish" toward him. She is my best
firiend, but I guess I am a little bit
angry about this (although, I truly have
no right to be). I feel inadvertently
stuck in the middle of all of this.
Furthrmore, my irrational emotional part
wants to say what the frock?? HOw could
you lull me into thinking this was going
somewhere and how could you dupe us all
into thinking this was for real (again,
this is faulty thinking, but since when
are emotions based on logic?) I called
the little brother this evening and told
him most of this. I wanted to let him
know that I was here without any judgement
on the matter, that I will not meddle in
his affairs, but he can call to talk, come
over, mooch dinner, eat my food, borrow my
furniture or sleep on my couch whenever he
wants. My heart is completely breaking
for him. I hope that I am done crying
soon, because my head really hurts. At
least it's allergy season and I have an
excuse for the way I look. Thanks again
for your thoughts on the matter.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 06-22-07 09:01am
awww,I hope you feel better son and i'm
also very glad you let your brother know
that you are there for him,tahts an
awesome thing to do!
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