Need Ideas On How to Help Her Break Up With Her Fiance Posted: 06-21-07 23:29pm
There's a girl who I've been very close
friends with since we were kids. We dated
for a little bit back in high school but
nothing serious and then went our separate
ways. The strange thing about it though
is I've always liked her and still thought
about her after high school but didn't
think she felt the same way about me.
About a year ago, she got engaged to a guy
who everyone knows isn't right for her and
at the same time, these lingering feelings
I've had for her were eating at me. So
about a month ago, just to get it off my
chest, I finally told her that I still had
feelings for her (assuming she would just
say thanks or something and let it go) but
to my amazement, she still had strong
feelings for me too.
It turns out she's not happy with the guy
she's engaged to, but she doesn't know how
to leave him. He's mentally abusive to
her, and any time she tries to bring up
that she wants to postpone the wedding, he
tells her no and puts her down until she
gives in. At the same time, we now speak
to eachother several times a day and meet
up whenever we can. At this point, I can
honestly say, we've fallen in love.
So my question is, how can I help her get
out of this relationship? Any time she
tries to break it off with him, he just
spins it around on her and blames her
until she feels terrible and gives in.
Has anyone been in this type of situation
before? Is there anything I can do to
help her get out of this or is it
something she has to do on her own?
Thanks for any advice on this.
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Re: Need Ideas On How to Help Her Break Up With Her Fiance Posted: 06-22-07 09:09am
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wrote:
There's a girl who I've been
very close friends with since we were
kids. We dated for a little bit back in
high school but nothing serious and then
went our separate ways. The strange thing
about it though is I've always liked her
and still thought about her after high
school but didn't think she felt the same
way about me.
About a year ago, she got engaged to a guy
who everyone knows isn't right for her and
at the same time, these lingering feelings
I've had for her were eating at me. So
about a month ago, just to get it off my
chest, I finally told her that I still had
feelings for her (assuming she would just
say thanks or something and let it go) but
to my amazement, she still had strong
feelings for me too.
It turns out she's not happy with the guy
she's engaged to, but she doesn't know how
to leave him. He's mentally abusive to
her, and any time she tries to bring up
that she wants to postpone the wedding, he
tells her no and puts her down until she
gives in. At the same time, we now speak
to eachother several times a day and meet
up whenever we can. At this point, I can
honestly say, we've fallen in love.
So my question is, how can I help her get
out of this relationship? Any time she
tries to break it off with him, he just
spins it around on her and blames her
until she feels terrible and gives in.
Has anyone been in this type of situation
before? Is there anything I can do to
help her get out of this or is it
something she has to do on her own?
Thanks for any advice on
this.
Well,there isn't much you
can do unless you do this.I had a friend,a
good friend I might add,that was going
through this same thing. she waited until
her man went to work and just packed
allher things and moved out. . .he wasn't
there to stop her,couldn't put her down or
force her to stay in something she didn't
want.SHe really has to do it on her own
but like I said,if you have a place for
her to stay you can offer to help her move
her things out.She can also call the
police and have them be there while she
takes her things out just in case he comes
home or she is really worried he may show
up.Just leaving him is the best
thing.standing there and fighting wont do
much but make her feel worse.
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