So I'm feeling pretty alone right now.
I'm due to have a baby next Saturday and
I'm just really lonely.
I live with my parents, but they're always
super busy working they're here for me
when they can be but they have lives as
well.
I'm single.
All my friends pretty much bailed when
they realized I wasn't all that fun
anymore.
I really haven't built that many
relationships on here because up until
recently I was quite the random poster
because I was constantly working.
I know I have support, but I feel very
scared and alone ya know?
I guess I'm just a bit overwhelmed.
Sorry for the whinefest.
.Jerrica
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-22-07 22:23pm
thats not a whine fest! all your feelings
are very valid and i think you are such a
strong woman being able to do this on your
own without a man. just think, those
feeling of loneliness will be gone forever
in a week or two
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ladylee70
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Posted: 06-22-07 22:47pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
thats not a whine fest! all
your feelings are very valid and i think
you are such a strong woman being able to
do this on your own without a man. just
think, those feeling of loneliness will be
gone forever in a week or
two
I feel for you, too. You are such a strong
person. I am so sorry to hear about your
friends. That would be so tough. All of
them bailed? Perhaps there is a mommy
group around you that has other moms who
are around the same age. I know they have
stuff like that where I live.
In a few weeks, you will be holding your
precious child and you will have so much
love pouring out of you for the child,
nothing else will seem to matter.
You are not a whinefest at all!!! Please
continue to come here for support. It
seems like most of us do. This forum has
been so helpful!
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Hollyberries
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Posted: 06-22-07 22:51pm
I can relate to the friend thing. I found
out that i really didn't have anyone to
call "friend" after i had my daughter. I
didnt' have money to go out, and i choose
to stop drinking after i had my daughter
because i grew up in a house with
drinking, drugs, and gambleing, and i
don't want that life style for my family.
It will be 2 years this sept since i was
out with anyone, and having a good time.
I guess i was no fun either.
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AuDacia
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Joined: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 172 Location: west virginia, united states
Posted: 06-22-07 22:54pm
hey jerrica,
my name is amber. i'm a random poster,
too. so i haven't built many friendships
on here, either.
i'm sorry to hear your feeling so lonely,
especially right now. being pregnant is
hard enough, but doing it alone, well that
takes a really strong individual. i give
you a lot of credit. your baby is going to
admire you so much for your strength.
i know what you mean about friends bailing
out on you because you're no longer fun.
all of my friends are out at a club right
now, but i didn't go for obvious reasons.
i can't drink & i need sleep. it's
hard for me to stay up into the early
morning hours.
just give it time, sweetie. your little
one is almost here. you won't be lonely
for much longer. taking care of a baby is
going to take up a lot of your free time.
good luck, hun.
and seriously, vent all you want on here.
we're here to support you.
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jaemierin
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Joined: 15 Oct 2006 Posts: 611 Location: Alberta, Canada
Posted: 06-22-07 23:20pm
Hey girl...I hope that you feel better
soon. Baby coming will help that smile
appear!
Friends do come and go, I hate to say -
I'm 31 and have noticed that my friends
don't invite me (or my hubby as a couple)
out as much b/c we can't drink, or they
think we'll say "no" to the invite, so
they just don't bother. Frustrates me, but
don't feel alone - I htknk we all go
through it.
Ladylee had a good idea in trying to find
a "Mommy group" around your house or
community. I know it's not the same there
as your friends, but my g/f's have said
wonderful things about thier groups they
joined and met some really nice girls
there!!!!!
Keep that chin up and whine/ vent as much
as you want! I'm sure we have all gone
through, or will go through all the same
emotions!!!
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onmyway_0x
Supporter
Joined: 12 Jan 2007 Posts: 759 Location: Canada
Posted: 06-22-07 23:28pm
Thanks guys.
It's nice to hear some kind words.
I still technically have friends, they're
all just really drunk and high and I'm not
for it.
Everytime i've tried to hang out with 'em
I get smoked out... and they just behave
like morons, I hate it, so we've just kind
of dropped eachother.
I can't wait for my girl... once I have
her in my arms I know I'll never need for
love again
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-22-07 23:30pm
you are definitely better off without
people like that in your life.
i know youll end up meeting some other
mommies who will make much better friends.
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Lauren_Jay15
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Joined: 16 Mar 2007 Posts: 483 Location: ,
Posted: 06-23-07 05:42am
Oh my God and I thought I was alone in
feeling this way. I know exactly how you
feel down to the last sentence.
I was talking to Danni about this the
other day actually. Like you, I live with
my parents, they both work and are out of
the house until gone 6 pm everynight. Most
of my friends are 15,16,17 and have their
own lives and don't wanna be stuck down
with me when they're drinking, and having
wild crazy fun. Oh and my boyfriend is
good for nothing right now.
Just incase it makes you feel better to
know you're not alone. PM me if you wanna
chat.xx
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-23-07 06:45am
i know im not pregnant or anything so i
don't really know what youre going through
but you can pm me anytime!!!
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Idony
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Posted: 06-23-07 07:42am
i know how you feel, i have my mum and
shes there for me when she can be, but its
not really like having friends, i have dh
but hes really distant and annoying (he
works a lot and when hes not working he
either plays on the computer or sleeps), i
dont have friends in real life (i only
moved here 2 years ago and i havent had a
chance to make friends im not very social,
and i have a few people i talk to on here
but no one i really can say im close with,
i dont do well with relationships
when your pregnant its the hardest, and
right after too, i felt like i had no one
and i was all alone with this little thing
that needed constant love and attention
and i thought i couldnt do it....but i can
and so can you
if you ever need to talk im here, maybe we
friendless people can become friends lol
~alicia~
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onmyway_0x
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Joined: 12 Jan 2007 Posts: 759 Location: Canada
Posted: 06-23-07 10:23am
Thanks so much to everyone for replying.
It's nice to know that I'm not the only
person that feels like this.
I've been quite overwhelmed with the
thought of a baby being here soon, so not
having many people to talk to topped it
off.
I'm gonna look into the mommy group thing
for sure and hopefully once the baby comes
this feeling kind of fades,
I'll definately be keeping in touch and
sticking with this forum, you guy's are
great and truly can make a girl feel
better.
Aww How corny am .I?
Alicia - You just described me.
Seriously I don't keep a hold onto my
relationships as well as I could or
should, and I can be quite antisocial. I'm
a very shy person.
So we'll definately be friendless friends!
lol.
Seriously I don't keep a hold onto my
relationships as well as I could or
should, and I can be quite antisocial. I'm
a very shy person.
