Just Found Out My Dad Is Cheating Posted: 06-25-07 02:13am
i need help! i just found out that my dad
is cheating on my mom! They've been
married for 24 years and when she finds
out she will be devastated. My dad has NO
IDEA that i know, but trust me, I KNOW! (i
dont want to get into how i found out cuz
i know that will take too long to explain)
What's worse is that my mother is out of
the country, my dad sent her off so that
she could "take some schooling" for
cheaper over there and this will be for
about 3 months but now i know that the
real reason to get rid of her was so that
he could have his affair. WHat should i
do? how should i tell her. I dont know how
i can live in this house another day
without confronting my dad and blowing up!
I cannot forgive him for what he is doing!
and i don't want to tel my mom over the
phone because she has no support from
anyone where she is right now. PLEASE any
advice would be greatly appreciated!
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 06-25-07 05:54am
I'm truly sorry that your going through
this...............it really is the
children that suffer the
most....................but just keep in
mind that there's 2 sides to every
story............
1) Don't tell your mom over the
phone.............no matter how
tempting.....there's nothing she can do
about it from there............and she'll
only be miserable
2) Consider sitting down and having a
"talk" with your dad.............if he is
approachable..................there really
may be something that didn't even occur to
you.................things are not so
"black and white"
3) It may not even be your place to "say"
anything.............this is an adult
problem that you should not be burdened
with...............if you must involve
yourself.............. tell your dad "if
you don't fess up, I'll do it for
you".................and when the
"talking"
starts.............disappear..............
.
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paystl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2007 Posts: 29 Location: Atlanta
Been There, Wish I Would Have! Posted: 06-25-07 09:32am
I personally think you should confront
your father. I was in your shoes 14 years
ago and now that I have my own family, I
know that parents need to be held
accountable for thier actions. Everything
a parent does effects your children, good
or bad! No, we can not hide behind this
curtain of Grown Folks business, when we
get caught doing something wrong!! BS!!!It
is your business, because you are a part
of that family, so if you caught him you
have the right to question. Now, if he
chooses to seperate then okay that is
between your mom and dad, their
relationship you can not mend. But, get on
your dads a$$. I wish I would
have!!Parents would get a huge reality
check if kids started to call them out on
the senseless crap they do. Or this will
make him confront an issue quick fast and
in a hurry!
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 06-25-07 10:50am
I am in your shoes only my mother cheated
my father.the other difference is she told
my family.I was mad at her and so was
everyone else.she stopped talking to the
man.He worked with us at our job and
everyone knew about it which was very
embarassing to me. Later she talked to him
a little and said they could only be
friends.Now she hangs out with him when he
is around (he;s in the military) and she
says they're just friends but i'm not
stupid.I hate him and told her if he ever
came to our house, i'd taze him with my
tazer.my parents have been married for
over 20 years and all of a sudden
everything is falling apart. They have
worked through everything and stayed
together.I personally don't think its
right for her to still be hanging out with
the man btus he uses the excuse that she
has no friends and no life and he is the
only friend she has.(knock on wood)I have
high hopes for him when he goes back from
his leave (If you
know what I mean).you can pm me anytime,I
definetly know what your going through.
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(If you
know what I mean).you can pm me anytime,I
definetly know what your going through.