I'm 16. My g/f is 16. We have not had
sex and we are both virgins. However, we
do masturbate each other to relieve sexual
tension so that we will not end up having
sex.
Last night, I was fingering her and she
was seeming to enjoy it way more than
usual. I really don't know why, but
anyways she told me to quit like half way
through and she said that if I kept on, I
would definatley pop her cherry this time.
Here's what I'm concerned about: My
girlfrined is VERY nice and tight. I like
that a LOT. With one finger in, you can
feel a good amount of pressure all around.
It's good stuff. Two fingers is really a
job on her ( and it hurts her, so I dont
do it), i guess b/c she's a virgin.
So.. she got home last night and when she
pee'd she told me on the phone that there
was a "little bit of blood". I think it
may be because I tried two fingers (ring
and pinky) toward the end. The blood was
definatley not from my fingernails. I
dont know where it came from, but she said
that is was not on her underwear, and
there was none on my hand.
Okay so my questions are: Do you folks
think I popped her cherry? When a cherry
is popped, how much blood is there? Will
you know for sure when It's popped? Once
the hymen is broken, does that mean my
girlfirend will be as loose as a girl who
is not a virgin? Will she be as tight as
it was before it was popped?
Because... If she's gonna end up being
loose b/c of my fingers, I'm goning to
stop fingering around.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 06-25-07 12:40pm
Hello and welcome.
Ok, it sounds like you two have gotten
some really awful information from
somewhere.
Hymens usually tear in childhood or
puberty. They tear from running, jumping,
masturbation, and tampon use. So chances
are her hymen has already torn due to her
age. And If your fingers were in there,
that is another sign that it's probably
been torn all along.
Some girls do have a tough and durable
hymen that does not break when they are
younger, but it is not the norm. Their
hymen might even stay intact after having
sex! Theirs also might hurt or bleed more
when it breaks.
There is usually little or no pain or
blood involved when the average hymen
tears, so many girls have no idea when it
happened.
The hymen is not inside a girl's body; it
is part of the external female genitalia.
So that means it could not affect how
tight or loose she is. Sex does not
affect how loose or tight a woman is
either. People mistakingly assume that
virgins are tight, but that is not the
case. Sex does not stretch out a vagina
in any way. Having a baby, however, can
make the vagina looser.
Many things can make a woman seen tighter
or looser including how relaxed the woman
is, how lubricated she is, and how in the
mood she is. That can all change from day
to day. Many girls might seem tight their
first time, but that's usually because
they are nervous, not relaxed, and not
lubricated enough.
Your girlfriend is still a virgin until
she has sex. Hymens are in no way related
to virginity.
Chances are you just scratched her with
your fingernail (that can happen even if
you don't realize it, and even if your
nails are very short), or that the inside
of her vagina tore due to friction because
she was not lubricated enough. That's
very common. The inside of the vagina is
made up of some extremely delicate tissue,
and it can tear easily.
That's great that you two are holding off
on having sex. Please learn more about
your bodies before you do decide to have
sex. You can always ask questions here,
but here are some educational websites
that can also help you get started
learning:
http://www.coolnurse.com/hyme
n.htm http://www.coolnurse
.com/sex_faqs_index.htm
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oxfragilerosexo
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2006 Posts: 210 Location: Jacksonville florida
Posted: 06-25-07 13:16pm
Llewellyn
wrote:
Hello and welcome.
Ok, it sounds like you two have gotten
some really awful information from
somewhere.
Hymens usually tear in childhood or
puberty. They tear from running, jumping,
masturbation, and tampon use. So chances
are her hymen has already torn due to her
age. And If your fingers were in there,
that is another sign that it's probably
been torn all along.
Some girls do have a tough and durable
hymen that does not break when they are
younger, but it is not the norm. Their
hymen might even stay intact after having
sex! Theirs also might hurt or bleed more
when it breaks.
There is usually little or no pain or
blood involved when the average hymen
tears, so many girls have no idea when it
happened.
The hymen is not inside a girl's body; it
is part of the external female genitalia.
So that means it could not affect how
tight or loose she is. Sex does not
affect how loose or tight a woman is
either. People mistakingly assume that
virgins are tight, but that is not the
case. Sex does not stretch out a vagina
in any way. Having a baby, however, can
make the vagina looser.
Many things can make a woman seen tighter
or looser including how relaxed the woman
is, how lubricated she is, and how in the
mood she is. That can all change from day
to day. Many girls might seem tight their
first time, but that's usually because
they are nervous, not relaxed, and not
lubricated enough.
Your girlfriend is still a virgin until
she has sex. Hymens are in no way related
to virginity.
Chances are you just scratched her with
your fingernail (that can happen even if
you don't realize it, and even if your
nails are very short), or that the inside
of her vagina tore due to friction because
she was not lubricated enough. That's
very common. The inside of the vagina is
made up of some extremely delicate tissue,
and it can tear easily.
That's great that you two are holding off
on having sex. Please learn more about
your bodies before you do decide to have
sex. You can always ask questions here,
but here are some educational websites
that can also help you get started
learning:
[links removed]
I had had sex quite a few times and mine
just tore like a year ago. Like not that
long ago.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 06-25-07 13:29pm
oxfragilerosexo
wrote:
I had had sex quite a few times and mine
just tore like a year ago. Like not that
long ago.
Yup, that's certainly not the norm, but it
does happen from time to time.
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aszalajka
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 May 2007 Posts: 103 Location: ,
Posted: 06-25-07 13:49pm
the last explaintion was great, but i
wanted you to know too, that once mt ex
and i where having sex the condom came off
inside me, it took a bit of effort to
remove it from inside me and i did cause
myself to bleed. so lil things can make a
women bleed inside. just so ya know!
