Bridget
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Weird Shower Invite
Posted: 06-26-07 06:47am
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i got my invitation to my brother and his
wife's shower yesterday and it's just odd
to me.
1. it's coed (that's not the weird part),
it doesn't say that anywhere on the invite
and it was only addressed to me. i had to
ask my brother if it was still coed and if
nick was invited. good thing i asked, i
would've been pretty annoyed if i showed
up alone and saw everyone else there with
their families.
2. it doesn't mention my brother at all.
3. it says "come celebrate denise's last
days of freedom". isn't that strange? i'd
expect to read that on an invite to a
bachelorette party, not a baby shower.
her sister had a baby a few months before
me. i saw her at my brother's birthday
party and she had her new baby and i was
about 7 months pregnant, she asked if i
was excited and i obviously said yes, and
she said "it's not fun". so pair that
story with the "last days of freedom"
business and it appear that babies are a
huge burden to their family.
i just don't get it. i guess i just think
something along the lines of "come share
our excitement" would have been more
appropriate.
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mommyto3soontobe4boys
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Posted: 06-26-07 09:15am
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That does sound like an odd thing to put
on a baby shower invitation. hmmm.
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onmyway_0x
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Posted: 06-26-07 09:26am
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I think that if a couple is together and
are having a coed baby shower, the hubby
should most definitely be mentioned on the
invite.
I hate when people talk about their
children like it was the end of their
life.
last day's of freedom? Kind of seems like
a negative way of looking at the situation
 ...
People often make comment's to me about no
more partying and no more life, I guess
because I'm so young, and then seem to be
shocked when they realize I don't care.
I'm sure they meant to be funny about it
.. but if I was just an aquaintance
getting the invite, I'd certainly wonder.
They're having a girl right? or was it
boy? my memory is shot! When is she due?
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-26-07 09:30am
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yeah thats really weird..
hmm
i hate being pregnant but am estatic about
having the baby and i cannot wait for her
to get here..
i look at it as counting down the days
until my life begins ..
but different strokes i guess..
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Bridget
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Posted: 06-26-07 09:32am
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yup, it's a girl. delilah maya rose her
last name his
last name, quite a mouthful.
she's due on august 13th.
i don't even know what to get for them.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-26-07 09:33am
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you know how they say to get something for
the mother because everyone else will get
something for the baby..
she sounds like shed be into that lol
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Bridget
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Posted: 06-26-07 09:41am
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she probably would be into that but i'm
not!
i'm really at a loss... what makes it even
harder is knowing they didn't get finn
anything.
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Posted: 06-26-07 10:08am
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That's tough, since they didn't get finn
anything. (and they seem so thrilled about
the thought of a baby). Maybe you could
make a donation in their little girls
name?
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Posted: 06-26-07 10:17am
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well, they did give finn some things...
before he was born they gave me a big bag
full of stuff her sister didn't want for
her baby. they didn't say that's what it
was but it was just a bag of random crap
and there were no tags on anything, it was
pretty obvious. i think i took a blanket
from it and either returned what i could
to walmart or donated it to goodwill.
then when they came to visit when i was in
the hospital, they brought a stack of her
nephew's old clothes... 0-3 month summer
outfits and finn was born in november.
i'm also pretty sure his christmas gift
from them was something left over from her
nephew.
it's hard not to be bitter when i know
she's spoiling her sister's baby and
thinking nothing of mine. i know it's her
and not my brother though, he's just
clueless.
i'm thinking of just going with an outfit
or a book or something. i don't know... i
just want to make sure i give them
something they'll like and use and not
something that will wind up in a bag
they'll give me for my next baby.
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 06-26-07 10:21am
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buy something you would like for a baby
since your most likely to get it back 
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Posted: 06-26-07 10:55am
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they probably were trying to be funny. i
wouldn't put anything like that on an
invitation, it's kind of mean to the baby
don't you think. i don't even like
complaining about being pregnant (even
though i sometimes do) because i don't
want the baby hearing me lol. when i say
something is aching i'll always add "but
that's ok baby i understand!" 
.yeah i guess i'm probably just as weird
as your sil with the invitation lol.
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Posted: 06-26-07 11:00am
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| IHeartMyBostonTerrier
wrote: | yup, it's a girl. delilah
maya rose her last name his
last name, quite a mouthful.
she's due on august 13th.
i don't even know what to get for
them. |
How do you pronounce the middle name? I
have a friend that named their baby Maya,
but I don't know how to say it. Is it
Mi-ya or May-ya???
That sucks about your brother's wife not
being considerate enough to get Finn
something when he was born. It's not that
hard to pick out an outfit and it be
inexpensive as well...if you go to the
right stores.
See I could be mean and say that you
should go get some little girls clothes
that are used and give them to her, but
that wouldn't be nice and that would be
stooping to her level.
My mom always said "rise above it"
meaning that if someone does something to
you that you don't like, don't do it back
to them out of spite, but rather put your
fake smile on and just act like the better
person...
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Bridget
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Posted: 06-26-07 11:13am
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maya is pronounced my-uh. my like bye, uh
like duh.
i want to be mean and not get anything but
that's not the kind of person i am. i
don't want to hurt my brother's feelings
and i do love buying baby gifts. i am
childish though in thinking that i don't
want to get some awesome spectacular thing
when they didn't get finn anything.
i'm already going to be taking care of her
every monday for free, so i think i'm just
going to go with an outfit.
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Posted: 06-26-07 11:22am
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wow,talk about being a downer! I'd
probably not want to even go to that
shower. . .I would anyhow to be nice but I
wouldn't stay very long. You should be
like "so are you excited?!?!".say it all
like extatic and stuff and see what she
says.your gonna have to tell us how it
goes!
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I Got It!
Posted: 06-26-07 11:27am
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Find a little t-shirt for this new baby
with something in lthe lines of: I LOVE MY
DADDY.............this way, it will be for
the baby and also for your
brother..........better yet, a shirt that
says, You think I'm cute you should see my
cousin Finn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I totally
understand the BS you are having to deal
with. years ago the only thing I would
receieve were leftovers/hand me downs and
hten expected to buy for others....oh hell
no....and for registering your dog.....not
in Georgia either...we have to have proof
our animals are vaccinated against rabies
yearly....thats it. They give out little
metal tags that attach to the collar. BAck
to the shower......you could alwasy buy
your sister in law a book on Etiquette
& Manners! Kiss Kiss! 
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Bridget
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Posted: 06-26-07 11:28am
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well i asked her if she was excited when
they were going to find out the sex and
she just shrugged and made an "eh" kind of
sound.
i swear she decided to have a baby because
her sister did. i also think my brother
might have kind of talked her into it.
they'll each continue to work 6 days a
week (even though they don't have to for
the money) and they've had their childcare
lined up for months now (and it's a
different person every day of the week).
i'm sure she'll get right back into going
to the gym every night and teaching her
aerobics classes. i don't know when she'll
even see the baby. i'm also thinking
she'll make my brother get up at night
with the baby.
oh well, it doesn't really concern me.
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Bridget
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Re: I Got It!
Posted: 06-26-07 11:37am
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| Fairy*Godmother
wrote: | | Find a little t-shirt for
this new baby with something in lthe lines
of: I LOVE MY DADDY.............this way,
it will be for the baby and also for your
brother..........better yet, a shirt that
says, You
think I'm cute you should see my cousin
Finn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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hahahahahahaha! i so want to have that
shirt made and give it to them!
i actually was going to give a gift that
had more to do with my brother. i wanted
to get a little pink red sox outfit but
then i figured she'd never dress her in it
so what's the point. maybe i'll do that
anyway.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 06-26-07 11:39am
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and
those are the types of people who should
not be having children (no offense to your
bro).why have kids when your not going to
appreciate them,play with them,take time
out of your busy schedule for them and
take care of them?people are so
ungrateful.
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Re: I Got It!
Posted: 06-26-07 16:34pm
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| IHeartMyBostonTerrier
wrote: | | Fairy*Godmother
wrote: | | Find a little t-shirt for
this new baby with something in lthe lines
of: I LOVE MY DADDY.............this way,
it will be for the baby and also for your
brother..........better yet, a shirt that
says, You
think I'm cute you should see my cousin
Finn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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hahahahahahaha! i so want to have that
shirt made and give it to them!
i actually was going to give a gift that
had more to do with my brother. i wanted
to get a little pink red sox outfit but
then i figured she'd never dress her in it
so what's the point. maybe i'll do that
anyway. |
Another thing you could do is buy a super
super cute little girls outfit for her,
but then keep it at your place for when
you watch her on mondays, lol. That way
she'll have something really adorable to
wear when she is with you, or if you have
to change her clothes during the day.
I also like the t-shirt ideas, especially
I love my Daddy one 
Very weird invitation too!
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Posted: 06-26-07 16:40pm
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you've got to be joking me.
How strange to not be at all excited about
having a child. How was she when she found
out she was pregnant? Was she *not*
expecting it to happen? I mean unprotected
sex + a woman&man = baby
I"m sorry, but nobody could talk me into
having a child if I truely didn't want
one. regardless if everyone around me was
falling pregnant...that's just
ridicilious.
Sarah
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