ill start with a little story to get us
all on the right page... i stated dating
this girl near the begining of june. i
knew her for about 6 months before we
started dating, didnt know her real well,
just friend of a friend. we dated for
about 2 weeks, we went on like 4 dates. we
took it nice and slow and didnt kiss until
the 4th date, a few days later she moved
to Florida for the summer, we talk on the
phone just about every night. so thats
where the relationship is at now.
she keeps asking me to come visit her in
florida, i really like her, and would love
to visit, but its not something i can just
get up and do. ive never flown before, and
the closest airport is 80-90 miles away,
its hard to find a ride, plus ill need to
take off work for a whole week, which
might be hard to do on short notice. also
right in the middle of getting an
apartment set up, which doesnt help. plus
its gonna cost me like $300, and im really
cheap.
for $300, thats like the cheapest and best
vacation ever. shes on the beach and is
right near scuba diving and canoeing and
malls and stuff, but honestly i dont
really care about that, the only reason i
would go it to see her, and $300 seems
kinda steep to just see her when i will in
another month and a half. what do you guys
think, should i make time and visit her?
or should i save my money and make her get
all sad and angry at me?
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 06-27-07 14:17pm
She might be a little disappointed if you
don't visit her, but it's not the end of
the world. If she's a nice girl, then
she'll understand. Some people just don't
have that kind of time or money. So I
would say go if you want to, but don't go
because you feel obligated to.
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emilyyy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jun 2007 Posts: 3
Re: Trip With the Girl Posted: 06-28-07 07:59am
ohiokid87
wrote:
ill start with a little
story to get us all on the right page... i
stated dating this girl near the begining
of june. i knew her for about 6 months
before we started dating, didnt know her
real well, just friend of a friend. we
dated for about 2 weeks, we went on like 4
dates. we took it nice and slow and didnt
kiss until the 4th date, a few days later
she moved to Florida for the summer, we
talk on the phone just about every night.
so thats where the relationship is at
now.
she keeps asking me to come visit her in
florida, i really like her, and would love
to visit, but its not something i can just
get up and do. ive never flown before, and
the closest airport is 80-90 miles away,
its hard to find a ride, plus ill need to
take off work for a whole week, which
might be hard to do on short notice. also
right in the middle of getting an
apartment set up, which doesnt help. plus
its gonna cost me like $300, and im really
cheap.
for $300, thats like the cheapest and best
vacation ever. shes on the beach and is
right near scuba diving and canoeing and
malls and stuff, but honestly i dont
really care about that, the only reason i
would go it to see her, and $300 seems
kinda steep to just see her when i will in
another month and a half. what do you guys
think, should i make time and visit her?
or should i save my money and make her get
all sad and angry at
me?
doesn't sound like you really have
something for her although you did things
right at first (took things slowly etc.)
so why give her false hope? not saying
anything bad about you but anyone who
cares wouldn't wait until the other person
asks to go and visit them if they're far
away. i say don't do it but don't lie to
her about it either. show her that you
have your own problems and you need to
deal with those right now. also she might
have asked you to come there because it's
the right thing to do or because she
doesn't mind it or because she's simply
bored. it doesn't mean she's madly in love
with you or anything. from your side, $300
for a guy these days is nothing compared
to what they spend on their toys. so if
you feel it's a big amount of money it
only means that you truly don't want her
to be your first priority.
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Willa Weintraub
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2007 Posts: 3399 Location: The Beach!
Thanks: 30
Thanked:46
Re: Trip With the Girl Posted: 06-28-07 08:21am
emilyyy
wrote:
ohiokid87
wrote:
ill start with a little
story to get us all on the right page... i
stated dating this girl near the begining
of june. i knew her for about 6 months
before we started dating, didnt know her
real well, just friend of a friend. we
dated for about 2 weeks, we went on like 4
dates. we took it nice and slow and didnt
kiss until the 4th date, a few days later
she moved to Florida for the summer, we
talk on the phone just about every night.
so thats where the relationship is at
now.
she keeps asking me to come visit her in
florida, i really like her, and would love
to visit, but its not something i can just
get up and do. ive never flown before, and
the closest airport is 80-90 miles away,
its hard to find a ride, plus ill need to
take off work for a whole week, which
might be hard to do on short notice. also
right in the middle of getting an
apartment set up, which doesnt help. plus
its gonna cost me like $300, and im really
cheap.
for $300, thats like the cheapest and best
vacation ever. shes on the beach and is
right near scuba diving and canoeing and
malls and stuff, but honestly i dont
really care about that, the only reason i
would go it to see her, and $300 seems
kinda steep to just see her when i will in
another month and a half. what do you guys
think, should i make time and visit her?
or should i save my money and make her get
all sad and angry at
me?
doesn't sound like you really have
something for her although you did things
right at first (took things slowly etc.)
so why give her false hope? not saying
anything bad about you but anyone who
cares wouldn't wait until the other person
asks to go and visit them if they're far
away. i say don't do it but don't lie to
her about it either. show her that you
have your own problems and you need to
deal with those right now. also she might
have asked you to come there because it's
the right thing to do or because she
doesn't mind it or because she's simply
bored. it doesn't mean she's madly in love
with you or anything. from your side, $300
for a guy these days is nothing compared
to what they spend on their toys. so if
you feel it's a big amount of money it
only means that you truly don't want her
to be your first
priority.
wow,that was
waaaaaaaaaaaay out in left field there
hun. $300 is not spent on toys.Mabye your
rich but not everyone else is.I have 2
jobs and $300 is *not* pocket
change.Because he doesn't have the money
doesn't mean he's making excuses not to
see her or that he doesn't love her
much.People have bills to pay and it's
hard to save up $$$.And have you thought
that the reason she wants him there is
because she misses him and not just
because she's bored? And i'm also sure
that if he didn't like her enough to stay
with her through this time in their
relationship he would have broken it off
already
to the original poster,if you are already
going to see her in a month or so,tell her
that you would love to come see her sooner
but you have bills to pay and you want to
save money so you have it when you do get
down there.I'm sure she just misses you
very much and can't wait to see you! Good
luck with it!
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aszalajka
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 May 2007 Posts: 103 Location: ,
Posted: 06-28-07 11:43am
Yeah i dont think money is an "excuse" i
met my boyfriend in April, Feb i had
already planned a trip to Vegas. I wanted
him to go soo bad with me. I tried to find
a way to afford a ticket for him. then all
he would need is spending money. His
family even tried to find a way. but then
talking to him, he didnt have much
spending money and also too he was taking
a week in july to see his parents so to
take another week that would be unpaid he
couldnt afford it. yes i was very sad and
dissapointed but u know what in the end
the week away when i come home i was all
over him i couldnt believe how much i had
missed him. things require money and
sometimes we dotn have money just to drop
at a dime. Im sure if u explain to her how
u just cant right now, im sure if she
cares that much about you like i did my
boyfriend she will understand. personally
if she make a big stink about it screw her
than on top of it you just startede
"dating" . i know the "screw her" was
harsh, but really if she cant understand u
dont haev the cash right now, i would be
scared to see way she acts other things
thanks for the advice guys, i dont know
what to do i miss her. now shes gotta help
a relative work on their house starting on
the 16th, then shes getting a part time
job and training for soemthing, so shell
be realy busy after that.
i found really cheap tickets too, like
$155 + the $45 tax roundtrip. but its from
the 11th to 18th, which cant work. i tried
like the 11-16, 12-16, 10-16, etc.
cheapest one i could find was like $350. i
dont wana pay that for even less time.
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Willa Weintraub
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2007 Posts: 3399 Location: The Beach!
Thanks: 30
Thanked:46
Posted: 06-28-07 13:26pm
ohiokid87
wrote:
thanks for the advice guys,
i dont know what to do i miss her. now
shes gotta help a relative work on their
house starting on the 16th, then shes
getting a part time job and training for
soemthing, so shell be realy busy after
that.
i found really cheap tickets too, like
$155 + the $45 tax roundtrip. but its from
the 11th to 18th, which cant work. i tried
like the 11-16, 12-16, 10-16, etc.
cheapest one i could find was like $350. i
dont wana pay that for even less
time.
maybe if you try and take
the trip a month later it will be more
affordable?I'm going to louisiana in a
month or so and I look at what day in the
week I go (usually middle of the week is
cheaper) and what time of day (between 12
and 4 am are the cheapest flights) things
like that help a lot!
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aszalajka
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 May 2007 Posts: 103 Location: ,
Posted: 06-28-07 14:11pm
yeah maybe a later date would work.
booking a trip with less than a month
advance can be pricie. My trip to vegas i
booked in feb for like 205 roundtrip, when
i looked in april for my bf to come along
it sky rocketed to like 400 bucks round
trip!
