SIngle Father rasing a daughter !! Posted: 06-27-07 03:02am
i am an single father raising a daughter.
right now she is 2 years old and i
currently live with my parents. being a
single father and not having a role model
or a shaper of my daughters life besides
her grandmother i am finding it
increasingly difficult to control my
daughter and her tantrums. the babys
mother is literally a deadbeat. she hasn't
had a steady job since the baby was
concieved and she is always sleeping
around with everyone she meets in exchange
for a warm bed. i have already taken full
custody of the baby but i need some help.
i spend as much time as i can with my
daughter in the hopes she will begin
listening to me. i am afraid she has
inherited all of her mothers personality
and will soon develop emotional disorders.
i am in desperate need of help and i am
soon to move out and live on my own. its
been a tough road even with the help of my
parents but i want to become independant
and begin a great relationship with my
daughter i just need some help or
somewhere i can turn for tips on how to
deal with certain situations. if you have
any suggestions or information please let
me know.
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Spirit
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Posted: 06-28-07 05:43am
It's too soon to say if your child has
"difficulties"...........most 2 year olds
are pains in the
bu**s....................sweet and
adorable but it's definitely the "ME! ME!
ME!" stage. She probably just needs firm
consequences for her actions...........at
this age they crave it............and of
course don't forget to PRAISE her for all
her little accomplishments.
And unless you have a firm plan.........a
safe comfortable home, back up sitters,
and the finances are in
order...............I say there's no shame
in staying with your
parents...........that's what we're here
for................when things get
rough...........move in with mom and dad!
The "mom" may be a
deadbeat..................but she's still
the mom and unless she's abusive should
have access to your
child..................to avoid
disappointment, just don't mention
whether the mom would be coming over or
not.
If your truly worried about the daughters
mental state.............contact the local
Community Social Services agency(or
whatever it's called in your area) and ask
for an assessment..............this could
probably done thru your family doc too, if
he agrees there may be issues
As far as housing.............if your near
the poverty line..............you may be
eligible for Coop housing, especially
being a single parent and depending on the
list and how needy your circumstances
are..................but like I said
before, it nice to want to move out and be
"independent" but how realistic are you
being?................daycare is extremely
expensive..................and babysitters
don't fall out of the sky
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Nafisah
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Posted: 10-12-07 21:06pm
I congrat you on taking responsibility for
raising your child on your own. We need
more fathers out there like you. I think
she is proabaly just going through a phase
right now, but I wouls disciplin her
appropriately and stick with it. You need
to let her know you are her father and
you are the BOSS. I feel you wil do fine.
Keep up the good work:)
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