I have been dating my boyfriend for a year
now, and only now am I starting to feel
uncomfortable. We have a pretty good
relationship with one another personally,
but there are a couple of things that he
has just recently started doing that are
beginning to make me think twice.
OK first off, he comes from a very nice
Christian family(im not big into religion
or anything, but they're very very nice,
and have a lot of good morals) and as a
child he was rather awkward and to
himself, even when he was in high school
he was kind of a bit nerdy, and soft. Now
however, he has met these new
friends(guys) and now all he can think
about is cars, motorcycles and drinking. I
dont mind the cars and motorcycles
themselves..but his friends are INSANE.
They do tricks on the road that could KILL
someone. He is driving HIS motorcycle
without a license! He just had a wreck and
crashed his bike which scared me to death,
and now he's fixing the bike up again to
start all over! I dont think they all
realize just how dangerous what theyre
doing really is. going 145 miles an hour
on a bike???
He has also started drinking nearly every
day. at his job(even though he is under
21) they have been allowing him to have
alcohol once they close for the night. he
doesnt get rip roaring drunk, but it
really is starting to bother me that he
drinks EVERYDAY. i myself do not drink at
all, except on a special occasion.
i kind of feel like hes only doing these
things to "fit in" with the guys. these
guys are mostly jerks too, always ragging
on their girlfriend's behind their
backs... i dont want mine to act like that
too! i have had such a wonderful
relationship with him, and now im
beginning to get scared. his father was a
bad alcoholic and a heroin addict... so
addiction runs in his family... i just
dont want this to get ugly! Ive told him i
dont like him drinking, but he doesnt
really see this as a problem. the fact
that he wrecked his bike hasnt made him
think more carefully about riding his
motorcycle either.... what can i do????
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 06-28-07 08:37am
honestly there is really nothing you can
do about it.It sounds to me like he is
rebelling at a later age and doing the
things he couldn't earlier in his life. My
next door neighbors took their kids to
church every wednesday, twice on sunday
and made them volunteer in the church.now
that they are older,they drink,have smoked
marijuana and have done countless other
things because of how they were raised
(their words not mine).He is going through
a point in his life now and I don't think
anythign will change it.He just has to get
through it and like anyone else go through
the motions.SOrry there isn't much I can
say to help but if you don't like it i'd
leave him alone for a while.
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aszalajka
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 May 2007 Posts: 103 Location: ,
Posted: 06-28-07 11:47am
i think first off, you need to talk to him
about all this. sit him down and make him
see how different he is acting. I was teh
kinda person who would come home and have
a beer or two after work, finally my bf
said he didnt really like the fact that i
would use the excuse of having a bad day
to have a couple beers. it really bothered
him, i never knew until he spoke up , now
i drink onyl on the weekends. just
talking. i think people end up in a
divorce now a days because they really
lack communitcation. A friend of mine her
and her signcnt other put time away every
week to go soemwhere and talk for 15-20
mins about any issues they may have or to
ask questions and learn abotu eachother.
they are together a year and half and they
still do it. if u dont have commucation u
dont have a relationship in my eyes.
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randomguy1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jun 2007 Posts: 17 Location: US
Posted: 07-01-07 00:29am
talk to him once.... see if it helps...
try to reason not argue... if reason does
not work... ur bettin on the wrong horse
on the run and further down the road drama
is waitin on u!!
or say godbye and save your own soul from
being dependent on a stubborn fool who
says "who cares" million times a day! and
plays with his own life without a lil
thinkin...
ppl who get influenced by friends easily
are dangerous to be around with... trust
me i've be through!
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