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Becky

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Posted: 06-28-07 05:31am

IHeartMyBostonTerrier wrote:

beckster06 wrote:

IHeartMyBostonTerrier wrote:

they can choose not to wear earrings but the holes will not close up.

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layla's holes are fully closed up now- you would never know she has had it done.

that's because you said you had to take them out not long after you had them done.

if you pierce your baby's ears and then when they're like 6 they decide they don't want them they are not going to close up and they'll be stuck with holes in their ears.

ok ok cool. i'm glad they've closed up cause i regret doing it and want to let her decide when she's older

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Posted: 06-28-07 11:53am


For you whose piercing holes didn't close up - what do they look like? I have 2 in each earlobe but haven't worn earrings regularly for years. Everytime I try (once a year), I find that the hole is still there. It's not obvious though, it just looks like a tiny tiny dot. If that's what most ear piercings look like when they've been left alone and haven't fully closed, I don't think it's a big deal - right? I also have a dot on my navel and a dot on my tongue - but those are fully closed holes..... or maybe not - maybe I should check? Lol. I begged and begged for my mom to let me get my ears pierced when I was 10. She finally relented and we went on a nice outing together to get it done. It hurt like heck but I was so determined to have it done that I toughed it out... mostly, but mom was there to hold my hand. It's nice having that memory. I just think that regardless of what age it is done, it is much better if it is their choice and they have chosen to get it done despite being warned it will hurt. I also agree that pierced ears on a baby looks kinda tacky. No offense meant. JMPO.

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Posted: 06-28-07 12:16pm


oh well i guess my babies are just tacky looking then

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Posted: 06-28-07 12:22pm

sick_mama17 wrote:

tanyaface wrote:

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I think it looks tacky.

i agree. i don't think it's cute. rowans earlobes are so soft and cute, the last thing i want to do is make holes in them. i respect her body too much to make a choice like that for her. she can decide when she is older. she's a baby, i want to keep her away from our superficial beauty obsessed world as long as i can and cosmetically modifying her at such a young age seems like the complete opposite of that.

I agree also.
And I agree with what iheartmybostonterrier said about it being along the same lines as circumcision. Its inflicting unnecessary pain.
hopefulmjz made a good point.
and you wouldnt tattoo a baby, same principle there too. its all cosmetic and inflicting unnecessary pain on the baby. personally I would never want to do it. She can decide for herself when shes older.

.just wanted to throw it out there that getting your ears pierced & getting a tattoo are pretty much 100% different. when you get your ears pierced its a tiny thin little post that goes right through in 1 second. with a tattoo its a needle punching into your skin continuously.

if i had a baby girl i don't know if i would get her ears pierced when she was an infant. i see nothing wrong with it, but i don't think i would want to go through the hassle of having to take care of them. i would rather wait until she's a little older (5 or 6, maybe) & have a mommy/daughter day & let her get them done then, if she decides she wants it.

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Posted: 06-28-07 13:40pm

ladylee70 wrote:

vanessalouanne wrote:

ear piercing isnt a catholic thing...
i think its more mexican culture. ive notice the same thing growing up 30 minutes away from the border.

I should have said Mexican culture not Hispanic culture!!

No, this is not a mexican culture.

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Posted: 06-29-07 06:15am

ladylee70 wrote:

vanessalouanne wrote:

ear piercing isnt a catholic thing...
i think its more mexican culture. ive notice the same thing growing up 30 minutes away from the border.

I should have said Mexican culture not Hispanic culture!!

maybe it is hispanic culture because i had my ears pierced at birth (I'm from puerto rico). I'm glad it was like that and I would do the same should i have a baby girl. I love ear piercing. I then had my second holes like 3 years back and it didn't hurt a thing. I don't see who come a girl wouldn't want her ears pierced (at least one hole). Not wearing earings to me feels like not wearing underwear hehe. Anyways this has nothing to do with catholicism. But you can say it could be cultural.

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Posted: 06-29-07 08:34am


Bridg, I get what youre saying and it is exactly along the same lines. You chose for your child what you believe is best . I have no issues with either piercing or circumsion but i get what you are saying. and i would have to add that piercing doesn't hurt them physically but rather it's the restraining and holding them down that makes them cry ..

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Posted: 06-29-07 09:25am

nightangel73 wrote:

ladylee70 wrote:

vanessalouanne wrote:

ear piercing isnt a catholic thing...
i think its more mexican culture. ive notice the same thing growing up 30 minutes away from the border.

I should have said Mexican culture not Hispanic culture!!

i think that was more what i was getting at..
just that hispanics love to wear pretty things and jewlery. i said mexican because i just live close to the border.
i dont mean anything offensive by it.. my best friend is mexican and her family is like my family. you just notice around here that there is jewlery and gold everywhere and id say 95% of the children and adults for that matter wear it.
i think its cool actually, hispanic women take such pride in their appearance.

did anyone ever see the oprah show where they showed the different 30 year old women in all the different cultures and how it varied?

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Posted: 06-29-07 11:16am


Down here in south Louisiana it's the norm to get your little girl's ear's pierced.

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Posted: 06-29-07 18:44pm

vanessalouanne wrote:

nightangel73 wrote:

ladylee70 wrote:

vanessalouanne wrote:

ear piercing isnt a catholic thing...
i think its more mexican culture. ive notice the same thing growing up 30 minutes away from the border.

I should have said Mexican culture not Hispanic culture!!

Yes we do take pride of our appearance. I definetly can say that people in pr dress fancier than people here in the carolinas.

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Posted: 06-29-07 19:04pm


i know in middle eastern and east indian cultures it's pretty common to have baby girls' ears and sometimes even the nose pierced. i'm sure there are a lot of other cultures who do this as well. some of them even put eyeliner and bindis on their babies for special ocassions. i don't think ear piercing looks tacky really, but i wouldn't do it. i think babies look perfect the way they are. my holes i got when i was 12 never closed up and left a permanent mark on my ear. as far as the circumcision thing goes, i don't think a comparison is unreasonable because there is unecessary pain and body altering in both procedures that the baby has no say in.

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Posted: 07-02-07 11:01am


Yes I feel that it is ok to get your own babies ears pierced. I plan on gettin Madisyn's done when she is 6 months. It doesnt hurt much...just for a few seconds. My mom got my ears done when I was 6 months old...so yea its ok. Besides baby girls look even cutier with their ears pierced.

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Posted: 08-17-07 21:35pm


I want my daughter ears pierced, So I asked her doctor. The doctor said it was ok after she had some of her vaccination. She said that it would be okay at 4 months. Now my daughter is 5 months and every month we go to the doctor she get shot. So do you think I should do that to her while she's getting shots the same day?

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Posted: 08-21-07 13:22pm


I'm getting her clitoris pierced. J/K I won't do it until they are old enough to care for them themselves. Right now, Geneva can't even remember to brush her teeth or pick up her dirty clothes.

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Posted: 08-22-07 11:45am

izzysue wrote:

Now my daughter is 5 months and every month we go to the doctor she get shot.

Your daughter gets shot?! I'd make an official complaint about that if I were you Razz

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Posted: 08-22-07 11:57am


It seems like you're dooming your child to be overly concerned about her appearance from way too young of an age.... We wouldn't ever do anything like this to little boys.... But then I also refuse to have pink anywhere near my (hypothetical) daughter or trucks anywhere near my (hypothetical) son. But that's just me lol.....

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Posted: 08-22-07 12:03pm

Georgia59 wrote:

But then I also refuse to have pink anywhere near my (hypothetical) daughter or trucks anywhere near my (hypothetical) son. But that's just me lol.....

Up til what age? Confused

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Posted: 08-22-07 12:09pm


I guess I wouldn't really keep these things away from them, just make sure that typically male and typically female things were equally available and they could choose naturally. I just don't believe in pushing stereotypical toys and things on children. If my girl is gonna have dolls, she's gonna have a racetrack too. Lol- I loved those things when I was little.

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Posted: 09-03-07 05:17am

BridgetHeartsFinn wrote:

ok, i may be reaching here, but...

isn't piercing your baby's ears along the same lines* as circumsizing? you're taking it upon yourself to punch holes in their ears. what if they don't want them when they're older?

*along the same lines, not the same.

I agree with you! Who's to say when your baby is in their 20's they will want their ears pierced! Parents shouldn't be allowed to make that decision for their babies. I thinks it's about the same as taking your child out and having them tattooed, it's making a PERMINANT mark on their bodies!

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Posted: 09-15-07 21:59pm


We had Jersey's ears pierced at 2 months. She is almost 7 months now and has never bothered with them. My son begged to have it done at 7 years old, and was constantly playing with it. As a result, he ended up with a really bad infection. I think they look very cute on girls.