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Becky
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Gay Children....
Posted: 06-27-07 17:10pm
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how would you deal with it if your child
was gay? how do you think your partner
would deal with it? (particularly if it
was your son)
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-27-07 17:14pm
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** im only putting one post on this topic
because im sure it will get out of control
and im not willing to get frustrated
trying to get my point across when i am
days away from my due date...that being
said....
i'd love my child unconditionally because
that is what you do as a parent.
my spouse is the same way.
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Becky
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Posted: 06-27-07 17:15pm
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i know that religion can play a big part
in the subject. as well as traditonal
morals and values.
let's see how it goes 
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-27-07 17:17pm
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| vanessalouanne
wrote: | ** im only putting one post
on this topic because im sure it will get
out of control and im not willing to get
frustrated trying to get my point across
when i am days away from my due
date...that being said....
i'd love my child unconditionally because
that is what you do as a parent.
my spouse is the same
way. |
agreed
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nvrgv^
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Homophoebic Parents
Posted: 06-27-07 17:25pm
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My older brother Nickolas is seventeen
years old. He'll be eighteen in September
of this year, and he came out as a
homosexual (to our parents) two years ago.
His Dad and step-mom are not accepting of
it at all, and refuse to do things for him
because of it. They treat him less of a
person, and allow his brothers to call him
childish names like,"human" and many
profanities.
My mother and step-father are very
accepting of Nick's choice in sexual
orientation. We have even invited some of
his previous boyfriends to eat with us or
come with us on family outtings.
The difference in treatment has changed
alott after Nick came out to his Dad and
step-mom. Where as at our house, the only
thing that changed was his girlfriend
Ariel became a Boyfriend Joseph.
I think the reason why people are not
accepting of Gay people is because they're
so scared of their religion that they
refuse to have an open mind about how
other feel.
Anyhow, the point is;
I, myself, being Bisexual; am very
acceptive of Gays, lesbians, Transexuals,
and Bisexuals. Because God made us all,
and if he ahs such control over
everything, he didn't do anything wrong in
making us, and therefore he must be
acceptive of us too.
-maleyah "Babigurl"
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 06-27-07 17:31pm
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It wouldn't make a difference to me. The
only issue I can see having is worrying
that his or her life is going to be
harder. And it will be because we live in
a sad place right now.
To me, if you aren't going to accept your
child or their lifestyle choices because
of your ideals, you don't need to have a
child because obviously your beliefs are
#1 to you. And it can't be that way when
you're a parent.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 06-27-07 18:46pm
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I don't see why it would matter
"especially if it was our son".
I don't plan on marrying a close-minded
fool, so I know my partner wouldn't have a
problem with our children coming out as
gay.
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ladylee70
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Posted: 06-27-07 23:47pm
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We would love our child unconditionally as
well. The largest population of suicide
among teenagers are individuals who are
homosexuals due to the lack of support.
We are Christians, so we would really have
to be careful that our son doesn't feel
like .God doesn't love him and that he
doesn't constantly feel slammed in the
church. If that happens, we would change
churches. Youth who grow up in a church
and are homosexual will often go through
the stage of "If I just pray hard enough,
it will go away." Then they feel guilty
when it doesn't. It's just so sad.
So, support is the most essential.
Unconditional love and support. I would
hope that my son would still believe in
God if he is gay and not go away from God
just because of other Christians. He may
not end up being a Christian, anyways, as
it will ultimately be his decision when he
feels ready to make that decision.
My family would be very accepting but I
don't think my husband's family would be
at all. At least he would have some
support on my side.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 06-28-07 03:38am
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the love between child and parent in
unconditional and if a parent turns
against their child on the grounds of
sexuality then to me that shows exactly
what kind of a parent they are
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stacybaby
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Posted: 06-28-07 03:58am
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as a parent i will love and support my
daughter and son(when he comes lol) no
matter what,thats what a parent does.
your always there no matter what.
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kaerbear
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Posted: 06-28-07 04:51am
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i love my child unconditionally and that
wouldn't change it.
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Posted: 06-28-07 11:50am
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| Dannzibelle
wrote: | | the love between child and
parent in unconditional and if a parent
turns against their child on the grounds
of sexuality then to me that shows exactly
what kind of a parent they
are |
.perfectly said, .danni.
if .gabe turns out to be gay, i will say
good for you, son. if you're happy, then
.i'm more than happy. he's my son. he's
part of me. & i will love him no
matter what. forever.
i think a lot of people are terrified of
homosexuality because they don't
understand it, & they think it's
unnatural & disgusting.
i really can't stand homophobes.
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Posted: 06-28-07 12:34pm
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| Dannzibelle
wrote: | | the love between child and
parent in unconditional and if a parent
turns against their child on the grounds
of sexuality then to me that shows exactly
what kind of a parent they
are |
Love this, danni! You are smarter than
smart. I wish there were more people like
you in the world! You are going to be a
fantastic mother and role model!!!
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 06-28-07 12:41pm
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I would be upset but it wouldnt change how
much I love him or anything like that.
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arcadia
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Posted: 06-28-07 12:42pm
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| sick_mama17
wrote: | | I would be upset but it
wouldnt change how much I love him or
anything like
that. |
.if you don't mind me asking, why would
you be upset?
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 06-28-07 12:58pm
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Because of how he would be treated in our
society and by religious groups for it.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 06-28-07 13:16pm
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| sick_mama17
wrote: | | Because of how he would be
treated in our society and by religious
groups for
it. |
That would be the only thing that would
worry me if .Mika or any other future
children were homosexuals, i came out as
bisexual at 12, a bit young you might
think btu i always knew i was different,
and i was victimised because they didn't
understand at that age. I couldn't care
less though i'm bisexual and i'm proud, my
mum said to me when i came out as bisexual
that if i end up with a man or woman
she'll be happy aslong as i am
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 06-28-07 13:29pm
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I would love my son or daughter just the
same. They will always be my baby, I gave
birth to them...why should I not love them
just because they have a different
preference than me?
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Mommy35
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Posted: 06-28-07 15:36pm
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Obviously would still love them and their
life partner when they chose one. It
certainly wouldn't be the lifestyle .I
would choose for them, because though we
have come along way with accepting people
who are gay, there is still alot of people
out there that are set in their ways and
life won't be easy, not that it ever is.
Their happiness and the fact that they
find pleasure in something would make me
happy.
I think when you think your 13 year old is
"gay", you should wait that one out,
because a lot of teenagers experiment with
different things.
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ladylee70
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Posted: 06-28-07 17:22pm
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Here is where I could get blasted.
I consider myself a pretty strong
Christian who is actually a little liberal
in my beliefs when it comes to people who
are gay.
I have been reading pretty good books on
the whole subject matter. A part of me
does believes that during 6 weeks
gestation, if you are supposed to have a
boy, your body floods the embryo with
testosterone. Sometimes the embryo doesn't
get flooded enough and the brain remains
female..or more female than it should be.
We are all essentially born as females. I
do believe some people who are gay or
really biologically the other sex.
That brings me to my dear cousin. He is
only two months younger than me. I
strongly remember that even as a child,
around age 5, that he seemed to be more
girly. He would play with dolls and just
act like a girl. I really didn't know
another boy like him. As we got older, he
didn't change. When we were around 10
years old, I still thought of him more
like a girl. His voice never quite changed
when he was a teenager. During our
teenager years, I was just waiting for him
to come out. He often seemed depressed and
was the sweetest guy in the world. Finally
at age 28, he came out!! I was so happy
for him and literally started to cry. I
just knew in my heart at such a young age.
Isn't that strange? His parents are strong
catholics and we think they are not really
accepting of him anymore. I can't even
begin to express the inner turmoil my
sweet cousin probably went through his
whole life.
I haven't talked with him for a long time.
I hope he is doing well and finally feels
free. I hope that he isn't as depressed as
he once was. He is my favorite cousin and
I truly love him!!
I know this had nothing to do with the
original question but this just was on my
heart.
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