Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Need Advice Posted: 03-04-04 18:24pm
Ok some of you know that before we were
having problems with joses sister. Shes
only 14 and he was talking to his mom last
night and she said that shes been hanging
around a 21 yr old guy!!! I was freaking
out, I know whats on the mind of a 21 yr
old man! And so jose starts yelling at
her and lecturing her and I guess another
guy was there and he was yelling "send him
home now!!!!!!!" and I had mentioned boot
camp before...Hehehe so now he wants to
send her! Hahahaha but the thing is, im
pretty sure shes having sex and I wanna
talk to her about it and stuff, but 1. Im
shy, 2. She aint my sister, only by
marriage and 3. I dont wanna talk about
sex! So I dont know what to do, get her
condoms, or ask if she needs birth
control, or maybe send a letter! How
about that! Hmmm, because they are in
another state, I can write a letter and
send it! I dont know what else to do, but
after he yelled at her, she took off and
left and it was 10 at night and the mom
didnt say anything! I would have dragged
her back inside and grounded her! But
shes staying there, I really dont want her
to move out here but we might have to.....
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 03-04-04 21:01pm
Nikki, as awkward as it will be, I would
say talk to her. Somebody has too. Or
else she might end up a pregnant teen.
Ask her if she needs to be on birth
control. And ask her, that if she is
sleeping with this guy, what she thinks he
is doing with a 14 year old, chances are
he doesn't love her like he probably says
he does. Just let her know she is better
off with boys her own age. (or none at
all) lol. Just try to be more of a friend
than an authority figure. I wish someone
had been for me.
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 03-04-04 22:23pm
Hey!
I think sending a letter is a good idea.
Explain ur intentions and tell her how u
feel and why she should be practicing safe
sex. I know my uncle's boyfriend (odd but
he was a nice guy) sent my sister a letter
and sked that only she read it. It was
when she was sleepin round, doin drugs,
stealin cars and such... After that
letter she finally had someone in the
family to talk to and it kinda eased her
up a bit. Shes very good now... So I
think ur idea of a letter is a good one
and it will show her ur not out to get her
or lecture her but ur just lookin out for
her. Hope all is well!
Shauna
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little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004 Posts: 765
Posted: 03-04-04 22:51pm
I think talking to her would be best, as
she needs to hear from another lady that
nothing good comes of a 14 yr old girl
hanging around a 21 yr old man, and yes a
letter is a good thing at least she will
know someone cares about her, as her
mother let her walk out of the house @
10pm. I just hope they are not having sex
(its pretty @#$! Illegal!)
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 03-05-04 09:21am
Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-09-04 09:53am; edited 1 time in total
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 03-05-04 11:20am
Ok thanks guys! I thought maybe talking
to her as a friend would be good. Plus
shes coming down for spring break and I
hope to spend time with her and come off
as a sister and someone she can confide
in. Im nervous though! Lol its different
in person! Haha but maybe if I share some
stories about how guys are dumb and stuff
then maybe she will get to talk to me
better! Thanks!
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JillMarie
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Dec 2003 Posts: 3022 Location: Iowa
Posted: 03-05-04 11:30am
Im in a similiar situation with vanessa
(jesses sis) she is 15 and been with
nearly 15 guys. I took her and got her
pregnancy tests and birth control (which
she woont take cause she wants a baby) I
really dont know what else to do. I dont
help the situation any by being pregnant
cause it makes her want a baby more.
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2729 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 03-05-04 11:42am
I think it would be a good idea to talk to
her when she comes, that way she isnt
acward around yu when she gets there.
Love, stacie
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