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Cursing Infront of the Kids Posted: 06-28-07 12:48pm
Do you curse infront of your child/ren?
Do you think its okay, or you try not to?
Are certain curse words ok and others
arent?
How about your partner (if you have one),
and other family members?
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Becky
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Posted: 06-28-07 12:50pm
i try my best not to curse in front of my
kids. i occasionally will come out with
something if something really bad has
happened (but not directed towards the
kids- like say i stubbed my toe or
something)
i swear like a trooper when they are not
with me
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Mommy35
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Posted: 06-28-07 12:54pm
I also curse like a sailor, but .I try not
to in front of my kids. If .I stub my
toe, or hurt myself .I will slip, but
mostly .I say things like "cheese and
crackers", "cheese and rice", sugar, darn,
etc.
Cursing at your kids is not acceptable imo
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arcadia
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Posted: 06-28-07 12:58pm
we curse around .gabe. we've never really
thought about it.
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mamaTT
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Posted: 06-28-07 12:58pm
I'm with the others, I try my best not to.
But every once in a while one of those
words will just fly right out of my mouth.
Now my husband on the other hand, he
doesn't even try. He just lets them fly,
then wants to get on to his daughter when
she repeats something he said. She's
almost 5 years old, so she recognizes the
bad words. But how do you get on to a
child for saying something she heard her
parent say?
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 06-28-07 13:28pm
Before my daughter could talk my hubby and
I would curse around her (mostly
jokingly...we joke a lot) but never at
her, and it was never a lot. But once she
got closer to a year and she started
talking we watch very closely what we say
around her.
I think if you swear around your child and
they start picking up on it, that's just
teaching them to be disrespectful.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 06-28-07 13:53pm
My parents almost never swore around my
brother and I as children, and swearing is
to this day pretty taboo.
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Anne123
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Posted: 06-28-07 14:19pm
My father has only cursed once in front of
me (my mother never has). I still vividly
remember that one time because it was so
out of character for him.
Anyways, I think it's best to try not to.
When I was in highschool I regular babysat
for twins from the age they were 9 months
to 4 years. Their parents (mostly father)
cursed around them quite regularly
(possibly at them as well). By the time
they were 2 the kids learned to curse as
well.
Not fun dealing with twin 2 year olds
having temper tantrums screaming curse
words at you.
i wouldn't want my child to be perceived
as disrespectful, trashy, and like she was
raised with no class when she starts
talking and bad words sneak in there so
i'm watching my mouth around her. i have
a potty mouth but i'm also a good judge of
situations, so i only use it around my
friends. i do cuss occasionally in front
of rowan, but i'm definitely not proud of
it and i am working on it so that it won't
be happening anymore. i heard a 4 year
old say the f-word the other day, and it
really sounded disgusting.
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jessesgirl
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Posted: 06-28-07 16:48pm
My parents cursed in front of us. I new
to never, ever curse b/c it was bad. I
didn't say a curse word until I was about
12 years old. My brother on the other
hand was cursing at 2 years old to anyone
and everyone. It was all in the way they
raised us. We were raised differently.
My brother always got away with things and
I didn't. You can see the way we were
raised in the lives we live today. That's
another story.
Anyway, Jesse and I talked about cursing
in front of our kids just the other day
while we were camping. We both curse like
sailors. We've decided to try to not do
it as often and make sure our children
know that it's not nice to say those
things. They'll know that they're wrong
and hopefully not use them.
It's something I've been trying to stop
for a while, but bad habits are hard to
break.
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ladylee70
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Re: Cursing Infront of the Kids Posted: 06-28-07 17:06pm
Do you curse in front of your child(ren)?
I try my best not to. I don't curse a lot
but when I accidentally drop something out
comes a word and I feel horrible. My child
loves to copy me. Luckily he can't copy
"sh" words yet.
Do you think its okay, or you try not to?
I try really hard not to. There are some
words that some people consider swear
words and others do not. I think that is
very difficult when you are around other
people. My son was watching cartoons the
other day and out came the word "Je+k."
Not once but several times in less than a
minute. I was a bit upset because it was
just a cartoon that was on in the morning.
My son hasn't yet used that word and I
hope he doesn't. A lot of people, however,
may not consider that a bad word. If my
son used that word in a sentence, I would
not be happy. We monitor what he watches
and the cartoon is usually pretty clean.
Again, that word may not be a curse word
to other people.
How about your partner (if you have one),
and other family members?[/quote]
My husband sometimes lets those words fly
when he is driving. We need to sometimes
remind each other what we are
saying...make each other aware. During
christmas time, certain members would
swear and not think twice about it. They
are a funny group of people but they
really don't have a filters. I was a
little upset about it.
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 06-28-07 17:14pm
I'm going to try not to cuss in front of
my children, but I'm also not going to
make a big deal about it when it happens
because that's usually what intrigues a
child into doing it anyway. Plus, I could
duct tape their ears shut while they are
in my care, but once they are over at a
friend's house or at school, I can't
control what they hear.
I don't think cursing is a terrible thing,
they are just words, but I'm not going to
encourage their use.
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ladylee70
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Posted: 06-28-07 17:24pm
That's true. Sometimes when I accidentally
curse, I quickly cover my mouth and say
oops! My son seems more intrigued by what
I just said when I do that. It's my
natural reaction that actually causes him
to be more curious.
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ladylee70
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Posted: 06-28-07 17:24pm
oops double post
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bernibaby86
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Posted: 07-02-07 11:05am
I'll admit it...I do curse in front of my
3 1/2 month old. But I try not to. Its
usually only when I get angry at someone.
YAnd its not okay to swear in front any
child b/c they would think its ok to say a
curse word. There other ppl besides me
swear in front of my daughter. My brother
and sister constantly swear but they never
listen to me when I tell them not to do it
around Madisyn. My bro and sis dont listen
to anybody ne more not even my mom.
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 07-02-07 11:40am
We try not to do it, only because i don't
want some nice elderly lady to faint at
the foul things escaping the mouths of my
children. But I wonder, why are some
words OK and others are not? Seems silly
if you ask me. My 5 y.o. knows when she
hears a bad word on a movie and will look
at me and say "Bad word!" The funniest
thing sshe ever mimiced was when she was
in the house and some friends were playing
poker. Somebody said "gimme my money,
health forum!
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kaerbear
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Posted: 07-02-07 11:48am
i'm already doing my best not to curse and
the baby isn't born yet. i know he or she
can hear me in there though so it still
counts. i have to try not to speak
negatively too. i always say bad things
about myself like, i'm so fat or i look
ugly today or i call myself stupid or
clumsy. it sounds terrible when i think
about it but it's a bad habit that i have
so i'm doing my best to stop. i don't
want my kid to say those kinds of things
about themself so i have to stop doing it
first. as for swearing, to me it's along
the same lines. i think there are much
better ways to express ourselves but
sometimes things just slip out. i'll do
my best to keep from saying bad words but
i won't make a big deal out of it when i
do, which is rare anyway. if my kid
swears i will ask them to find other words
to use and tell them it's because some
people find those words offensive and
rude. i don't really think it's cute or
funny when kids swear so i wouldn't
encourage it by giggling or having them
repeat it like i've seen others do.
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 07-03-07 01:09am
tanyaface
wrote:
i wouldn't want my child to
be perceived as disrespectful, trashy, and
like she was raised with no class when she
starts talking and bad words sneak in
there so i'm watching my mouth around her.
i heard a 4 year old say the f-word the
other day, and it really sounded
disgusting.
I agree.
Eiri
wrote:
My parents almost never
swore around my brother and I as children,
and swearing is to this day pretty
taboo.
Same here. I say crap and d.a-m.n
frequently which most dont view as
cursing, but my parents dont like it.
Occasionally caca slips out if I hurt
myself really bad or something, but thats
it.
bless? lol thats not what I typed.
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Aryeani
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Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 128 Location: Edinburg, Texas, United States
Posted: 07-03-07 02:02am
I'm not a parent, but I do make it a point
not to curse in front of children ever
since my 3 year old cousin repeated one of
the words I accidently let out. It tends
to look pretty bad when you're in public
and your child randomly starts screaming
curse words.
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El
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Cursing Posted: 07-05-07 18:08pm
I have a 4 1/2 year old and a 1 1/2 year
old.
I'm a terrible curser, I curse casually
all the time.
To me it's just another adjective.
My Parents curse casually now, but when I
was a child, I don't remember them using
quite the same language, quite as
casually.
When we all grew up (teenage years) it was
not a big deal to curse casually, but god
help you if you cursed at somebody in
anger- that was not tolerated.
You could curse to joke, or make fun, or
in the midst of a conversation- but in an
arguement, no.
To date, my children don't curse, (I did
once see my eldest roll her eyes and say
oh, for f*ck sake, once, but she was'nt
saying it to be naughty, or directing it
at anyone- plus, it was a fantastic
appropriation of context, so I let it go)
I won't be surprised if they did drop one
in from time to time, but it would just be
a word to them, they don't see us cursing
in anger, so they don't use it in tantrums
or whatever. Our job will be to teach them
that there are time and place appropriate
language and behaviours of all different
types, and what's appropriate and where.
There is also zero reaction when an adult
curses in our house there's now shocked
intake of breath, or people trying to
cover it up or "not in front of the
children" comments- so they don't get the
impression it's a "naughty" word to be
dusted off and used for effect later at
all.