Open Relationship And Prospect Has Never Been W/ White Woman Posted: 06-28-07 13:30pm
Is Important to know, I would think ,
cause it may be the issue. A guy at work
who is recently divorced started to persue
me a couple of months ago. I find him
extremly attractive. i went to his house
and had a few drinks and we kind of
thought it was going to be physical but we
talked and got so engaged in our
converstion that we did nothing. Now, we
talk almost everyday, but know he keeps
pushing off a chance for us to be alone
together. I called him on it< and he
said he is very attracted, to be be
patient with him. Now, I found out he has
never been with a white woman(he's black).
I know it could be a combination of things
of why he's gone cold, but someone brought
to my attention that he might be nervous
b/c he's never been with someone outside
his race! Does this happen? I don't recall
being nervous about being intimate with
someone that wasn't white. We share so
much with eachother too. I know he is
dating a couple different women but we
talk about as if I was a guy friend. Every
now and then, I 'll test the water to see
if he wants to hook up and he says he does
and kkeps telling me not to give up on
him.
Question2
Why am I so intrigued? why can't I just
move on to someone else to have an
intimate relationship with, if that is
what I'm looking for?
Any anwsers from any piont of view would
be great!
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 06-28-07 14:03pm
Well,it could be that.I have seen it
before and it is very real.My best fried
never datd a black guy and was skeptical
when she was attracted to one and had sex
with him.it took her about 2 months to
hook up with him (it was only a sexual
relationship).Another factor may be that
he *just* got divorced and is not looking
for anything more than a one night stand
and once he realized you would be more
than that,he didn't wan tto do you wrong
and wants to wait until he's ready for
another relationship again.
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paystl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2007 Posts: 29 Location: Atlanta
Yes... But Posted: 06-29-07 13:26pm
To the point of just getting out of a
divorce and not wanting a relationship:
Being his friend and he tells me so much,
I know he has atleast 4 women that he's
currently "dating". But, he wont be
physically intimate with me. Point 2 is
that my current relationship is really
rocky and he knows it. Today, he told me
he wanted me to be okay at home before he
persued anything. But, he knows I have an
open relationship< I don't know why
that would prevent him from having a
sexual relationship with me????
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 06-30-07 06:49am
Why would you want someone who's most
likely "boinking" four other women? If a
guy's into you...............he'll be all
over you like flies on
honey.........................or maybe
he's just deciding what day to assign
you?!........................give it
up!...................and throw it
back!................secrets,
indecisiveness and
promiscuity...................your just
setting yourself up for the fall
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Makoto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 276 Location: Japan
Posted: 06-30-07 11:54am
My guess you are the last resort. He is
not trying to get you into bed because he
is not interested in you in that way,
unless. Unless he was drunk and you were
the only thing around.
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paystl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2007 Posts: 29 Location: Atlanta
Update! Posted: 07-02-07 08:27am
Well Friday after work I went over to his
house and we had a few drinks. We talked,
and i soon figured out the only reason I
care about the physical is b/c i have this
need to conqure what I set out to do, and
it became very clear that he thinks after
I get what I want I wont want anything to
do with him. I believe this is a little
more deep than what we both thought, I too
have a few people I am dating, so I dont
judge him! But, I think the issue is less,
I'm the last resort and more that we've
really developed a friendship here! And
for the first time, we dont want to screw
that up by treating this one like it's
just caddy and physical. We were both kind
of surprised how we feel about eachother.
But, thankyou for looking out...
