my mom told me yesterday that she wants to
have a baby shower for my side of the
family one week after the baby is born.
what?? she's the one who told me it's not
up to me to even mention a baby shower
because it's against etiquette and now she
tells me she wants to have one when the
baby is a week old so she can invite all
my aunties and cousins. oy. i don't know
if i'll be up to it by then. this is my
first baby and i'll still be learning the
ropes. i'm also worried about lots of
people handling and kissing my newborn
baby. i'm concerned about germs. is that
a stupid thing to worry about? i know my
mom would say i'm being ridiculous and
paranoid and ungrateful if i said it was
too soon after the birth to have a baby
shower. rich thinks it's pointless to
have it any later than that, like a month
after, because by then we will have
everything we need (we already have a lot
of it). my mom doesn't want to have it
before baby comes because then she can't
show off her new grandchild (plus we don't
know if it's a girl or a boy). so i don't
know what to do. should i just let her do
it or tell her i need more time to adjust
after baby comes??
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Bridget
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Posted: 06-29-07 19:11pm
wow, there is no way i'd want a ton of
people passing my 1 week old baby around.
no way!
you seem to know that it's not the best
idea, so i'd say something if i were you.
what if you end with a c-section? you'll
still be laid up a week later.
if you don't want to have it before i'd go
for when the baby is more like a month old
or so.
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jessesgirl
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Posted: 06-29-07 19:30pm
I wouldn't have wanted a baby shower after
my baby is born. There's too many germs
and if you're anything like me, I was
nervous and unsure of myself at first. It
takes a little while to get comfortable
with what to do with your baby. I'd do it
now or wait until a month like Bridget
said.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-29-07 19:30pm
they tell you not to bring your baby in
public for the first 6 weeks so why would
you bring the public to your baby?
plus youll probably still be very
uncomfortable ..it was hard for my sister
to sit for long periods of time not to
mention youll probably be exhausted.
tell her how you feel. if she cant
understand then dont have one.
i dont see how anyone who has had children
can see this as unreasonable.
at 38 weeks i cant even imagine having one
now with how uncomfortable i am.. i can
imagine sitting through one with stiches
and bleeding
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OctoberBaby06
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Posted: 06-29-07 19:35pm
Germs are definately not something to be
too worried about! For about the first
month or so I didn't want *anyone* other
than me or .Shane (& not even him
really) hanging on .Kaylee. Babies
especially that little can get sick so
easily.
