I just had a talk with my boyfriend today
and basically he told me that I don't make
any noise. All the noise that I make are
like slow inhales almost like a gasp but
slower. I mean I know I don't sound like a
porn star or anything but I didn't know I
was quiet quiet. He says thats its just a
lil weird and it doesn't bother him but i
know it kind of does. I don't want it to
be fake but at the same time its weird for
me to make noise its almost like I hold it
back. What do I do? Also I never ejaculate
or orgasm...is there a difference? I don't
think ive ever had an orgasm during sex
and he'll ask me if I did and I won't know
but then later when im cleaning up ive got
plenty of fluid and ive noticed two
different kinds theres the liquidy clear
kind when im just wet and then theres the
white sticky almost cheesey kind. I mean
when he asks me I honestly don't know. I
have had an orgasim before so I know what
it feels like. Only It was through
constant clitoral stimulation and it took
a while. Just so you know the sex is no
where near boring his penis is huge and
the sex is great. He knows how to get to
my G spot and yet I still don't seem to
know if im cumming or not i literally
don't feel it. Is there something wrong
with me and what can I do about it?
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Llewellyn
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Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 07-01-07 12:57pm
There's nothing wrong with not making
noise. Some people do, some don't.
Yes, there is a difference between having
an orgasm and ejaculating. Most women can
orgasm, but very few women ejaculate.
Right now, it isn't proven that all, or
even most, women are capable of
ejaculating, but most of us can orgasm.
Women usually orgasm from clitoral
stimulation, so some women do find it
difficult to orgasm during vaginal sex.
Since women don't usually ejaculate
anything during sex or orgasm, the fluid
you see after sex is probably just your
own lubrication or his semen. We produce
a lubricant when we are in the mood
whether we orgasm or not.
It sounds like you two should explore your
body. You could start with masturbation.
Feel around, see what you like, see what
feels good and what doesn't feel like
anything. Try to bring yourself to
orgasm. After that, you can apply what
you learned to when you two are together.
Guide him if you need to. More women
orgasm from oral sex than from manual or
vaginal, so you two could start there.
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fiona05
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Posted: 07-01-07 13:14pm
it's not weird whatsoever to make little
noise during sex - everyone's different,
for some it might feel natural to moan and
scream, but not for all people! personally
i find that making too much noise is
distracting; i hear mself and i start to
wonder if i sound strange or something,
and i end up not forusing on my own
pleasure! the bottom line is this: do what
feels natural for you. if you're not a
screamer, then that's just the way you
are. besides, some guys find it offputting
anyway because it sounds too fake or
dramatic or whatever . for him to say
that it was 'weird' is both untrue and
insensitive. tell him off!
though i accept that there are some women
in this world who are able to ejaculate or
'squirt', the truth is it is very rare.
it has never happened to me or anyone i
know. a female orgasm is not usually
accompanied by any ejaculate. when you
orgasm, it is just a series of
contractions. you say that you have
masturbated and orgasmed that way, so you
obviously know what an orgasm is. when you
are with him and you dont know whether or
not you have climaxed then you haven't.
if you have you will know!
there is nothing wrong with you. it'll
probably just be a case of practise with
you and him to see what makes you tick.
you are very quick to say there's nothing
wrong with what he is doing and to assume
it is you who has the problem!!! dont put
yourself down like that. if you haven't
had an orgasm with him yet then you both
just need to try different things. slow
things down, speed things up, gentler,
hard, different positions and angles.
maybe it is a simple case of you or him
putting too much pressure on you to orgasm
and you can't really relax fully.
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sunshinelove84
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Joined: 20 Jul 2007 Posts: 1 Location: texas
I Cant Ejaculate Posted: 07-20-07 13:15pm
I was wondering why i cant ejaculate,,i
meen i hear about how women ejaculate and
stuff and i feel weird i cant. When i get
an orgasim,its dry,,i really want to
ejaculate.,my boyfriend wonders why i cant
ejaculate,,he says its more sexy,,what can
i do,,is there something i can do,,i
really need help.
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Llewellyn
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Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Re: I Cant Ejaculate Posted: 07-20-07 14:35pm
sunshinelove84
wrote:
I was wondering why i cant
ejaculate,,i meen i hear about how women
ejaculate and stuff and i feel weird i
cant. When i get an orgasim,its dry,,i
really want to ejaculate.,my boyfriend
wonders why i cant ejaculate,,he says its
more sexy,,what can i do,,is there
something i can do,,i really need
help.
Most women do not ejaculate. It's not
even proven that all, or even most, women
are capable of ejaculating.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5542 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 07-20-07 14:47pm
Recent study I heard suggests that while
all women do ejaculate when they orgasm,
for most women, the ejaculate is routed
into the bladder and is peed out later.
The woman never notices. They tested
women's pee after sex and found a fluid
similar to semen in the pee. (I wouldn't
want that job!)
Only a small percentage of women actually
ejaculate outside of their body. If you do
not ejaculate when you orgasm, there is no
way you will be able to. Ever.
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Llewellyn
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Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 07-20-07 15:46pm
Georgia59
wrote:
Recent study I heard
suggests that while all women do ejaculate
when they orgasm, for most women, the
ejaculate is routed into the bladder and
is peed out later. The woman never
notices. They tested women's pee after sex
and found a fluid similar to semen in the
pee. (I wouldn't want that job!)
Only a small percentage of women actually
ejaculate outside of their body. If you do
not ejaculate when you orgasm, there is no
way you will be able to.
Ever.
Interesting. I have not read that study.
Let me know if you come across a link to
it or anything.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5542 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 07-20-07 16:10pm
I actually heard it on the radio. It was
Dr. Laura Berman- you can google her to
find out a lot. She seems pretty credible
as well as popular. She's been on Oprah as
well as many other popular tv shows and
stuff....
But I can't find a link to anything
written about it.
. for him to say
that it was 'weird' is both untrue and
insensitive. tell him off!
