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Sexual Health - Women Forum - Please Someone Tell Me Why I Cant Enjoy Sex!!
Please Someone Tell Me Why I Cant Enjoy Sex!! Posted: 07-01-07 10:14am
okay a little background, lol this feels
so weird but i was wondering if there was
anyone one else with this problem or who
might know what is up with me. I became
sexually active at 15 now 28, i havent had
that many partners in my life time maybe
five, i got pregnate at the age of 20 and
that was the last time i had intercourse
with a man. From the first time to the
last time sex was extremely painful for
me. So then i tried the other side of the
fence and we used toys, those to hurt
really really bad. so i gave up, Now even
putting in a tampon hurts like heck...
what is this all about anybody know???
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monkeygirl22
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Posted: 07-01-07 10:44am
Have you ever tried lube? It sounds like
you might not be wet enough. What kind of
pain is it exactly?
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fedup001
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Posted: 07-01-07 10:52am
Yes, i have tried lub being wet enough is
not the issue lol, the pain is during
intercourse when he is inside me its like
he is in and pushing agenst a brick wall,
no matter if it his penis or his fingers
its the same pain just as it is when i put
a tampon in regardless of the size of the
object it hurts.
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Lion79
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Posted: 07-01-07 12:23pm
Hey! I know what you're going through,
I've always had painful sex, every single
time, it really puts a strain on the
relationship and even stops me from
enjoying it. Is it painful all throughout
sex, or is it just when the guy enters
you?
First of all I'd suggest going to see your
doc, to rule out any physical problems
(like pelvic inflammatry disease or
emdometriosis) that could be causing this.
If everything turns out fine, it could be
a psychological block, this is called
vaginismus.
Make an appointment with your doc and see
what she says. There are ways around this,
so don't worry.
Last edited by Lion79 on 07-02-07 11:53am; edited 1 time in total
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Tylanas
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Posted: 07-02-07 01:52am
I think that source is just
solicitation... I'd advise it be
removed...
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Lion79
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Posted: 07-02-07 11:54am
Edited, though I don't really see what was
wrong with it
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Tylanas
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Posted: 07-02-07 12:56pm
Thanks.
It was selling a product, and posting
links to places that advertise products is
solicitation. That's not allowed on
ehealth. Links so sites that simply
provide helpful information are welcome.
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Lion79
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Posted: 07-02-07 17:23pm
Oh ok, sorry about that. I'll be more
careful next time
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nickynickynicky
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Posted: 07-11-07 23:41pm
You may always feel tender. The best (if
you have an understanding partner) would
be for your partner to sit motionless and
for you to be on top slowly easing it in
and doing all the motion to avoid
uncomfortable feelings as much as
possible. The feeling that it's hitting
against a brick wall is probably from him
thrusting deep before your vagina has
expanded to adjust to fit his penis. This
particular sensation can be avoided if you
slowly lower yourself on him and slowly
move up and down to the depth that feels
comfortable. If you had an epiziotomy
(this is done quite routinely during
vaginal deliveries) when you gave birth,
then you will have a scar on your vaginal
wall that may remain tender for years.
You may also try to face his feet while
you are sitting on him and then lowering
yourself gently onto him. The differing
curvature of his penis when inserted from
that side and the varying front and back
protrusions on the head of the penis will
make contact with different internal areas
on your vagina if you are facing to the
rear (or even to the side, experiment) and
may not make contact with those tender
spots. Also, since you have not actually
had intercourse since you got pregnant,
you may notice that you are looser now and
that there may be less tenderness due to
tightness (although the tender feeling may
never completely go away). Go slow, stay
lubricated, and try to control the
movement yourself as much as possible
since it will be hard to describe to your
partner what hurts and what doesn't hurt
if he's banging quickly away inside of you
with little opportunity for you to adjust
the movement.
