6 weeks pregnant and extreme sadness Posted: 07-03-07 18:19pm
I am 26 years old and recently found out
that I am 6 weeks pregnant. I am
absolutely devasted to put it mildly. I
have been feeling extremely saddened and
can't hlp but wish that I never ever got
into this situation.
I have a lovely relationship with my BF.
We have been together for 6 years. He is
somewhat excited about my pregnancy but I
am the exact opposite. However I do not
feel that we are ready mentally or
financially for a baby. I am really upset
at myself for this. I can't help but think
of how horrible it would b to bring a baby
into this worl which I was not able ot
care for the way that I wanted. On top of
this, I feel extremely guilty for not
wanting and loving the little person
inside o me the way I should.
I always thought that I would be married
first and could prepare for a family
addition but things have not worked out
that way. For this, I also fel so very
ashamed as many people in my community
will look down on me. I am terribly
frightened of the things people will say
and the judgments that will be passed.
Some may say just get over it but
unfortunately for me that is MUCH easier
said than done. I have support from family
and friends but I have not found pace
within myself and it has been extremely
difficult. I spnd the majority of my
nights crying and wishing I was not in
this situation. I have tried talking to
some people about it but it is very
difficult.
Can somone please shed some advice or
offer some guidence. I am torn between the
decisions I need to make at this time.
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lolanonna
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Joined: 29 Oct 2007 Posts: 1
Re: 6 Weeks Pregnant And Extreme Sadness Posted: 10-29-07 20:12pm
I am not pleased to hear you this upset,
but I am relieved myself to have read
your comment, I too am 6 weeks and
MISERABLE. A newlywed with a honeymoon
baby and marital problems. I feel no
connection to the life inside me and it
kills me... honey it isnt uncommon to feel
this I have read it is called antepardum
(like post pardum) depression which can be
treated with meds. I pray that you begin
to feel better, just know you aren't a bad
person and you are NOT alone..... all my
best
A
Jamms
wrote:
I am 26 years old and
recently found out that I am 6 weeks
pregnant. I am absolutely devasted to put
it mildly. I have been feeling extremely
saddened and can't hlp but wish that I
never ever got into this situation.
I have a lovely relationship with my BF.
We have been together for 6 years. He is
somewhat excited about my pregnancy but I
am the exact opposite. However I do not
feel that we are ready mentally or
financially for a baby. I am really upset
at myself for this. I can't help but think
of how horrible it would b to bring a baby
into this worl which I was not able ot
care for the way that I wanted. On top of
this, I feel extremely guilty for not
wanting and loving the little person
inside o me the way I should.
I always thought that I would be married
first and could prepare for a family
addition but things have not worked out
that way. For this, I also fel so very
ashamed as many people in my community
will look down on me. I am terribly
frightened of the things people will say
and the judgments that will be passed.
Some may say just get over it but
unfortunately for me that is MUCH easier
said than done. I have support from family
and friends but I have not found pace
within myself and it has been extremely
difficult. I spnd the majority of my
nights crying and wishing I was not in
this situation. I have tried talking to
some people about it but it is very
difficult.
Can somone please shed some advice or
offer some guidence. I am torn between the
decisions I need to make at this
time.
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Amethyst_Butterfly
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Posted: 04-05-08 13:58pm
omg, I can relate sort of I just reached 7
weeks, and am miserable, i can't remember
a time in my life when I felt this
depressed and cried this much. I'm not
even married to the daddy, we've been
together just over a month. And I cant
tell whether or not he's excited, I know
i'm not.
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Ingi
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Posted: 04-05-08 14:31pm
Amethyst_Butterfly
wrote:
omg, I can relate sort of I
just reached 7 weeks, and am miserable, i
can't remember a time in my life when I
felt this depressed and cried this much.
I'm not even married to the daddy, we've
been together just over a month. And I
cant tell whether or not he's excited, I
know i'm not.
You need to speak with your doctor about
this. Depression during pregnancy is very
common and often goes untreated because
women think they should be over the moon
and very excited to be pregnant - saying
they aren't can make them feel guilty.
Don't feel guilty. Do talk to your
doctor.
Having a baby is a MAJOR MAJOR MAJOR life
change and should not be taken lightly.
You have a lot going on with a new
relationship and a surprise pregnancy.
Please discuss your feelings with your
boyfriend and your doctor.
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Genibabi
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Joined: 30 Apr 2008 Posts: 3
Posted: 04-30-08 12:05pm
ok im 6 weeks pregnant too but im 16
im sad most of my time becasue i have no
phone my bf juat got a job and its hard to
see eachother i mean he wants me to rest
cuz we dont want anything wrong to happen
to the baby but i still need that "us
time" every once n a while i miss him
terribly and its getting harder each day i
dont kno what to do at times except cry
because i feel alone......its hard
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mommyglamour
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Joined: 29 Apr 2008 Posts: 25
Posted: 05-05-08 02:26am
I too was severely depressed w/ my first
pregnancy in my first trimester....and i
even wanted this when it happened....i was
puking all the time and when i wasn't i
felt that strong pressure too....if my
hubby just barely didn't pay attention to
me when i wanted him too or payed too much
attention when i just wanted to breathe it
made me feel like i didn't even wanna be
with him anymore and resulted in me
breaking up with him twice in my first
trimester of the first pregnancy. I wish
i never would have done that but my
feelings were constantly overwhelming me
and i was feeling like i was living with
the flu for 3 months straight plus having
the actual flu the following month.
hopefully when you pull well into your 2nd
trimester or feels those first kicks
you'll start to feel alot better.....and
it will all be worth it the day you have
that baby. Amorous feelings like you
never could imagine will surround you and
for a short while you'll feel like
everything is going to be so
wonderful...and then you go into normal
mode eventually again....don't worry you
can't be in the boat i was in when i chose
to allow myself the chance of getting
pregnant. I ended up back living w/ my
mom and no car all the worse things, but
here we still pull through and have good
experiences too. everyday i wish i could
relive the birth of my 2 children..they
were the two best experiences of my life!
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