mc4ever02
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Posted: 07-05-07 15:33pm
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I am just so frustrated.
After talking long and hard with my dh, we
have decided it would be best if he went
back to school. He wants a new career, one
with better oportunities. So, he will be
starting school in .august for a one year
course in .i.t. I should be extatic. This
is really what is best for us and I know
that, I have been trying to push him to go
to school for years. I'm just being so
selfish and I'm so disappointed in myself.
I guess, I kinda just wanna hear someone
else tell me its for the best. Sigh...
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-05-07 16:07pm
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oh honey i think itll be a good thing! and
dont get frusterated! you dont need to be
stressed?!
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monkeygirl22
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Posted: 07-05-07 16:37pm
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If he really wants a new career I would
say go for it. Information technology is
definitely the way to go this day and age.
If you don't mind me asking, why are you
down about him going back to school?
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 07-05-07 18:16pm
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I'm a very goal-oriented person. I like to
have a schedule. I know that things don't
always work that way. We had found a house
that we liked, which we won't be able to
afford now. I will also be going back on
birth control. Which makes me just want to
cry. I feel like all the crap I have been
trough for the last few months has been
for nothing. I know I'm just being
extremely selfish and that it is better
for us in the long run. And I really do
want him to do it. I don't know...I'm just
blaming it on the hormones. Thanks for
listening. You guys are always here when I
need to vent. I appreciate it.
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monkeygirl22
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Posted: 07-05-07 18:24pm
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I completely understand now. It will only
be for one year though. We were going to
wait for me to get out of school before we
started ttc but I just had a feeling that
I was going to have problems and just felt
like it was the right time. My dh was very
understanding and said that as long as it
was what I really wanted we could go ahead
and start ttc. He was just worried about
me finishing school. I am still finishing
though. I will be taking off in the spring
for the baby and also because I won't have
any prerequisites left to take and then I
start my upper division nursing courses
next fall.
I am sorry you are taking this so roughly.
Pm me anytime if you would like to talk.
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-05-07 18:31pm
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| mc4ever02
wrote: | | I'm a very goal-oriented
person. I like to have a schedule. I know
that things don't always work that way. We
had found a house that we liked, which we
won't be able to afford now. I will also
be going back on birth control. Which
makes me just want to cry. I feel like all
the crap I have been trough for the last
few months has been for nothing. I know
I'm just being extremely selfish and that
it is better for us in the long run. And I
really do want him to do it. I don't
know...I'm just blaming it on the
hormones. Thanks for listening. You guys
are always here when I need to vent. I
appreciate
it. |
oh its ok
it probably is the hormones
yeah we all need to vent sometimes and
this is a great place to do it1 everryone
is so helpful!
if you ever need someone to yell at or
vent to let me know
it will be ok :]
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kaerbear
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Posted: 07-05-07 19:53pm
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that's life with a partner right? if it's
what will make him happy and both of you
more secure and better off in the long run
you should support him. i'm so glad rich
was supportive of me going back to school,
then i went and got pregnant in the middle
of the school year, oops!!! it's really a
short period of time when you look at the
big picture. if he were starting out in
pre-med or something and looking at 10
years of school that would be different.
it's scary when you are looking at a new
baby but it's better to do it now than
later really. people who are happy with
their jobs live longer.
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Posted: 07-05-07 20:30pm
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I can totally relate! My husband recently
went through an epiphany experience in our
life and did a complete 180 in his career
path. It was hard for me to see him doing
things that I wanted to do. He is so happy
though and it is an awesome thing for our
family.
Time will make it better. If it helps
maybe you guys can take a class together
in the evening. That way you will feel a
little more involved. Heck, you could
take a childl development class or
something fun and then you are making
yourselves better parents and you are
getting credit!
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 07-06-07 08:40am
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Thank you ladies! I really appreciate the
feedback.
I know its for the best and I am
supporting dh as best I can. (he has no
idea that I was feeling that way). I know
that it is best for my family. It was just
really overwhelming yesterday for some
reason. You gotta love hormones!! I swear,
I will not miss taking them. Not one bit.
But, I spoke to my dr yesterday and she
told me I have to finish this cycle of
meds (2 more days of estrogen, then 10
days of estrogen and progesterone) because
If I stop now, it could screw my cycle up
even worse. (like that could happen 
) But, the withdrawl bleeding that I should
get would count as a period and I could
start my bc again after that. So, maybe
I'll turn back into a normal person again.
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Posted: 07-06-07 08:58am
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i know how you feel. my dh is going to
school for comp science and just recently
got a job working for a guy flipping
houses. he loves it. so now he is
planning of finishing school but wants to
have that just as a back up. he wants to
really get into the flipping business. so
right now our condo is completely messed
up..no kitchen cabs, no carpet just
concrete floors......etc. now im
wondering if this flipping business is
going to be such a great idea.  i
know that it will make us a lot of money
though, and that is what he is thinking
too. i just trust him. let him do what he
loves and just smile  good luck and i
hope that the year just flys by for you
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Posted: 07-06-07 09:10am
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It's going to be great for you guys!! A
big income jump which means that you can
buy more baby stuff when you do get
preggers!! 
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 07-06-07 09:23am
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| tigresacanela24
wrote: | | It's going to be great for
you guys!! A big income jump which means
that you can buy more baby stuff when you
do get preggers!! |
That is exactly what I needed to hear!
Thank you so much!!
In his previous field, he was fairly
topped-out. His income was good, but there
wasn't a whole lot of room for
improvement. Where, with this new field,
his starting salary will be very close to
what he was making before, with allot of
room for growth! So hopefully, in 5 years,
it will be a huge payoff. (Hopefully
enough to were I can quit work and go to
school full time).
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Posted: 07-06-07 09:44am
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I'm sorry you are feeling frustrated by
this, but honestly, anytime that you can
improve your skills to improve your income
and financial stability, it is for a good
reason.
So the hormones aren't treating you so
well, huh? That sucks. Are you going
back on birthcontrol because dh will be
going back to school for a year or was
there something else I missed.
Don't worry, be happy (lol) Everything
will be ok.
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Posted: 07-06-07 09:49am
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this is definetly a good thing especially
where as you want a little one! You'll be
able to provide for the child and then
some! it's a great move!
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shortgeek
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Posted: 07-08-07 16:14pm
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Definitely look at the silver lining....
More money for baby stuff, for the house
you want and the possibility for you to go
back to school.
It is only one year and you are young. I
know it hurts to wait when you really want
to have a family today, but one year will
not make you less fertile.
A dh who is happier with his job is a dh
who is more energetic when he gets home,
which makes him a more involved hubby and
daddy.
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