He Doesn't Even Want to Look At Me I Am Soo Gross Posted: 07-07-07 21:41pm
Well, my boyfriend of four years the one
who used to admire me and love me soo much
now says.. I am too fat and he doesn't
even want to look at me naked anymore. You
know IT HURTS.. I KEEP trying these stupid
quick fixes I feel so gross and ugly I
don't even want to leave the house. I just
hate myself. He was my eating buddy he
would take me out for fast food order
pizza. NOW I am gross just out of the
blue. He doesn't even look at me the same.
He doesn't do nice things for me. I pretty
much just fend for myself. He treats me
like I am a piece of crap. He treats the
dog better than me. All my life I have
felt self conscience about my weight even
when I was dieting and under weight I just
felt gross. Now, I have PCOS and its
harder to lose weight and I gain it so
quickly. I am not small I am a size 22
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lovesmesomedico
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Feb 2007 Posts: 25
Posted: 07-09-07 00:17am
I'm really nobody to give advice on weight
loss, seeing as how I'm not handling it in
a healthy manner right now but I felt I
should state the obvious-
Nobody deserves to be treated the way
you're describing your boyfriend as
treating you. There's no excuse for saying
those things to you.
If he's unhappy with your appearance,
rather than being rude about it, it would
be better for him to help you and work
with you (and maybe on himself as well).
I'm sorry I don't have any weight loss
tips for you, but I'm sure somebody else
will come forward with excellent advice,
as they always seem to.
Just keep your head up and realize that
he's not a real man if he has to put you
down like that.
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Dale123
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2007 Posts: 697 Location: Barrie, On Canada
Posted: 07-10-07 19:20pm
lovesmesomedico
wrote:
I'm really nobody to give
advice on weight loss, seeing as how I'm
not handling it in a healthy manner right
now but I felt I should state the
obvious-
Nobody deserves to be treated the way
you're describing your boyfriend as
treating you. There's no excuse for saying
those things to you.
If he's unhappy with your appearance,
rather than being rude about it, it would
be better for him to help you and work
with you (and maybe on himself as well).
I'm sorry I don't have any weight loss
tips for you, but I'm sure somebody else
will come forward with excellent advice,
as they always seem to.
Just keep your head up and realize that
he's not a real man if he has to put you
down like
that.
That was a nice reply. Keep your head up,
and don't let him bring you down.
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womaninpain
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jul 2007 Posts: 179
Re: He Doesn't Even Want to Look At Me I Am Soo Gross Posted: 07-13-07 11:46am
_Nay_
wrote:
SHED A FEW POUNDS
THEN
Well that's just easier said than done...
My fiance doesn't say it to me at all but
when I say things about how I look he just
says if you feel that way do something
about it...which basically to me says...I
agree...it makes you feel like crap it
really does I understand completely.
Please try not to let those things get you
down it's not going to help you at all and
he should understand that these things he
says will NOT help you lose weight it may
just make it worse in some cases. He
doesn't deserve you at all if this is how
he is going to treat you when you gain
weight! He should love and want the person
within and he should encourage you to lose
weight and be positive. If he can't do
that for you it's going to make things so
much harder.
I would say to go to your doctor and speak
with them about how they can help you do
something about your weight.
Good Luck.
I understand what you are going through
with this so if you need to talk pm me
I am a heavy girl too I weigh anywhere
from190 to 220lbs in any givin month as I
am on meds that increase your weight and
some that decrease my weight so the never
ending yo yo Some thing I do now and seems
to be working as I am down not in weight
but in sizes I have gone from a 22 to an
16-20 depending on style I have larger
breasts so smaller sizes do not fit them.
Anyways I have cut all the refind sugar
out of my diet and added more fiber I cook
or bake with splenda tests best I drink 2
glasses of water a day trying to do more
but do not like taste of water but it is a
start. For fiber I eat a bowl of sherreded
wheat for breakfast and for a snack before
bed like 2 hours before. try not to eat
anything in the 2 hours befoore bed other
wise it sits in your tummy. Also trying
keep veggies cut up so you cansnack on
them celery is great and carrots just put
water in a glass and leave them on the
table and have some when ever you would
like the water keeps it crispy. I have
also lost about 15lbs since june 1 doing
this. Give it a try. But do it for you not
him. other wise it will not work because
you will never keep it up. Also do not let
him put you down. It makes no difference
if you are 500lbs or 10lbs what anyone
thinks it is what you think that matters.
You are a beautiful person remember that.
I know it is easier said than done. But
what I have shared with you is a life
style change not a diet for awhile. best
of luck let me know how things turn out.
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Dale123
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2007 Posts: 697 Location: Barrie, On Canada
Re: He Doesn't Even Want to Look At Me I Am Soo Gross Posted: 07-13-07 20:11pm
_Nay_
wrote:
SHED A FEW POUNDS
THEN
Thats pretty harsh. the girl sounds pretty
upset and then You go and say something
like that.. I think she posted it for
support and advice. Not to read something
like that.. OH and if you think your
advice was.. SHED a couple of pounds why
don't you mak it constructive.
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Dale123
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2007 Posts: 697 Location: Barrie, On Canada
Posted: 07-13-07 20:19pm
karebare293
wrote:
I am a heavy girl too I
weigh anywhere from190 to 220lbs in any
givin month as I am on meds that increase
your weight and some that decrease my
weight so the never ending yo yo Some
thing I do now and seems to be working as
I am down not in weight but in sizes I
have gone from a 22 to an 16-20 depending
on style I have larger breasts so smaller
sizes do not fit them. Anyways I have cut
all the refind sugar out of my diet and
added more fiber I cook or bake with
splenda tests best I drink 2 glasses of
water a day trying to do more but do not
like taste of water but it is a start. For
fiber I eat a bowl of sherreded wheat for
breakfast and for a snack before bed like
2 hours before. try not to eat anything in
the 2 hours befoore bed other wise it sits
in your tummy. Also trying keep veggies
cut up so you cansnack on them celery is
great and carrots just put water in a
glass and leave them on the table and have
some when ever you would like the water
keeps it crispy. I have also lost about
15lbs since june 1 doing this. Give it a
try. But do it for you not him. other wise
it will not work because you will never
keep it up. Also do not let him put you
down. It makes no difference if you are
500lbs or 10lbs what anyone thinks it is
what you think that matters. You are a
beautiful person remember that. I know it
is easier said than done. But what I have
shared with you is a life style change not
a diet for awhile. best of luck let me
know how things turn
out.
WOW Great job! Thats awesome. I should
have posted this on this part of the
website about some sweetners... I will in
the next post... I just want to thank you
for giving he some good feed back that
'shed a few pounds' really burns me.
because I was on a medication that made me
gain weight a one point.. I went on a
great diet and lost the weight. I also
know what Karebare was talking about my
boyfriend too told me the same if you
think its bad do something about it, but
from the way he looked at me I knew he
thought it was bad. I think I got up to
240. I was a plus size model through out
university. Now I am 145 I lost 95 pounds
which was VERY hard to do, but in the end
I feel better about myself and you know
whats kinda funny. He still 'sometimes'
looks at me that way. So, maybe there
wasn't anything wrong with me..
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worrywart001
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 200
Re: He Doesn't Even Want to Look At Me I Am Soo Gross Posted: 07-13-07 20:22pm
LauraDs
wrote:
Well, my boyfriend of four
years the one who used to admire me and
love me soo much now says.. I am too fat
and he doesn't even want to look at me
naked anymore. You know IT HURTS.. I KEEP
trying these stupid quick fixes I feel so
gross and ugly I don't even want to leave
the house. I just hate myself. He was my
eating buddy he would take me out for fast
food order pizza. NOW I am gross just out
of the blue. He doesn't even look at me
the same. He doesn't do nice things for
me. I pretty much just fend for myself. He
treats me like I am a piece of crap. He
treats the dog better than me. All my
life I have felt self conscience about my
weight even when I was dieting and under
weight I just felt gross. Now, I have PCOS
and its harder to lose weight and I gain
it so quickly. I am not small I am a size
22
He should NOT be treating you like that,
thats ridiculous...if my bf gained a few
pounds so what..i love him, what i would
do is maybe suggest us start eating
healthier together and working out
together bc i could stand to loose a few
pounds myself...for him to treat you the
way he does is uncalled for...also, dont
do a quick fix diet..i always say, if you
loose it quick..you'll put it on just as
fast if not faster!!! just really watch
what you eat and maybe walk 30 minutes or
so a day, you'll be surprised how much
better you feel! i've also found that if i
stay active, i eat healthier...if i lay
around..i eat junk lol...but keep your
head up and do it for YOU not him
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Dale123
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2007 Posts: 697 Location: Barrie, On Canada
Re: He Doesn't Even Want to Look At Me I Am Soo Gross Posted: 07-13-07 20:44pm
worrywart001
wrote:
LauraDs
wrote:
Well, my boyfriend of four
years the one who used to admire me and
love me soo much now says.. I am too fat
and he doesn't even want to look at me
naked anymore. You know IT HURTS.. I KEEP
trying these stupid quick fixes I feel so
gross and ugly I don't even want to leave
the house. I just hate myself. He was my
eating buddy he would take me out for fast
food order pizza. NOW I am gross just out
of the blue. He doesn't even look at me
the same. He doesn't do nice things for
me. I pretty much just fend for myself. He
treats me like I am a piece of crap. He
treats the dog better than me. All my
life I have felt self conscience about my
weight even when I was dieting and under
weight I just felt gross. Now, I have PCOS
and its harder to lose weight and I gain
it so quickly. I am not small I am a size
22
He should NOT be treating you like that,
thats ridiculous...if my bf gained a few
pounds so what..i love him, what i would
do is maybe suggest us start eating
healthier together and working out
together bc i could stand to loose a few
pounds myself...for him to treat you the
way he does is uncalled for...also, dont
do a quick fix diet..i always say, if you
loose it quick..you'll put it on just as
fast if not faster!!! just really watch
what you eat and maybe walk 30 minutes or
so a day, you'll be surprised how much
better you feel! i've also found that if i
stay active, i eat healthier...if i lay
around..i eat junk lol...but keep your
head up and do it for YOU not
him
I totally agree with you! You're right. I
suppose sometimes men are alot harsher
than woman.
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Lion79
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Re: He Doesn't Even Want to Look At Me I Am Soo Gross Posted: 07-30-07 12:01pm
LauraDs
wrote:
Well, my boyfriend of four
years the one who used to admire me and
love me soo much now says.. I am too fat
and he doesn't even want to look at me
naked
anymore.
Get rid. He's pulling you down, and it
sounds like a pretty poor relationship, so
you might be happier without him. That
might give you a more positive attitude
that you can use in your diet/exercise
plan and make it more successful. Good
luck.
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everyday_struggle
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jul 2007 Posts: 304
Re: He Doesn't Even Want to Look At Me I Am Soo Gross Posted: 07-31-07 13:07pm
LauraDs
wrote:
Well, my boyfriend of four
years the one who used to admire me and
love me soo much now says.. I am too fat
and he doesn't even want to look at me
naked anymore. You know IT HURTS.. I KEEP
trying these stupid quick fixes I feel so
gross and ugly I don't even want to leave
the house. I just hate myself. He was my
eating buddy he would take me out for fast
food order pizza. NOW I am gross just out
of the blue. He doesn't even look at me
the same. He doesn't do nice things for
me. I pretty much just fend for myself. He
treats me like I am a piece of crap. He
treats the dog better than me. All my
life I have felt self conscience about my
weight even when I was dieting and under
weight I just felt gross. Now, I have PCOS
and its harder to lose weight and I gain
it so quickly. I am not small I am a size
22
i agree with shed the pounds guy. but
after you do and look great. leave the
guy. That'll teach him.
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 07-31-07 13:25pm
I think the most important question to ask
is "How do you feel about yourself?" If
you truly wish to change your weight,
change your lifestyle. Reinvent yourelf.
Don't do it for someone else, do it for
you. You are the only one who will be
with you guaranteed all your life, and
thus, you are the only one you need to
answer to. Generate an image of yourself
in your mind and then begin to emulate
that image. If you walk around telling
yourself "I'm fat. I am unhealthy. I
don't exercise. I eat unhealthy foods"
then you are exactly right. If you start
to think of yourself as a healthy person,
your actions will follow.
Also, start slowly. Don't expect instant
results. Go for a 5 minute walk one day.
Make it 6 the next day. Then next day go
for 10. Keep increasing the amount of
time you spend being active. Keep it
varied and do things you enjoy. I used to
say I only ran when chased, but I started
slowly and have worked really hard on it.
I just ran my forst 10K in May and will be
doing a half-marathon in October. It took
a long time for me to get here, but it was
worth it.
About foods, I am not sure what types of
foods you are eating now, but you
mentioned pizza, etc. Start by eating
only at home. We all cook much more
healthy foods in our own homes than they
do in restraunts and fast food places.
Substitute one helathy snack a day for a
candy bar, cookie, or bag of chips. Then
build from there. Check out some Cooking
Light Magazines. They have great recipes
in there and they focus on substituting
fat and calories, not taste.
About this man who has said these things
to you-once you get yourself ina healthy
place, it will be quite obvious to you
whether or not he fits into it or not.
When you feel good about yourself, it is
much easier to make the right choices for
your spiiritual and bodily health.
I hope this helps.
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ThickGirlJM
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2007 Posts: 17 Location: California , USA
Shed the Bf Posted: 08-03-07 15:57pm
how much the your BF weigh because that is
exactly how many LBS you need to shed out
of your life. I have been ridiculed and
made fun of my whole life for having a
huge butt! I mean I can sit in most chairs
with arms and rollercoasters and airplains
are tight squeezez! I grew a thick skin
and learned to love my body. Sure I am
always looking to lose some weight or try
that new diet but hey all in all I am
happier with my self. Drop the loser and
anyone else that tells you crap and you
will find losing weight for yourself will
come easier!
