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Need Help Dont Know If Baby Is Alive Or Dead 19 Weeks Posted: 07-07-07 23:11pm
hi let me start off by saying that i am
only 15 years old.. :[ i know thats very
bad because i havent told my parents
anything they will kick me out of the
house and noone really knows how bad this
will be when i tell them thats why i need
ya'lls help.
i should be 19 weeks right now im just
asuming i am pregnant..
i took a test 1 week after the day i had
sex and it came back negative.
i soon realized that was too early to take
a test.
i took on about a week ago and it came
back negative too..
i read some things online that said thats
too late to take a test because after 4
months home pregnancy tests are
unreliable.
i have not been to a doctor nor have i
told anyone about this except my best
friend..
can i be pregnant even though both tests
came back negative?
the reason i think i am is because i have
started to show and my ovaries seem like
they have come up plus they say when your
pregnant some women who are having boys
get some testosterome hormones in them and
my stomach has gotten hairier.. weird
huh?
thats why i think i am but i havent felt
the baby move and im just wondering could
the baby be dead inside of me?
if so, what happens?
i mean i am into sports and i have done
things that you shouldnt do while pregnant
so is there any way that that could have
affected anything??
also through this time i lost 30
pounds..but i wanted too..i didnt realise
that i could be pregnant when i did
this..i just now started seeing my belly
kind of grow like if i was pregnant..
please just help i mean i just want to
know because i have not had my period
since late january and its already july so
even though both tests came out
negative.,,i really blieve im pregnant but
i am just not sure if its alive or
dead..if i took a blood pregnancy test and
it comes back negative does that mean it
has died inside of me??
and if it comes back posotive is there
still a chance it could be dead? i am just
really confused about everything please
help as much as you can and i will gladly
appreciate it
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-07-07 23:14pm
ok you HAVE to get to a doctor and tell
someone! seriously! its bad if you wait!
do it for the sake of your baby and get
there some way!!!
ok and you might not be pregnant
the symptoms hardly ever show and alot of
girl freak out and theyer not even
preg.!!!
if the tests came back neg. then your
probly not but sometimes you need a blood
test to make sure
if the baby had dies and you have a
misscarriage you would know if you were 19
weeks
im 16 yrs old and 17 weeks pregnant.
how do you know your 19 weeks if you
havent seen a doctor?
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-07-07 23:17pm
and if you had a misscarriage youd feel
cramping and most of the time bleeding
very heavily and chunky and deep red
color
you need to go see a doctor
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southsider
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Posted: 07-07-07 23:26pm
ok thank you for the advice..
also i sent you an email because i didnt
know you could just reply on this.. this
is the first time i have been on this
website..
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-07-07 23:27pm
lol yeah i wrote ya back
feel free to e mail me anytime ok?
im suzy by the way
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southsider
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Posted: 07-07-07 23:30pm
ok :]
and i am sabrina..
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young Girl
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Posted: 07-07-07 23:31pm
yeah i know you must be
frusterated...wheres the boy who got u
preg.?
are you together? does he know?
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-07-07 23:39pm
you have to go to the doctor period.
if you are or even if you are not if you
havent had a period since january you need
to be seen. you can go to a planned
parenthood and your parents would not need
to know.
if you did have a dead fetus inside you,
you can and will suffer serious harm to
your body. you could die from this.
all i can say is that there is nothing
anyone can do for you, you have to see a
doctor.
and if you are pregnant, its normal not to
feel the baby move until 21 weeks.
seriously see a doctor.
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southsider
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Posted: 07-07-07 23:50pm
me and him broke up about a month ago..
we still talked everyday until i told him
about a week ago and he said to leave him
alone and that its not his..
i told him thats why i didnt want to tell
you and he then said go get an abortion
and dont tell anyone that its his..
some guy, huh?
hes a jerk.
i havent talked to him since then.
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monkeygirl22
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Posted: 07-08-07 00:26am
Let me just say that you're probably not
pregnant. Everyone goes through wierd
scares like this when they are young. You
do need to see a doctor though if you
haven't had a period since January. Go to
a planned parenthood or tell your mom. In
my opinion, it would be better to go ahead
and tell your parents because either way
you are going to need some help. It would
be much less stressful to have an adult
with you who has some idea of what's going
on.
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cln1812
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Posted: 07-08-07 09:17am
I agree with the above poster. You're
probably not pregnant. By now, a home
pregnancy test would definitely come back
positive. You should see a doctor to
investigate why your period is missing.
It could be a result of a change in diet
& exercise (you say you've lost
weight), thyroid issues, or PCOS
(polycystic ovarian syndrome--this often
causes periods to become highly erratic).
If you've been losing weight unhealthily
(eat too few calories, exercising too
much), if you're now underweight for your
height, that can cause periods to cease.
I lost my periods for over a year while in
college due to anorexia. Once my weight
got below 105 lb., I didn't have any more
periods.
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Tylanas
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Re: Need Help Dont Know If Baby Is Alive Or Dead 19 Weeks Posted: 07-08-07 12:07pm
southsider
wrote:
can i be pregnant even though both tests
came back
negative?
It's highly unlikely. I haven't heard
anything about pregnancy tests becoming
unreliable after 4 months. It tests the
level of hcq in your blood, which is a
pregnancy hormone, so rather than becoming
inaccurate, I'd think they become more
accurate as the months go by
Quote:
the reason i
think i am is because i have started to
show and my ovaries seem like they have
come up plus they say when your pregnant
some women who are having boys get some
testosterome hormones in them and my
stomach has gotten hairier.. weird
huh?
I can tell you right now that combined
with the massive weight loss, the hair on
your stomach is a common sign for
anorexics and other underweight women.
They grown faint hairs all over their
body, most commonly on the stomach and
arms. I'd say the hair growth is most
likely due to your weight loss.
Secondly, being thinner means that any fat
on your stomach looks like a pregnancy.
Trust me on this. I'm 5'3" and I weigh
barely 100 lbs. Its common for women and
girls to have a "pooch" of fat on their
stomachs, and even skinny girls have it.
If you can grab what looks like a
pregnancy and squeeze it and jiggle it
around, it's just fat. Your uterus is firm
and large during a pregnancy, not squishy.
Quote:
thats why i think
i am but i havent felt the baby move and
im just wondering could the baby be dead
inside of me?
None of those signs to me seemed like
pregnancy signs... they all sound like
danger signs from a girl who is loosing
too much weight too fast. If the baby had
died, you most likely would have
miscarried and believe me you would have
known about it.
Quote:
i mean i am into sports and i have done
things that you shouldnt do while pregnant
so is there any way that that could have
affected
anything??
Being highly active and loosing a large
amount of weight seems to have contributed
negatively on your growing body, and
caused you to lose your period. This can
happen to young girls. You need to first
get to a planned parenthood and confirm
that you're not pregnant. Then, you need
to start eating, and get to a doctor who
can figure out why your period is gone.
Quote:
also through this
time i lost 30 pounds..but i wanted too..i
didnt realise that i could be pregnant
when i did this..i just now started seeing
my belly kind of grow like if i was
pregnant..
Like I said, I don't think your belly is
growing. The rest of you is shrinking,
your stomach is staying the same size, and
you're just not used to what that should
look like. It's creating the illusion that
your stomach is growing. If I stand just
right in a mirror (again, I barely weigh
100 lbs) I can make myself look pregnant
It's just natural
skin and fat deposits.
Quote:
please just help
i mean i just want to know because i have
not had my period since late january and
its already july so even though both tests
came out negative.,,i really blieve im
pregnant but i am just not sure if its
alive or dead..if i took a blood pregnancy
test and it comes back negative does that
mean it has died inside of
me??
I absolutely believe you are not
pregnant. The mind is a powerful
tool; and young women like you have
convinced themselves they are pregnant
before, and they started lactating, and
their stomachs bloated... but of course
nothing happened because they weren't
pregnant.
If the baby was dead you would have
miscarried; it is very rare for the
mother's body to carry around the dead
fetus because that's dangerous.
Hey, another thing... if the fetus was
dead, your stomach wouldn't be growing.
You wouldn't be "showing" more if the
fetus was dead. More proof you're not
pregnant and just psyching yourself out.
However, I also absolutely believe you
need to go take a blood test, because
missing periods are the first signs of
pregnancy.
Quote:
and if it comes
back posotive is there still a chance it
could be
dead?
No. Okay, there's always a 1% chance of
everything. But no. In most cases of fetal
death and deformity, a miscarriage follows
suit. If you are pregnant (big if here)
the fetus is most likely alive.
Quote:
i am just really
confused about everything please help as
much as you can and i will gladly
appreciate it
You really really need to go to a planned
parenthood and get checked out.
It's just natural
skin and fat deposits.
