Been On the Fertiltiy Rollercoaster For Years ! Posted: 07-10-07 22:07pm
infertility has been a struggle for my
husband and I for about 8 years. I am
writing this so that I may give someone
some hope, I know how frustrating and
difficult infertility can be. I am now 40
years old and I do have a happy
story...although going through it I did
not think it was happy. When I was 32 I
got pregnant for the first time, the
pregnancy was not planned so it obviously
came easily. By the 8th week I had
miscarried. I got pregnant 4 more times
until I was 35 each ending in a
miscarriage. Doctors determined that I
have the anti cardio lupin antibody which
I guess causes miscarriages. But it is a
fairly easy fix, a low dose aspirin and or
a daily shot of heparin. My husband and I
tried for the next 2 years to get pregnant
again and it would not happen. We decided
to go to the next step. We started
fertility treatment, I did IUI first, and
then we did 2 full IVF cycles and 1 frozen
embryo cycle. No pregnancy but lots of
money gone! The financial burden and the
emotional and physical strain was enough
and we decided to move on. By this time we
were ready for adoption. Also a very long
road. I had always seen adoption as a last
resort and also as a failure to my
fertility. But I promise you, once you get
to being truly ready to adopt it is such a
blessing. Not a failure! My story does not
end here. We were blessed with a healthy 1
day old baby boy 11 months ago. He is my
world! I could not love him more! Again my
story does not end here. I truly did let
go of my fertility and stopped keeping
track of my cycle...to me I was not going
to have a biological child...well I was
wrong. I found out about 5 weeks ago that
I am pregnant...I am now just over 12
weeks and I still cant believe it. I dont
feel that I am completely out of the woods
yet but I am the furthest along I have
ever been. I am taking the daily dose of
baby aspirin and things seem to be going
well. I would not have believed this could
happen to me. People always said to me,
relax it will happen.... I wanted to yell
at them... you try and relax when your
husband is sticking a needle in your butt
and you are charting your cycles and your
temperatures, and your whatever fertility
drug they have you on. It is a journey and
unfortunately we do not know the outcome
but it is a journey I know I had to go on
to get to where I am now. I have never
been happier and I really hope others that
are truly suffering watching their
friends, family and co-workers get
pregnant all around them will know that
there truly will be a peace at the end of
their long journey. Good luck and if I can
help please post a message.
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jiggababy7
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Congrats!!!! Posted: 07-11-07 08:32am
CONGRATS!!!!! Your story is inspiring to
all of us TTC.
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Posted: 07-12-07 09:09am
Wow,
Thanks for sharing that. That was very
inspirational. I myself am ttc and it has
been a long battle. I have recently had
to take a 4 month break due to orders from
my doctor. But now at the end of this
month, we are going to try again. So I
will have to say that I will be starting
my 1st month again. I hope it only takes
one or two months, but I have learned that
it is not my decision when I get pregnant.
I just have to trust in his timing and
all will be fine.
Thank you again for such a nice story.
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nightangel73
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Posted: 07-12-07 21:50pm
Congrats!!
You know I have heard this kind of story
before. I had a coworker who had fertility
problems for several years and she tried
several in-vitros with no luck. So she
decided to give up and boom then when she
was using nothing she got pregnant and had
a beautiful boy. She likes to tell the
story as to let people know that only god
is the gaver of life.
I really never believed before that there
was a plan, and that all things happen for
a reason but I sure am a believer now.
There is a plan for all of us, just dont
give up.
I used to pray for a baby and then my
brother said to me one day : God is not a
vending machine, you cant just ask for
what you want and it will spit it out. So
I began to pray to God just to help me to
accept what ever was going to be. That did
not mean giving up, just accepting. I
think everyone that wants to be a parent
should be able to and I hope it happens
for you. In the meantime...enjoy your
freedom...believe me life changes. Take
care. By the way please dont think I am
dumb, but what does ttc meaN. I will
probably kick myself when you fill me in.
MK
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Posted: 07-13-07 07:46am
mkcash
wrote:
I really never believed
before that there was a plan, and that all
things happen for a reason but I sure am a
believer now. There is a plan for all of
us, just dont give up.
I used to pray for a baby and then my
brother said to me one day : God is not a
vending machine, you cant just ask for
what you want and it will spit it out. So
I began to pray to God just to help me to
accept what ever was going to be. That did
not mean giving up, just accepting. I
think everyone that wants to be a parent
should be able to and I hope it happens
for you. In the meantime...enjoy your
freedom...believe me life changes. Take
care. By the way please dont think I am
dumb, but what does ttc meaN. I will
probably kick myself when you fill me in.
MK
Ttc is an abbreviation for Trying to
Conceive
Your story is truly inspiring. I also
believe that God has a plan for everyone.
I have been praying that God will bless us
with the child we both desire. I ask him
to prepare my body for a baby. It will
happen when I least expect it, this I
know. I just ask for Him to prepare my
body so that when it happens I am
healthy.
I wanted to encourage you to post your
story in the Getting pregnant forum.
There are a lot of girls over there that
are trying to get pregnant that don't
visit this forum as much. They would
really appreciate hearing your story.
Thanks for your reply star...
While i was unloading my dishwasher
yesterday shortly after I had asked what
does ttc mean it came to me...i knew it
would.
I am knew to this chat - forum stuff so
thankyou. I will post my story in the
getting pregnant forum. I just wish i knew
how to just how to do it without re-typing
the whole thing. I will try to paste it.
take care,mk
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