My Husband and I have been married and
living together for two years. He has a
five year old daughter from a previous
marriage. The custody was listed in the
property settlement agreement of the
divorce decree. The mother has refused
reasonable visitation as it states (she
does have sole custody) and refuses to
live with the child. We have pleaded with
her to raise the child but she sees no big
deal in leaving the child with her
parents. Now that we also have a child and
a very stable lifestyle we have petitioned
the court to move the case down to
juvenile domestic court. On top of not
living with her when she does see her she
brings her to these filthy dirty trailers,
that have bugs, mold, cigerte ashtrays
filled to the brim, trash all over the
place, and i'm sure other vermin from the
looks of it. She dresses my stepdaughter
in rags, refuses to do her hair, and lets
her run around with no shirt on or shoes
at age 5 when we have spent thousands of
dollars on beautiful clothes for her. All
we want is for her to have a stable
lifestyle that will mold her into a
productive asset to society. Do you think
that on those grounds sole custody would
be turned over? We do not want to take her
away from her mother, we just want to
protect her. She has made comments to me
such as, "since mommy doesn't want to be
my real mommy will you be?" it breaks my
heart, but I'm not sure if this is enough
for custody to be turned over. We feel as
though she should be living with one of
her parents, but her mother feels
otherwise. Is this a solid case for a turn
over in custody?
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mominashoe
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Posted: 04-03-08 15:15pm
You bet it is!! You will need a lawyer,
but it is obvious that this woman should
not have the charge of her daughter. The
fact that your husband has married you and
has settled down to a good and stable life
means that a court would probably
reconsider it's decision, especially with
a monster mom on the other end. Even if
she doesn't end up with her father as sole
custodian, it's better than living with
her mom 24/7. Not only that, someone like
this should have a lawsuit filed against
her for child abuse and neglect....I don't
know why that has not been done before.
Don't worry about "taking the child away
from her Mother". If what you say is
true, the woman has given up her rights
and privileges in this situation.
The daughter's testimony would be very
important in a case like this because she
is old enough to know some of the things
that are going on and how her mother is
treating her.
I would be really great if you could be
her mommy...it seems like you really care
about her. Anyone can be a Mother, but it
takes someone with a heart to be a Mommy.
Good luck!!
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Fairy*Godmother
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Joined: 11 Oct 2003 Posts: 1340 Location: , Georgia USA
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I agree Posted: 04-03-08 15:24pm
I agree with MOMINASHOE! Find you GOOD
attorney, one that specializes in family
law and knows what they are doing. Ask
around, but you have a much better chance
of getting custody than where this child
is now. My heart goes out to you, your
husband and this child. Has local family
and childrens services ever been called to
the attention the sitauation/circumstances
this little girl is having to live in?
Pictures and documentation will stand up
in court. You are NOT taking her away from
her Mother, you are offering a better
quality of life. You are something special
for stepping up to the plate for this
child.I was once a stepmother too, and
there is nothing I would not do to this
day for one of mine! If that meant going
to court (which I did and won) to prove I
could provide a better, more stable
home.....the go for it with BLESSINGS!
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