waiting for husband to be ready Posted: 06-13-08 19:37pm
My husband doesn't want a baby yet, and
so, of course, I am waiting... What can I
do to keep myself sane during this wait? I
love him, so, I am waiting, but, it is
driving me NUTS!
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Cambion
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Posted: 06-13-08 20:53pm
I would suggest enjoying your freedom,
quality time with your husband, and any
extra income, because those things will
become severely limited (if not
nonexitant) once you have a child. I'm not
trying to be negative, but I am trying to
be realistic. Go out for dinner, join
clubs, take a hike together, watch a good
movie and share a bottle of wine, make
dinner together, enjoy uninterrupted sex,
have spontaneous fun, take up a new hobby,
try to learn a new language, build a model
plane or invest in a Lego kit, sew a
blanket, hold house
parties/potlucks....the possibilities are
endless, really. But I really do suggest
having fun now because when you have to
care for a baby - even if you love it very
much - there will be days when you'll want
to kick yourself for not having more fun
before settling into family life. Kinda
like how some people regret not partying
harder in college.
But it's good that you are at least
waiting until your husband is ready rather
than "accidentally" poking holes in your
condoms/diaphragm, or "accidentally"
forgetting your BC like some women tend to
do when they want a baby and their
husbands do not.
That being said, please don't sabotage
your protection for a baby - the trust
between you and your husband will be
destroyed if you turn to deception to have
a baby against his wishes.
I am in the same boat except that we have
been having unprotected sex for over a
year and nothing. I have had the complete
work up and everything is fine. My husband
refuses to go he said we are only 27 and
if we have kids we do and if we don't then
oh well. I don't know if I can have a live
with no kids............................
