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Q: 8 weeks pregnant - who is father ?
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lilyofthevalley
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. I thought I was further along (last periods were March 17 and April 5 both normal 5 days but my cycles are very irregular) but had an ultra-sound at the doctors' which said that I am 8 weeks along. The dr. said that puts conception on the 26 of April per the size of the fetus. This does not match with my periods unfortunately and leaves me devasted and confused. I had a miscarriage in Dec. '08 and a burst ovarian cyst in February along with a D&C. My cycles and body are very messed up I suppose. I am too embarassed to explain this to my dr and I know that the most accurate way to tell is a paternity test but I am not looking forward to the 8 months of frustration. Is it possible that the baby is on the "small size" and it is my ex's? Can anyone offer any practical and kind advice/info without judging me because I already feel like a bad person?
p.s. spoke to both of the men and they both are certain they don't want a child and I am trying to decide wether to do this alone or not.
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lilyofthevalley
New User
Thank you both for replying. I feel a bit more calm with the advice you both gave. I have been thinking a lot lately and contemplating my options. I have been very sick with the nausea constantly. I am actually thinking of raising my baby on my own as they both made it clear they prefer me to have an abortion which I am against. I indicated that I would be the one making the desicion as this is my body and clearing most of my responsibility. My mom was a single parent due to domestic violence and she did a wonderful job raising 3 kids and we all have good jobs and contribute to society and our communities. I definetely want to be married to my ex and live happily ever after raising our (?) child. That remains to be seen and is highly unlikely. I am scared but I know I am a stable and loving person who could provide beautifully for my child with or without a husband. I am sad that I have lost the "dream" of being married to the person that I love. Oddly enough I've already had one marriage proposal!! (Not someone that I would consider but it's giving me hope) 
I appreciate the option of adoption but it might just kill me to give away part of me so coldly. I will still keep it in mind. I am hoping things will work out for the best and I will work my hardest at staying positive!
I am actually thinking of raising my baby on my own as they both made it clear they prefer me to have an abortion which I am against. I indicated that I would be the one making the desicion as this is my body and clearing most of my responsibility. My mom was a single parent due to domestic violence and she did a wonderful job raising 3 kids and we all have good jobs and contribute to society and our communities. I definetely want to be married to my ex and live happily ever after raising our (?) child. That remains to be seen and is highly unlikely. I am scared but I know I am a stable and loving person who could provide beautifully for my child with or without a husband. I am sad that I have lost the "dream" of being married to the person that I love. Oddly enough I've already had one marriage proposal!! (Not someone that I would consider but it's giving me hope) I appreciate the option of adoption but it might just kill me to give away part of me so coldly. I will still keep it in mind. I am hoping things will work out for the best and I will work my hardest at staying positive!
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breck08
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lilyofthevalley
New User
I'm not sure. He doesn't exactly know in details but I told him that I was going to see other people. Wether or not he wanted to believe it I don't know. He says that I'm not like that (to see other people when I'm in love with him still) but I was trying to move on and get over him as he does not want to commit but doesn't want to let go. He seems a bit selfish. Or maybe he knows that it is a possibility that my baby isn't his and doesn't want me to be attached to another man. He is in the military and will be overseas for an unknown amount of time (more lies?). At any rate, it's a long emotional rollercoaster that I was almost off but now I'm still attached to. Thank you again for your replies and for listening to me!
Thank you again for your replies and for listening to me!
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breck08
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