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What is the age for intercourse? Posted: 05-16-08 09:06am


You all are so against abstinence; if then, anyone can have sex, what age is right? You couldn't very well so no to a ten year old, could you? That would be 'restricting.' If there really is something as a soul mate, can't you wait enough for them so that it's your first time? I am living without it!

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Posted: 05-16-08 09:09am


What does this have to do with abortion? We are not here to debate sexual behaviour.

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Re: What is the age for intercourse?
Posted: 05-16-08 12:14pm

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You all are so against abstinence; if then, anyone can have sex, what age is right? You couldn't very well so no to a ten year old, could you? That would be 'restricting.' If there really is something as a soul mate, can't you wait enough for them so that it's your first time? I am living without it!

Oh, yeah, we who are all so against abstinence encourage ten year olds to have sex. Because that's exactly what we mean when we discuss abstinence. Good job. Right on the money.

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Posted: 05-16-08 17:27pm


you didn't answer the question; when is the age that you would allow a girl to have sex? If you say yes to a 13 year old, who can tell a 12 year old they can't have it? And so on? And isn't that 'restricting' to the kids? My point is, with they message you guys have that abstinence is all weird, you can't tell anyone they can't have sex; even a young child.

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Posted: 05-16-08 18:07pm


Actually, you can tell someone they can't have sex. It's called the age of consent and it's a LAW. Beyond that, I don't think any of us can do anything about anyone having sex. And yes, abstinence is all weird, weird meaning it's not the norm, and most people don't practice it.

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Posted: 05-16-08 20:46pm

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you didn't answer the question; when is the age that you would allow a girl to have sex? If you say yes to a 13 year old, who can tell a 12 year old they can't have it? And so on? And isn't that 'restricting' to the kids?
My point is, with they message you guys have that abstinence is all weird, you can't tell anyone they can't have sex; even a young child.

You don't get an answer because your question is absurd.

The comments about abstinence are not about 10, 11, 12, or 13 year olds. They are about couples like the one I am part of: mature adults in a committed relationship who NEVER EVER want children.

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Re: What is the age for intercourse?
Posted: 05-16-08 20:55pm

jujujellybean wrote:

You all are so against abstinence;

I can't speak for everyone here, but I don't think anyone is necessarily "against" abstinence. Maybe they don't believe in it for themselves, but if someone else wants to practice abstinence, then I have no problem with it. It's just not for me. Smile

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if then, anyone can have sex, what age is right?

The age is "right" when a couple (or anyone) feels they are ready. It's not my place to say when I feel the right age to have sex is. Everybody is different.

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You couldn't very well so no to a ten year old, could you? That would be 'restricting.' If there really is something as a soul mate, can't you wait enough for them so that it's your first time?

I thought I found my soul mate when I was 18. We were together for 2 years before we had sex, and then he got into drugs, and we broke-up after 3 years together. He was my first, and I was his. Life isn't perfect, and it may take many tries to find a "soul mate". And I would NEVER marry a man I hadn't slept with first. Gotta make sure the chemistry is there Very
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I am living without it!

If you have no problems living without sex, then that is wonderful for you. But remember, just because you choose to be abstinent, doesn't mean that everybody else should.

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Re: What is the age for intercourse?
Posted: 05-16-08 22:36pm

lucy315 wrote:

jujujellybean wrote:

You all are so against abstinence;

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if then, anyone can have sex, what age is right?

The age is "right" when a couple (or anyone) feels they are ready. It's not my place to say when I feel the right age to have sex is. Everybody is different.

So, if a ten year old feels ready, you would agree it's ok?

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You couldn't very well so no to a ten year old, could you? That would be 'restricting.' If there really is something as a soul mate, can't you wait enough for them so that it's your first time?

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You have to have sex to know you love someone? Sex is basically love for you, isn't it?

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I am living without it!

If you have no problems living without sex, then that is wonderful for you. But remember, just because you choose to be abstinent, doesn't mean that everybody else should.

They should, though. Wouldn't that take care of unwanted pregnancies and those abortions you say are awful but can't be helped? What about STD's? There wouldn't be that now would there? I think it is a problem solver.

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Posted: 05-16-08 22:37pm

Birch wrote:

jujujellybean wrote:

Ok maybe this is my fault; I may have phrased it badly; sorry!
My question is: you all think everyone can have sex and no one can stop them: how can you tell a ten year old no then?

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Posted: 05-16-08 23:13pm

jujujellybean wrote:

Of course not. I am speaking of consenting adults.

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You have to have sex to know you love someone? Sex is basically love for you, isn't it?

Where in my post did I write that? And why would you say that sex is basically love to me? Your assumptions are very rude! Nowhere in my post was I rude or judgmental of you! Did you even read what I wrote? Why would I have waited two years to have sex with my boyfriend (many years ago) if I felt that love was only about sex? Do you think I ONLY have sex to feel loved?? Where would you even come up with that?

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Why do you feel that married couples shouldn't have sex? If I want one child, should I only have sex one time in my entire life? Do you see how ridiculous this sounds? Pregnancy and STDs can be prevented without abstinence.

Do you feel that sex is ok for older married couples who can't conceive anymore? What about a woman and man who can't have children? Should they be "allowed" to have sex?

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Posted: 05-17-08 00:11am

jujujellybean wrote:

Well what age would you recommend? And if you say "when they are married", then at what age are they allowed to get married?

Once married, you think people should STILL be abstinent if they don't want kids or have all of the kids they want, right?

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Re: What is the age for intercourse?
Posted: 05-17-08 00:19am

jujujellybean wrote:

You all are so against abstinence;

Can you post without lying?

jujujellybean wrote:

lucy315 wrote:

jujujellybean wrote:

You all are so against abstinence;

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if then, anyone can have sex, what age is right?

LIE

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You couldn't very well so no to a ten year old, could you? That would be 'restricting.' If there really is something as a soul mate, can't you wait enough for them so that it's your first time?

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You have to have sex to know you love someone? Sex is basically love for you, isn't it?

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I am living without it!

If you have no problems living without sex, then that is wonderful for you. But remember, just because you choose to be abstinent, doesn't mean that everybody else should.

They should, though.

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Wouldn't that take care of unwanted pregnancies and those abortions you say are awful but can't be helped? What about STD's? There wouldn't be that now would there? I think it is a problem solver.

lolz!

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Posted: 05-17-08 00:35am


I'm sorry, aochriss, you made me lolz too. Lucy, I agree, it wasn't polite to insinuate that sex equates love for you, you definately do not strike me as that kind of woman, but some jump to conclusions in the hopes that they are making a point. Believe me, no one else here in their right mind would think that of you.

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Posted: 05-17-08 01:14am

amino65 wrote:

Lucy, I agree, it wasn't polite to insinuate that sex equates love for you, you definately do not strike me as that kind of woman, but some jump to conclusions in the hopes that they are making a point. Believe me, no one else here in their right mind would think that of you.

Thank-you amino. Wink

I don't mind a pro-lifer arguing with me over my decision to abort, but someone trying to pass judgments about my love life is just flat out rude.

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Posted: 05-17-08 07:51am


Sorry; I didn't mean to put it so rudely; I was rushing to get off and didn't have time to explain myself. I apologize; I can honestly say I didn't mean it to come out that way! But when you say that you have to have sex with someone to make sure you have chemistry, that sounds like to make sure you really love someone you have to have sex.

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jujujellybean wrote:

Sorry; I didn't mean to put it so rudely; I was rushing to get off and didn't have time to explain myself. I apologize; I can honestly say I didn't mean it to come out that way!
But when you say that you have to have sex with someone to make sure you have chemistry, that sounds like to make sure you really love someone you have to have sex.

No, what she said is "I would NEVER marry a man I hadn't slept with first. Gotta make sure the chemistry is there ." Which I agree with completely!
Because no matter how much you love someone, if you are not compatible sexually then the idea of spending the rest of your life with them just boggles. And it is very possible to love someone but then discover that their approach to and interest in sex doesn't mesh with yours. I can give you details, if it would be helpful.

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Posted: 05-17-08 07:58am


juju, since you have never had sex, and by definition have never been in a truly intimate relationship with another person, you really have no idea what you are talking about.

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Posted: 05-17-08 08:19am


go on about that all you want; I have never had an abortion either does that mean I can't talk about it?

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Posted: 05-17-08 09:13am


Sex is a normal and healthy part of relationships and marriage. It's a way to physically share your intimacy and love, bring pleasure to your partner, and connect on a level that words cannot always reach. The suggestion that people should cut that out of their lives so willingly because YOU have a problem with it is absurd to me. I'm curious if you have resentful feelings towards sex. Do you think it's a dirty activity? Do you look down upon people who've had more than one sexual partner? Do you think women should not enjoy it or admit that they enjoy it? Do you feel it should only happen if and when a couple is ready to procreate? And why would you make the leap that, because we don't force abstinence on people, we support underage sex? 10 year olds having sex? Are you serious? I am a married woman with one daughter and another baby on the way. This baby, we've decided, will be our last. Will you really try to tell me that my sex life with my husband is over because we want to stop at 2 children? If abstinence is working for you, that's great. Nobody here is preaching at you that you need to go out there and spread yourself around a bit and get a taste of life. So I think many of us would appreciate it if you didn't chastise us for NOT practicing abstinence. Sex is a beautiful thing, and we're going to enjoy it. At least have the decency to respect that, even if you don't agree with it.

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Posted: 05-17-08 09:27am

jujujellybean wrote:

go on about that all you want; I have never had an abortion either does that mean I can't talk about it?

It is fine to have an opinion on something, but not fine to tell other people what opinion they should have.

I have never eaten a banana -- the smell is revolting to me, so I have no idea what it tastes like. I can't understand how anyone could possibly get a banana near enough to their face to eat it. But they do, and they seem to enjoy them. I would never tell someone that they shouldn't eat bananas.