greekjohn
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Location: Toronto, Ontario,
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Why am I not a catch for the ladies?
Posted: 02-29-08 23:52pm
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Honestly, I don't understand it.
I'm not really much of a catch for the
ladies. No one really sees me for
anything.
I guess its because I don't have the whole
Ambercrombie and Fitch good looks. But I
do find myself fairly good looking. Maybe
its my nose. I don't know.
I'm a nice guy, who will care for the
girl, who will make the girl feel like a
million bucks. I know how to treat a girl
and how not to. I can be the sweetest guy
and always be there for her. I would be
the one who would stick up for her when
others a picking on her.
But the ladies don't want me they seem to
want every one else but me.
Alot of them seem to fall for what I say,
but it only happens when others get the
girls adn they ask me what to say to them
or what to write in the card. They find
it sweet, what I write in the card when
friends ask.
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greekjohn
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Location: Toronto, Ontario,
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Fairy*Godmother
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Be patient
Posted: 03-03-08 19:39pm
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The right girl has not come along for you
yet. Too many people try to put the
influence on "LOOKS" and its really sad.
Beauty come from within. You said you were
a nice looking guy and could write the
"right words'....apparently the girl for
you is still out there. You may be trying
too hard. If you have a hobby or like to
do certain things, you might try looking
in that area. Join a club, volunteer
somewhere in your area and share yourself.
You sound like a wonderful youngman with
good standards.....just wait and
see.....too many PLAYAS out there. There
are lots of girls looking for a guy like
you! Hugs!
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greekjohn
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Posted: 03-03-08 19:57pm
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Well I think I am an nice looking guy, I
can also see what some girls may see as
ugly. My aunt and cousin say I look like
this greek singer, and I can see it.
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unnamedny
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Posted: 03-05-08 20:40pm
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"But the ladies don't want me they seem to
want every one else but me. "
I'll give you my personal advice on what
girls are looking for.
Be yourself. Don't try to be someone
else.
Be honest. If you lie at the beginning and
she catches you... It's not a good thing.
Trust, he has to be able to trust you.
(and vise versa) Girls always go for the
guys who they can trust.
Be interesting, always have a topic to
talk about with the girl.
Ask older girls if they really care about
the guy's looks most of the girls don't.
If you have not found a girl for yourself,
don't give up, she is out there I know
that for sure =)
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luvva
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belive in urself
Posted: 03-20-08 01:09am
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hey there i think u sound sweet and caring
u must belive in urself how is anyone else
goin to love u if u dont love urself that
is wat my mothere used to tell me and its
true beauty is not wat u look like beauty
is so much deeper and u want someone to
love u for ur iner beauty cause looks fade
and ur body starts to look saggy no matter
what ur body is like now its the inner
beauty that will win all the time and im
suer u have so much goin for u so best of
luck and go on do urself a favour and
belive xxxx
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luvva
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belive in urself
Posted: 03-20-08 01:09am
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hey there i think u sound sweet and caring
u must belive in urself how is anyone else
goin to love u if u dont love urself that
is wat my mothere used to tell me and its
true beauty is not wat u look like beauty
is so much deeper and u want someone to
love u for ur iner beauty cause looks fade
and ur body starts to look saggy no matter
what ur body is like now its the inner
beauty that will win all the time and im
suer u have so much goin for u so best of
luck and go on do urself a favour and
belive xxxx
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greekjohn
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Location: Toronto, Ontario,
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Posted: 04-16-08 23:01pm
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Yeah but where am I going to get his inner
beauty? If the ladies don't like whats on
the outside then they don't want to get to
know the inner beauty.
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-16-08 23:09pm
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thats not always true, i did not date my
boyfriend for his looks, i dated him for
his personality, there are girls like me
out there. some will see the inner beauty
and not even care what you look like on
the outside. The inner beauty comes with
confidence.
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greekjohn
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Location: Toronto, Ontario,
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Posted: 04-24-08 22:54pm
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I don't think I want to go with a dating
service. I don't have a credit card. So
I guess thats out of the option.
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kerryn
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Posted: 04-25-08 05:30am
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im on a site called nzdating.com, its
really good because it doesnt cost, and
you dont have to put ur pic on, there are
heaps of people on there and most of them
say exactly what they mean. its a good way
to meet new friends and even find a gf. if
i were you id honestly give it a go.
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greekjohn
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Posted: 04-25-08 22:32pm
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How is that site working out for you?
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Sallylove
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The other half of you are waiting for you
Posted: 05-01-08 22:31pm
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Never mind about this. The other half of
you are waiting for you. You said you
don't want to go with a dating service,
but i don't think so. I'm in an
relationship now, we met at blackwhitemeet
dot com. I think you will have more
chances if you can change your ideas.
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greekjohn
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Location: Toronto, Ontario,
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Posted: 05-02-08 23:51pm
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I really do not want to use any form of
dating service. I want to meet a girl the
traditional way. However, just cause I am
showing some interest in it does not mean
I am intersted in using the service. I am
just curious if it does actually work and
how it is working for one who is using the
service.
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Truth_serum
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Location: Oxon Hill , MD
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Posted: 05-15-08 09:47am
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You never want to attract the wrong type
of person. Don't be needy or anxious,
ready to pounce on any given situation.
The right person will be sent to you
within time. Never change who you are to
please other people. Be you, if that's not
attractive enough feed them beans.
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Truth_serum
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Posted: 05-15-08 10:00am
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You never want to attract the wrong type
of person. Don't be needy or anxious,
ready to pounce on any given situation.
The right person will be sent to you
within time. Never change who you are to
please other people. Be you, if that's not
attractive enough feed them beans.
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greekjohn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Dec 2006
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Location: Toronto, Ontario,
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Posted: 05-25-08 00:04am
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You know tonight I got injured at work.
It took an injury to get the hottest girl
at work to talk to me, to see if I am
alright.
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emailus
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Posted: 05-28-08 10:19am
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Dear GJ:
My best advice to you
is try to avoid looking at yourself or
looking at others
in general terms, where you group all
"ladies" together
or you group yourself or compare yourself
with other "men."
This causes more misery and confusion
than
anything else I know. Racism and bigotry
is based
on this same habit of lumping people
together in groups.
The sooner you start seeing and respecting
yourself as
an individual, and see other people that
way regardless of
gender or race etc. (that is part of our
identity but cannot
be the overriding factor or else we make
class judgments),
then you will see the beauty in yourself
and others, flaws and all!
Everyone has unique strengths and
weaknesses. In truth your
worst weakness can be your strength, and
vice versa. Sometimes
even our strengths work against us. So you
cannot judge yourself
or others this way.
MOre later
thanks, Emily
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Mikolas
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Posted: 06-13-08 13:05pm
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All in all, what everybody is trying to
say is.
You need CONFIDENCE.
Women are attracted to confidence, not
confusion.
There is a fine line between confidence,
and cocky jerk. Only difference between a
cocky jerk and a confident man, is that
the cocky jerk had too much experience
being confident and decided to exploit his
experiences.
As for greekjohn, maybe you should get
hurt more often =P. Lose a finger or
something. It does suck though huh, when
they never seem to notice you.
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GreyWolf
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Posted: 06-18-08 18:51pm
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Don't worry GJ!
I was always wondering why boys never
looked at me. I always felt that guys
never looked at me. I was always comparing
myself with other people and that just
hurts because you are always thinking
"What do THEY have that I don't?" But to
be honest now I don't care about other
people.
My advice is NEVER compare yourself to
anyone. Be confident and happy with who
you are and don't change for anyone.
Also maybe you are trying too hard! Try
going out without the intention of looking
for anyone, because quite often it will
happen when you least expect it and often
this will be when you are NOT looking.
Just go out and have fun and enjoy
yourself without thinking too much about
girls and it could be that you will find
it will happen out of the blue!
It depends also on where you look for
girls. Clubs can work for potential dates,
but remember that a lot of times at clubs
people just get drunk and aren't really
aware of what they are doing, which can
just lead to heartache.
Chin up and good luck!
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