Wife just told me of small penis Posted: 03-28-08 18:00pm
i need some advice, fast! My wife, who i
have been with for the past six years has
just told me of her opinion of my penis,
she has told me that it is too small. she
has also said that we can work through
this, but it is hard for me to comprehend
ever feeling good about myself sexually
around her. (BIG PROBLEM). does any one
have any advice for me, how can i work
through this? I don't want to leave this
marriage, but i can not think having the
rest of my life with this looming over me.
how does one come back from such a knock
down?
G
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 03-28-08 18:28pm
That is extremely rude of her to say that.
If she is shallow enough to care about
the size of your penis, maybe she is not
the girl for you. Size should not matter;
it's how you are able to use it that
matters. I actually prefer ones on the
smaller side because larger ones hurt. I
would talk to her about how you feel about
her saying that to you. See if you can
work through it with her, but if she keeps
on knocking you down like that I would
re-evaluate if you want to be with her. I
am sorry to hear that she said that to
you. Good luck!
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 03-29-08 16:28pm
That really must hurt. I wish I could tell
you that this is something you are going
to be able to just lay by the road and
leave it there. This will probably impact
your sex life for awhile. The remidy? I
really do not know what to tell you. That
was a statement that is almost as bad as a
woman being raped and trying to have a
decent relationship afterward. The road
ahead could be a little rocky for both of
you. If you really love each other, it
will work itself out. I will say this
much, I know what is on your mind. You are
now afraid that she is going to start
cheating on you. Am I right?
*Carrie
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IMCONCERNED
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Posted: 03-30-08 09:11am
Ladies, if you plan on keeping your man
and you really care about him then never,
ever complain or joke about his penis
being small. It will destroy his
confidence in bed and will cause him
concern that you may look elsewhere to get
what he can‘t give you. Additionally, we
don’t want to hear how you previous
lover was too big.
Men, same goes for us. I have heard men
opening complain about their woman being
loose and it is as painful to them as the
penis joke is to us.
Bottom line, respect each other and never
do or say anything to degrade your
significant other…especially in front of
others.
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mominashoe
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Posted: 03-30-08 10:00am
I'm wondering if she meant literally or
figuratively...just a thought.
Anyway, size doesn't matter. If people
didn't talk about it so much and overrate
it so much, and compare each other... it
would be a lot easier on humanity.
I will tell you right now that that is
part of the problem in the world here: if
men would be faithful to one person (and
women too for that matter), and be a
little more modest, and stop making their
endowments objects of attention, women
wouldn't even know the difference because
the one they get is the only one they
should see. It not something guys need to
compare and talk about and they need to
cover it up: they aren't called privates
for nothing.
Don't let your wife bring you down. It's
funny, because I was just reading about
this the other day, a very good article
really, that you can even show your
wife....something I never read about but
happened to run across when I was looking
up skin cancer of all things. This still
doesn't relieve your wife of the insult
she gave you, but have a look, and cheer
up
its very common thing there is lots of
person in this world who is phasing same
problem like you.So i will suggest you go
for operation or therapy then u will be
fine.
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Yolita
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Posted: 05-07-08 17:13pm
I understand exactly what you are going
through GWest,because my husband used to
drink quite heavily in his younger
years,and I remember on time in
particular,I have always been on the
heavier size (about a sz.1 and I remember my
husband being really drunk and telling me
how fat I was and how having sex with me
discusted him and made him want to puke
because looking at my naked body made him
sick.It took me A LONG time to get over
that!! I refused to have sex with him,and
if I did give in it was never with the
lights on and I always had a cover up to
my chin!! My husband has since quit
drinking( it's been about 4 yrs.) and he
has apologized profusely,and I tell him, I
do forgive him but it is something that is
always going to be there it's something
that I can't forget.And he understands
this, and I know that he is a COMPLETELY
different person now that he doesn't drink
and he is a wonderful husband now and a
wonderful father. I still don't like sex
without covers,and the lights still have
to be out,because I think that my self
confidence was forever ruined with that
comment. I can't say that yours won't be
either,but all I'm saying is this,talk to
your wife and let her know how badly this
comment hurt you,she may not even know
that it bothered you.After all guys are
supposed to be tough right, they're not
supposed to have or express any feelings
right? WRONG!! You just need to let her
know that you do have feelings and ask her
how she would like it if the shoe were on
the other foot and you made comments about
something that would ruin her self
confidence or self image.Her comment was
just rude,just like my husbands comment,if
she HONESTLY feels bad for what she has
said then I think you should try to
forgive her as much as you can and move on
with your marriage. Like I said since my
husband has stopped drinking and sincerely
apologized for his comment,we have had the
best 5 years of our marriage and they are
only getting better!! Let me know how
things go for you,I only wish you two the
best!!
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-08-08 09:38am
You know, maybe you could not look at it
so negatively, as hard as that may be. I
know it sounds so rude and hurtful but
maybe it really does bother her and she
wants to fix it. I think this is much
better than her cheating, yes? Therer
*are* things you could do to fix it if it
is a big problem.
And I don't care what anyone says, size
does matter. I've been with a small guy
before and it did nothing for me no matter
*how* he used it. I'm sure you and your
wife can work around this.
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meblonde01
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Posted: 05-13-08 06:52am
Willa Weintraub
wrote:
You know, maybe you could
not look at it so negatively, as hard as
that may be. I know it sounds so rude and
hurtful but maybe it really does bother
her and she wants to fix it. I think this
is much better than her cheating, yes?
Therer *are* things you could do to fix it
if it is a big problem.
And I don't care what anyone says, size
does matter. I've been with a small guy
before and it did nothing for me no matter
*how* he used it. I'm sure you and your
wife can work around
this.
Willa size might matter to you but it
doesn't to everyone. I have been with both
too and little was just as good. It
depends on the way it is used.. Then again
a women telling a man he is to small and
size matters, might want to think about
the fact that they are to large for the
size of the penis!
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meblonde01
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Re: Wife just told me of small penis Posted: 05-13-08 06:53am
GWest
wrote:
i need some advice, fast! My
wife, who i have been with for the past
six years has just told me of her opinion
of my penis, she has told me that it is
too small. she has also said that we can
work through this, but it is hard for me
to comprehend ever feeling good about
myself sexually around her. (BIG PROBLEM).
does any one have any advice for me, how
can i work through this? I don't want to
leave this marriage, but i can not think
having the rest of my life with this
looming over me. how does one come back
from such a knock down?
G
Maybe you are not to small, she is just to
big!
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-13-08 08:18am
meblonde01
wrote:
Willa Weintraub
wrote:
You know, maybe you could
not look at it so negatively, as hard as
that may be. I know it sounds so rude and
hurtful but maybe it really does bother
her and she wants to fix it. I think this
is much better than her cheating, yes?
Therer *are* things you could do to fix it
if it is a big problem.
And I don't care what anyone says, size
does matter. I've been with a small guy
before and it did nothing for me no matter
*how* he used it. I'm sure you and your
wife can work around
this.
Willa size might matter to you but it
doesn't to everyone. I have been with both
too and little was just as good. It
depends on the way it is used.. Then again
a women telling a man he is to small and
size matters, might want to think about
the fact that they are to large for the
size of the penis!
meblonde, It does matter
to some women. My vagina is not too large.
I know this because i've never had a
problem until him. The problem being his
penis was small. It didn't even matter how
he moved, it still did nothing.
and I remember my
husband being really drunk and telling me
how fat I was and how having sex with me
discusted him and made him want to puke
because looking at my naked body made him
sick.It took me A LONG time to get over
that!! I refused to have sex with him,and
if I did give in it was never with the
lights on and I always had a cover up to
my chin!! My husband has since quit
drinking( it's been about 4 yrs.) and he
has apologized profusely,and I tell him, I
do forgive him but it is something that is
always going to be there it's something
that I can't forget.And he understands
this, and I know that he is a COMPLETELY
different person now that he doesn't drink
and he is a wonderful husband now and a
wonderful father. I still don't like sex
without covers,and the lights still have
to be out,because I think that my self
confidence was forever ruined with that
comment. I can't say that yours won't be
either,but all I'm saying is this,talk to
your wife and let her know how badly this
comment hurt you,she may not even know
that it bothered you.After all guys are
supposed to be tough right, they're not
supposed to have or express any feelings
right? WRONG!! You just need to let her
know that you do have feelings and ask her
how she would like it if the shoe were on
the other foot and you made comments about
something that would ruin her self
confidence or self image.Her comment was
just rude,just like my husbands comment,if
she HONESTLY feels bad for what she has
said then I think you should try to
forgive her as much as you can and move on
with your marriage. Like I said since my
husband has stopped drinking and sincerely
apologized for his comment,we have had the
best 5 years of our marriage and they are
only getting better!! Let me know how
things go for you,I only wish you two the
best!!
