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Woman has seven abortions and says no regrets
Posted: 07-15-08 07:56am
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Gu£st
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Posted: 07-15-08 08:20am
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I havent read the link, just the title of
this thread, but i believe i can offer an
opinion just based on that. Denial is
often a way for someone to try to live
with the emotional pain of abortion. Once
she accepts her wrong doing all she will
be left with is pain, emptyness perhaps
even clinical depression, at least by
denying her regret she can try to reassure
herself "it was for the best" she may not
admit it but she will probably already be
dealing with the pain of abortion, her
self reassurance of "it was for the best"
is her last refuge from complete collapse.
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Moo
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Posted: 07-15-08 09:11am
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I know several women who have had multiple
abortions, it's their choice.
It doesn't mean she was being
irresponsible, some people are just
fertile and different contraceptive
methods fail. I've had two unplanned
pregnancies - had I not miscarried the
first I would have aborted more than once
(I was in the process of making an
appointment as it happens) - not because
I'd been irresponsible but because my
birth control had failed (different
methods incidentally).
I may not like it but it's not my
place to judge her, only she really knows
how she felt/feels about each pregnancy.
| Gu£st
wrote: | | Denial is often a way for
someone to try to live with the emotional
pain of abortion. Once she accepts her
wrong doing all she will be left with is
pain |
Do you really believe all women "deny the
emotional pain" after an abortion? Not
true.
And maybe the abortions weren't 'wrong'
for her so there may well be no wrong
doing to accept. 
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Posted: 07-15-08 10:24am
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I know several people who have had
multiple children, and claim not to regret
it. I don't believe them -- they look old,
haggard and miserable. Not to mention
poor. And their kids are pretty useless as
human beings. But it's not acceptable to
voice regret about having kids, so they
pretend like their lives are not devoid of
all enjoyment.
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Posted: 07-15-08 12:58pm
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Plenty of women have multiple abortions
without regret. I do not feel that
abortion is wrong, so I do not regret my
abortions.
Whether you have 1 or 7, if you do not
feel that abortion is wrong, you are not
going to have regrets. If you made the
choices on your own free will, without
coersion or force, you are not going to
have regrets.
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Posted: 07-15-08 13:47pm
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Didn't read the post- just shows to me she
made the right CHOICE for herself.
I don't know how many women can do that
but she's doin fine for herself. 
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aochriss
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Posted: 07-15-08 13:57pm
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Until a woman has more than 9 abortions,
nature still has her beat. Nature aborts
9 zefs for every one successful birth.
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aochriss
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Posted: 07-15-08 14:00pm
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| Gu£st
wrote: | | I havent read the link, just
the title of this thread, but i believe i
can offer an opinion just based on that.
Denial is often a way for someone to try
to live with the emotional pain of
abortion. Once she accepts her wrong doing
all she will be left with is pain,
emptyness perhaps even clinical
depression, at least by denying her regret
she can try to reassure herself "it was
for the best" she may not admit it but she
will probably already be dealing with the
pain of abortion, her self reassurance of
"it was for the best" is her last refuge
from complete
collapse. |
Well then every woman on the planet who
has had sex should feel the same way,
since they all have had multiple abortions
caused by nature, their own actions, the
environment, etc., etc.
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Posted: 07-15-08 14:55pm
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| Gu£st
wrote: | | I havent read the link, just
the title of this thread, but i believe i
can offer an opinion just based on that.
Denial is often a way for someone to try
to live with the emotional pain of
abortion. Once she accepts her wrong doing
all she will be left with is pain,
emptyness perhaps even clinical
depression, at least by denying her regret
she can try to reassure herself "it was
for the best" she may not admit it but she
will probably already be dealing with the
pain of abortion, her self reassurance of
"it was for the best" is her last refuge
from complete
collapse. |
Of course. If she doesn't feel pain, she
must be in denial.
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Posted: 07-15-08 15:12pm
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Seems a little odd to me that you can be
that unlucky 7 times
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Posted: 07-16-08 05:44am
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| Dannzibelle
wrote: | | Seems a little odd to me
that you can be that unlucky 7
times |
I'm guessing 8 since she almost aborted
her son but over the years I guess it's
possible to have many unwanted pregnancies
(wouls people be critical if she'd
continued them all??). She says she used
contraception properly, only she knows how
true that is but regardless her life, her
decisions
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Posted: 07-16-08 07:29am
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There are so many things in this world
that are our free decision but it sure
doesn't make it right. Law or no law I can
think of many!
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aochriss
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Posted: 07-16-08 08:16am
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| meblonde01
wrote: | | There are so many things in
this world that are our free decision but
it sure doesn't make it right. Law or no
law I can think of
many! |
As long as they remain our free decision,
you can disagree to your heart's content.
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meblonde01
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Posted: 07-16-08 08:18am
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| aochriss
wrote: | | meblonde01
wrote: | | There are so many things in
this world that are our free decision but
it sure doesn't make it right. Law or no
law I can think of
many! |
As long as they remain our free decision,
you can disagree to your heart's
content. |
yup, and that's a good thing!
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Posted: 07-16-08 16:19pm
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Agreed!
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Posted: 07-17-08 07:03am
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If she knew she can get pregnant so easy
then she should have not been having so
much sex until her situation was "perfect"
according to her. What a sad life the one
of this woman. 39 and living on shame..At
least she says now she wouldn't have any
more abortions.
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Posted: 07-17-08 07:15am
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| nightangel73
wrote: | | If she knew she can get
pregnant so easy then she should have not
been having so much sex until her
situation was "perfect" according to her.
What a sad life the one of this woman. 39
and living on shame..At least she says now
she wouldn't have any more
abortions. |
yeah, to bad she didn't say that after the
first one.. if she felt so bad.
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Posted: 07-17-08 07:55am
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| nightangel73
wrote: | | If she knew she can get
pregnant so easy then she should have not
been having so much sex until her
situation was "perfect" according to
her. |
Define "so much sex". 
And why should she not be having it? I do
think there may have been some form of
contraception she may not have tried which
would have saved her going through so many
abortions but many women don't wish to
conceive, ever, it doesn't mean they
should be judged for having sex!
The fact is this woman having seven
abortions has not affected any of us, if
she feels shame but no regret then maybe
that is to do with societies perception of
women who have unplanned
pregnancies/abortions and less with her
own feelings towards it. Who knows
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Posted: 07-17-08 07:56am
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| meblonde01
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yeah, to bad she didn't say that after the
first one.. if she felt so
bad. |
Perhaps she felt fine after her first
abortion and therefore felt no need to say
she wouldn't have another. We can't
predict the future after all 
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Posted: 07-17-08 08:36am
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| meblonde01
wrote: | | nightangel73
wrote: | | If she knew she can get
pregnant so easy then she should have not
been having so much sex until her
situation was "perfect" according to her.
What a sad life the one of this woman. 39
and living on shame..At least she says now
she wouldn't have any more
abortions. |
yeah, to bad she didn't say that after the
first one.. if she felt so
bad. |
meblonde and nightangel,
All women should live in shame, then,
because even having sex in order to
procreate causes abortions, just as many
if not more than the woman in the story
who had 7.
The end result of having sex to make a
child and having sex for pleasure is still
dead fertilized eggs and embryos. Do you
two feel shame over the abortions you've
caused?
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