hi, i am involved in a youth organisation
that i believe in. first aid.
i am homeschooling 4 children,and have
been a leader for the last 2.9 years. I
take all the youth kids to competitions,
camps etc. we get on so well and often i
do this without any support.
my issue is that i seriously need advice.
my manager(no pay) is a difficult women,
and feels status is extreemly important
and being more important so you have the
right to stand on people to elevate
oneself.
the way i see it, we are here to serve the
kids. we each have our roles,
we are both teaching these children with
varying levels of expertise. my career in
this field has been years longer than
her, she is younger than me.
she often will put me down, talk about me
to strangers in front of my children. tear
down my children and the children which
she is responsible for.
we are supposed to recive reimbursements
for certain fuel costs, ive been waiting
for 9 months. the rest of the trips i
personally pay for and often paying for
childrens meals.
i this week have put through an email
asking for hierachy at a bigger centre to
please sort it out as 9 months i feel ive
been patient. my anxiety is building as i
know she is going to get angry that ive
asked.
i dont trust her, she lies to me and to
the children while blaming ohters for
their disorganisation.
-uniforms she was acusing the admin for
not sending uniforms for hte kids, 5
months later she actually ordered them.
discusting as she had told the children
over and over that they are just slack.
she will not teach the children
effectively as she has a fear that they
will do well, i have challenged her to
why she is there, and she has said she
doesnt have any care for the children. i
wanted for us to go in the christmas
parade representing our division, she said
oh no, the very next weekend she went to
anohter town and represented on her own.i
just felt like crying for these kids.i was
prepared to do all the work, jsut needed
her tick.
i personally believe she is scared to
loose the status especially to me.
she does treat me badly and will often
refer to me as "just-the ?? leader" she
got very angry once as the children were
practicing drill, someone suggest they
salute me, she got so angry and yelled at
them you never salute the ? leader.
i laughed as this was in front of all the
parents. she got me a uniform 2 years
later which was so big it just falls off.
recently she called me an hour before
start of youth night wanting me to take
all the children, i said no as i had been
up allnight and 2hours sleep due to a
migrane. well she was angry. she had given
me no reason why.
she was fine. she came back the next week,
gloating to myself and a parent that she
met staff put on the tears so they felt
sorry for her and bought her furniture.
wow. i was just thinkign character here.
a new leader has started yay. in the first
week she loaded her up with resources, and
hid in the office feeding her lollies.
there was a time where i was welcome as
long as i would listen to her
complaining.i choose not to goto leader
weekends as i do not feel safe with her,
she sees me as her slave.
no im there to serve the kids, i offer her
support when needed. but i dont feel it is
appropriate to be on the end of her
degrading comments.
she has shared that her mum rejected her,
i feel she is jealous of me as i am
married and have children. she is single
and longs for these things. but through
her behaviour i feel she is pushing
everyone away before they get to close.
how do i protect myself.if i were to leave
i feel the division would close, as im the
one putitng in the time for the kids and
their families.
