Okay, I have read over all the stickied
posts, and have looked over the internet
for quite some time, but i still feel i
need to ask about my situation.
I am 19 years old, male, and my girlfriend
and i have been discussing this a bit. I
am personally worried that she may be
pregnant, but she seems quite sure of the
opposite.
The circumstances are that last month, we
spend one night together, unclothed, but
we never had sex, simply touching. I
realize this alone makes it seem quite
unlikely, but a couple of weeks later she
had her period, a full week earlier than
regular (she has always been regular the
two years we have been together). It was
the proper length, but it didn't start out
normal, because she is usually in alot of
pain, and she bleeds alot, but this time,
no pain, little blood. The next two days
though, it picked up a bit, and looked
quite like how it normally looks on the
second and third days apparently.
This alone made me worry, but she
convinced me that it was okay, and that
she was sure it was normal. Anyways, now,
about 25 days later, these past three days
she has been a) sleeping alot, about 12
hours a night and b) been feeling really
nauseous once or twice each day, never
actually puking though.
Normally i would write this off as simply
ill or tired or something, but nothing has
come up in her life to make her tired like
that, and nothing has been bothering you,
and in reality, nothing has changed...
She should be getting her period in about
a week (32 day cycle), and although i have
talked to her about this and asked her to
go take an HPT she keeps saying no, sure
of herself that nothing is up.
We have not once had full intercourse, the
closest is simply manual or oral, but i
know that from the first of the two, if
you aren't careful, things may still
happen.
In general i know i am someone who usually
worries too much about things, but this is
something that i honestly can't just get
over in an instance. Any thoughts,
suggestions, or ideas as to what else it
could be would be greatly appreciated.
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Reptar
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Posted: 05-09-08 16:47pm
It's not likely that she's pregnant. Sperm
has to go inside the vagina for a girl to
get pregnant (which I'm sure you know).
Since you're really worried I suggest
buying pregnancy test for your girlfriend
and just getting her to take it. That's
the only thing that's really going to calm
your nerves. Otherwise I suggest getting
her on birth control for your peace of
mind. Really, that's about all I can tell
you.
Well, i know the circumstances of how
women become pregnant. I know the odds are
astronomically small, because even if
sperm was on my hand when i touched her,
the fact of the matter is, its super
unlikely... i guess its just because there
doesn't seem to be any cause for
everything that has happened. I know its
probably just my mind playing around with
what happened, and in reality all her
symptoms have nothing to do with that, but
its just in my nature to worry about these
things.
Thanks for the advice... I will wait for a
few more days, as she still refuses to
take an HPT, so I will simply wait and
see.
On a side note, its now the fourth day she
has slept quite a bit, (about 11 hours
last night) but I'm not sure if she felt
nauseous today as I haven't had much of a
chance to talk to her. If anything occurs
I will come back and post about it.
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Ingi
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Posted: 05-10-08 12:39pm
It sounds to me like she had her period
after your 'incident'.
Since you are a guy, let me fill you in on
a few things, our periods are never the
same from month to month to month to
month. They are different. They are
generally the same. But not always.
32 days isn't an average cycle either. A
lot of women have a cycle that is a lot
less than that. Although a lot of women
also have longer cycles.
What I'm saying is that you are reading
too much into this. Know what else causes
pregnancy symptoms? PMS HORMONES. I know.
What kind of cruel, unusual trick was
mother nature coming up with to give us
pregnancy symptoms and pre-mentrual
symptoms that are the same? So are we
starting our period or are we pregnant?
Your girlfriend is not pregnant. You are
worrying her to death. Stop. Relax. Get
some condoms and use them the next time.
Sexual activities are way more fun if you
don't worry yourself sick for two months!
Use birth control.
I have/had an idea of how PMS works and
all that... and I know the symptoms match
to a great degree. It's rather
frustrating! I know that as long
as I have known her she hasn't had (at
least not that she has told me or that I
noticed) PMS symptoms or anything, but
then again, I do realize that oversleeping
can be caused by anything, and so is
nausea.
I'll make sure to come back when all this
is cleared up to provide my humble apology
for my foolish blunder of a worry.
Right now, I am just trying to keep my
mind off of it, and just wait for what I
am quite sure now will inevitably happen.
I think I have been really bugging my
girlfriend too much about it
Thank you again for your replies, and as I
said, I will return with news once I have
some and the childish
shame that comes with it
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Posted: 05-12-08 11:53am
There is no need to be ashamed or feel
foolish for worrying over pregnancy.
Everyone has done it at one time or
another. In your circumstances it is going
to be very unlikely. VERY unlikely.
Good luck.
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Posted: 05-12-08 14:54pm
Simply put she cant keep refusing to take
one, you two need to test and get answers
now so you can take action now!
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Posted: 05-23-08 21:04pm
Sorry to take so long to finally come
back, but things have gotten weirder
still. Okay, we decided to finally take a
HPT when yesterday, when she was finally 6
days late. We were both really worried,
but it came back negative. This is really
weird. She is still feeling tired all the
time it seems, perhaps a bit less than
before, making it now nearly three weeks
that she has been feeling fatigued like
this. Also, she is still feeling nauseas
sometimes, not every day though. Only
every once in a while, like every two or
three days. At this point we don't know
whats going on. Could it be that she has
just randomly missed her period for other
reasons? I have heard that its possible,
but I always thought it was superbly rare.
Some advice would be greatly appreciated
at the moment. Thank you in advance to any
help provided.
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Posted: 05-23-08 21:27pm
Stress causes women to miss their
periods/delay them. The more you stress
out about it, the longer it may take to
come! She is 99.999999% not pregnant.
You did not have sex, or even come close
to it for that matter. Since the HPT is
negative, I would go by that. They are
accurate 14 days after the sexual act and
it has been much longer than that.
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Posted: 05-23-08 21:35pm
Teenage girls rarely have normal cycles.
It is not superbly rare for them to be
late on their periods.
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Posted: 05-23-08 23:21pm
She should go to the doctor to find out
what is wrong, i.e. why is she so tired,
why is she nauseous, what is wrong with
her period, etc, etc.
I hope everything is ok.
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Posted: 05-25-08 21:40pm
Well, with a few more days, it seems that
her period still has not come. From past
experience, I remember she mentioned that
once, a couple years back, she missed her
period once without any real reason. I'm
wondering if by some freakishly evil
coincidence the same thing happened again.
Also, a quick question about HPT's. We
used first response, it came back negative
as said, but she took the test in the
afternoon (about 3 o'clock). I know it is
recommended to take it in the morning, but
I'm wondering if it would really make that
much of a difference. I know why morning
is better, just curious if its that much
more effective.
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Posted: 05-26-08 05:09am
It does make a HUGE difference, especially
in very early pregnancy. There is a much
larger concentration of pregnancy hormones
in the first urine of the morning after a
full night's sleep, thus making it easier
to detect by the HPT.
REDO the test accurately. Good luck.
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Posted: 05-26-08 06:47am
Okay, having read the last post, my
partner has come up with another question
concerning HPT's. Apparently the package
itself said to urinate for only 5 seconds,
no more. What does this mean if you
urinated more than that. She says that she
just kept hold of it the whole time she
was in the washroom, and that it was quite
more than 5 seconds. Closer to about 30. I
can't see why this could be a bad thing,
but looking back on the instructions they
seemed to be pressing the matter. Could
there be a reason to this. Does anyone
have the explanation for why 5 seconds, no
more no less? Sorry for the slightly
sillier question.
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Posted: 05-26-08 08:16am
What difference does it make? Why not
just follow the directions exactly?
Here's an answer I found:
23. Can using too much or too little pee
affect the results? Sometimes, yes. Too
little urine and the test simply won't
work-- the control line will not appear,
because there will not be enough moisture
to trigger the chemical reaction. Too much
pee and you run the risk of
over-saturating the test-- in which case
the control line will wash away. (See the
importance of control lines now? It is impossible to
trigger a false positive simply by using
too much or too little pee.
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Posted: 05-26-08 10:37am
If she's having trouble knowing how long
to pee on the stick, she could pee into a
cup instead and then hold the stick in the
cup for... umm... I think it's 15 seconds?
20? The directions will tell you.
I know that as long
as I have known her she hasn't had (at
least not that she has told me or that I
noticed) PMS symptoms or anything, but
then again, I do realize that oversleeping
can be caused by anything, and so is
nausea.
and the childish
shame that comes with it 
